Cocky vs. Arrogant
SEATTLE: Welcome to the Den of Cocksmen ladies and gentleman. Today, Right Coast Lex Steele and I will be taking over the blog to cover a very pressing topic – cockiness. Please bare in mind, this post is coming from two young men that have dubbed themselves “Six Foot Sexy” and “The Pum Pum Conqueror” respectively. However, we did not just wake up one morning and give ourselves said titles. In my case, I happen to be six foot and some change and I’ve been told on numerous occasions that I’m sexy. See, it works. In addition, I am sure Right Coast here could give you his resume, upon request, to back up his alias as well. We have both quantitative and qualitative facts. And that, my friends, is the essence of cockiness – it is not that I just feel like I am the shit, I know I am because of evident facts. Mr. Steele?
RIGHT COAST LEX STEELE: Resume is always available upon request at lex@cocksmen.org, but I could probably show you better than I could tell you. I think the only thing better than being an arrogant bastard is having friends that are just as ignorant and shallow confident in their abilities as you are and can help facilitate the expansion of your ego. You’ve probably heard cocky people say something like “I’m not cocky, just confident.” And from the outside looking in, it may seem that this person is…well, ignorant and shallow. But when you’re the shit, it just so happens that you exude so much confidence that it seems to the rest of the world that you’re a self-centered and egotistical. I am a big fan of the book “The Alchemist”, which contains a line that goes something like “When you are great and you tell people of your greatness, they often don’t believe you.” I often feel that way. Thank God they outlawed crucifixions. We bring this to you from our Den today because we’d like to share our brand of cocky with you which is…well, better than yours, quite frankly.
SW: Two fingers in the sky for all my cocky brethren. RCLS is quite correct, our brand is better. It’s not cockiness, well actually it is, but it is also the truth. Listen, you’re Poland Springs, we’re San Pellegrino. You’re Ford, we’re Aston Martin. You’re Skyy, we’re Ketel One. We will be number one, because at the end of the day we push a better product. Take that innuendo as you will.
Which brings me to my next point, just because there’s one superior brand doesn’t mean there’s only one product. There are variations of cocky. You may just think all cocky people are the same, but you may have just encountered the In Your Face Cocksman. The blatant “I’m better than you, I know I’m better than you and I’ll tell you I’m better than you to your face because at the end of the day you too know I’m better than you” Cocksman. There’s also the Subtle Cocksman that just lets his aura speak for himself. I know I’m better than the rest, so I’m going to be dynamic, smile, give out some amazing conversation and do what I already know is true. You’ll see that I’m the best even if you’re blind. After all, you don’t have to have eyes to know the sun is there. Whew, did I just say that?
RCLS: Yeah, you did. Look, I’m clearly not Tyson Beckford, nor Boris Kudjo (however you spell his name), Morris Chesnut, or Denzel Washington. I’m not Shaq, Tiger, any of the famous Michaels, Puffy, Jay, or Ursher. I’m not even William Hung. (Well…my name isn’t William at least…) But I’ll tell you who I am though. I am RightCoastLexSteele aka Dark Diggla aka Your Girlfriend’s Guilty Pleasure aka Di Gyal Dem Sugah. (Can you tell I like AKA’s?) I don’t have a wicked jump shot, I’m not Six Foot Sexy, I can’t sing, dance or play a musical instrument. I don’t have a bunch of degrees, my daddy ain’t rich…shoot, I don’t even have good credit. But with all I don’t have and all that I’m not, I’m extremely confident in who I am and what I do have. And what I DO have is a “particular set of skils” that make me very dangerous. And that, Ladies and Gentlemen is the foundation of my larger than life ego. Nothing more, nothing less. I know, I know, I’m RightCoastLexSteele so you probably think I’m basing this solely on my self proclaimed breathtaking sexual prowess. Not so. It’s called working with what you got. It just so happens what I got ‘effin rocks. I just have “it”…what exactly that “it” is, I don’t know, but I have it, and I don’t need to see a doctor to make it go away. So if you meet someone like us, please be patient, as we are dealing with a lot of greatness over here.
SW: That’s it! The best of the best Cocksman know when to leave and to keep them wanting more. So with that, I’m placing the purple velvet cape on RCLS like he’s the James Brown and escorting him off stage. I’m throwing on my Polo robe and heading to my master suite to retire. This right here, ladies and gentleman, is the basis of cockiness. Yes. That. Just. Happened. I hope we’ve cleared up some misconceptions about cockiness and just made you more aware of your surroundings. We’d like to thank you for coming into the Den of Cocksman and encourage you to come back soon.
Seattle – You Say I’m Cocky As If There’s Something Wrong With That – Washington
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RightCoastLexSteele, …Not so much long as wide
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There’s nothing wrong with a man who feels good about himself, who’s confident. Cocky, though, is annoying. Too much cocky can spoil a good thing. *PAUSE*
No, really. It starts looking like poorly masked insecurity and it reeks of the classic “thou doth protest (proclaim) too much…” and I get turned off. Let the proof be in the pudding… Surprise me… Let me discover some wonderful, sexy, naughty things about you on my own without you having to inform/remind me of how great you think you are.
Question Seattle, Lex: How does your cockiness manifest in your dating approach? Are you a go-getter, or do you lay back in the cut and let her come to you?
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Seattle Washington Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 9:29 am
Well Niasmomma, it really depends on the lady and the situation. Sometimes women will approach me, which is great, and then I get to fall back. Other times I have to be more proactive because certain women like to be coy.
So, it all depends on how the woman in question is.
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 9:30 am
It depends on what the situation calls for. But mainly my approach manifests itself from the “Sublte Cocksman’s” playbook. I’m certainly not the “What’s your name, what’s your sign” cat. I just let things happen. Or sometimes you may have to sublty create a situation that could spark a convo. Or I could just send her over a glass of riesling. Now if it’s a group situation, I just play whatever my position needs to be. Usually my friends enjoy throwing me around like Thor’s hammer. I’d pause that, but if you aren’t familiar with Thor, then…sucks to be you.
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Cocksman Bka Anaconda Jones Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 12:22 pm
Thats a good question … for me, being Cocky makes me go for situation that are seemingly impossible …. seemingly
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“I’m not cocky, I’m just confident.” Me, I call these people conky
This was a funny post, good job. Funny that you mentioned the Alchemist (love it). See I think its a matter of thinking it and not saying it, that works. Ex: I had a friend who was just ok looking but she thought she was the bomb. I never saw her without a boyfriend, when we went out guys would always approach her. My guy friends couldn’t believe that she had no problem getting dates. I know it was because of the way she thought of herself because one day she just told me, “if you believe it, they will too.”
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Cocky men are s3xy, as long as they are cocky for the right reason and they are quietly cocky…
I’ve read the Alchemist also, but sadly, didn’t pull anything from it. Maybe I need to read it again.
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uhhh, i’d like to see some visual resumes.
it’s funny, cuz lately i’ve been getting the same thing. well, not that i’m cocky but definitely that i act as though everything with me is perfect. i don’t think i do but am definitely a strong believer that my great things outweigh my not-so-great things.
plus, i handle my bizness (take that as you want it… it’s meant in every way) and that definitely aids in my confidence.
however, i’m definitely lookin forward to some visual resumes comin my way!
*note to SW: SJ says i’m free to have smutty talk with you so it will go down… it will… lol*
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Reign Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 9:40 am
Second that on the visual resumes! lol
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 2:11 pm
Seattle, set it up.
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For me, cockiness is the quickest/easiest way that a man can “drop the ball” (shout out, Slim) and close the small window of opportunity he had with me. I don’t care if it’s supposedly supported by fact or not. If you’re great, I don’t need to know that you
knowthink you’re great. Allow me to explore that for myself. Perhaps I’ll think you’re greater than you’d like me to believe.Reply
RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 9:34 am
“Perhaps I’ll think you’re greater than you’d like me to believe.”
You will.
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MaPockets Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 11:30 am
I hear you, Nyela.
Cockiness, to me, is like wearing too much cologne. It’s like, damn…I smell you…ok? Now, go take a shower, rinse some of that off, come back, and try again. And DON’T put on anymore smell-good after that shower…it’s so strong now, that I’m sure we’ll still be able to get a good whiff of it afterwards.
REGARDS.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 11:49 am
Real Cockiness, like a fine cologne, is enough to subtly draw you in and keeps you enthralled when you’re up close and engaged. Please don’t get it confused with Arrogance which is a cheap, JCPenney’s knock off.
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hk boyshorts Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 12:22 pm
Would this pungent cologne be Sex Panther by any chance?
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Seattle Washington Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
“60% of the time, it works 100% of the time.”
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 1:34 pm
I dont wear cologne. I smell like money.
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Satya Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 1:42 pm
lol you’re a trip
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I just stumbled across this site not too long ago and I just wanna say ya’ll crack me up !!!. It’s o.k. to believe your own hype…’cause if you don’t no one else will. with that said…don’t go overboard..i’ve met some folks who thought they were “truth” but when unmasked were a “bald-faced lie”lol!!!
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 1:35 pm
Look at that. You already think we’re funny.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 2:54 pm
And it begins.
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I love cocky men but for some reason I feel like I just lost 5 min of my life *sigh*… no I’m just kidding or else I wouldn’t comment.
I guess I love the subtle “cocksman” more. My daddy also told me “we’re not conceited we’re convinced.” I’m definitely extremely confident, vain, conceited and convinced. I wouldn’t say cocky though. Confidence in yourself is a major turn on and being able to do you no matter what people think gets me… um yea
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Yea I’m definitely with my diva ladebelle on wanting to see some visual resumes lol
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Y’all are some fools for this post!
In college and a few years after, I was a cocky bitch. Awful. If you’re my FB friend, go to my old photo albums and see the conceited ass things I’d say about myself. SMH.
But as I got older and began to go through some things, I learned just how sexy it is when you let your attributes speak for themselves, so I’m definitely a fan of my brother, the subtle cocksman because he speaks my language fluidly. Do you and let the rest say itself.
I can’t front though. The In Your Face Cocksman is entertaining as hell. I just couldn’t entertain it on the daily.
Now, about these resumes….
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
What about them?
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HELL YEAH *ITCHES!!!
CALL ME COCKALITA!!!!!
If I don’t think I’m the shyt who will??????
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 2:18 pm
I will!
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(“Puts down the Kush, picks up the Jack”)
I’m not good-looking, i have no dough, I have none of what society covets … except I have that which is within me. Its not a secret, but its something i cannot describe accurately, for when i do, it seems to be boasting.
A Cocksman never Boast. I am hella Cocky, which to me is more then confident, but not Conceit.
A confident sees a girl, and says i can have that girl, and approaches. A Cocky man tells the WORLD he can have said girl, thus creating PRESSURE on himself to perform.
This pressure is what makes him a diamond, the willingness to go the extra mile. To handicap himself. Why? Not to prove to any particular person anything, but because the inner spirit of a Cocksman call for it.
more on this later ….. Seattle, Steele … i got my two fingers in the sky, and the stars r shining so eva bright.
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Pass that Kush…
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I too enjoy a cocky man (pause?). I am drawn to a man who is secure in his. Partly because its sexy in and of itself, but also because that means he won’t have issues with how I am handling mine. But don’t let me find out he can’t live up to the hype. He’ll get dropped like a bad habit. And clowned for being a fraud.
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Cocksman bka The Anaconda Jones Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 6:56 pm
I also LOVE a Cocky girl, not a confident girl …. I mean a Cocky damn near arrogant ass chick …. nothing better.
I had a girl approach me at the bar, buy me a drink, and then say I’ll be over there … see you in a second!
I don’t know what it was but, that seemed so magically …. later on I asked her what made her think that line would work. I assumed she was gonna say something like “Oh you know guys are all the same” or something like that
She told me (with Supreme Cocky G) well you looked like you had good taste in women, and I taste great.
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Vanessa aka Miss V Reply:
March 14th, 2009 at 10:39 pm
wow…. that chick gets 50 pts in my book. i think i’ll have to steal that…
what’s funny though… she prob uses that same line on every other dude she meets in the club.
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Cocksman Bka Anaconda Jones Reply:
March 16th, 2009 at 8:17 pm
I don’t spend time worrying about it … shit, if she does
A) She got game
B) She got more dough then i realized
C) Don’t all girls use the same lines on guys “Oh, i usually don’t …. “
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i’ve been called vain before but for some reason i think i’m more like the “subtle cocksman”. I’m quiet in my approach to most things in life but i have a confidence that doesn’t require words. i live by the quote “still waters run
verydeep”. people who have to talk about what they got or what they can do usually aren’t really talking bout shit. thats just my take on things. *shrugs shoulders*Reply
I’m late and I’m too lazy to read everyone comments. But I honestly in my heart of hearts that I am the best at whatever I do until proven otherwise. I think confident ppl go into a game against Kobe thinking they can win, cocky ppl are the ppl that get that arse whooped and then somehow still think they are better than Kobe.
Sidebar: I bumps with the “Taken” reference. That man was a one man recking crew.
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 3:00 pm
You peep how sure of himself he was? “I will find you, and I WILL kill you.”
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I like a man who is confident but not conceited. Sometimes there’s a thin line between the two. If he’s too cocky, I don’t know if I could handle his enormous ego–although I’m good at stroking the male ego.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 5:13 pm
“If he’s too cocky, I don’t know if I could handle his enormous ego–although I’m good at stroking the male ego.”
It’s taking every bit of energy in my athletic body to not turn your comment into something wild sexual…..wooooosaaahhhh.
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Shelia Reply:
March 12th, 2009 at 6:00 pm
“It’s taking every bit of energy in my athletic body to not turn your comment into something wild sexual…..wooooosaaahhhh.”
LOL Slim.
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I’d like to publicly compliment Seattle on an excellently written post. Good Job, sir.
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I’d too like to throw two fingers in the air and salute Mr. Steele on a beautifully composed post. Good job chief.
“Teamwork Makes The Dream Work”
(credit to my boy CR)
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I have been w/o net for a couple of days and am just catching up. I have on thing to say…..from this post alone I am in love w/ you both. Cocky/Confident/Arrogant men have always done it for me!
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RightCoastLexSteele, Se Habla Espanol Reply:
March 16th, 2009 at 9:16 am
We love you too, boo…
(Not be confused w/ my e-boo…mi luv yuh like cook food gyal!)
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Black & Trapped in Toronto Reply:
March 16th, 2009 at 9:23 am
bullet bullet!!
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RightCoastLexSteele, The Heartbreak Kid Reply:
March 16th, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Gunshot mean forward!
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yeah… i secretly like cocky boys too
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Great job fellas!
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