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  1. The Chi Advice (in all seriousness…o_O)

    1. Before you do ANYTHING, visit the Old Navy Preacher. Take a picture with him. And in the picture, pose with a limp wrist. You’ll know why I’m asking this when you encounter him.

    2. Know what the free newspapers are because mad folks will be trying to sell them to you.

    3. We’re cleaner than NYC. Fired shots? Naw, them ain’t even my words…

    4. Co-sign the NYC addition re: looking down while walking. But swap dog-ish for spit. There are some pro hawkers downtown that could give Preston Broadus a run for his moolah.

    5. Men: Hug Cheekie and allow her to pinch your arse.

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    DeSmiles Reply:

    YES! girl that spit can be everywhere. ugh. That OLD NAVY preacher is usually trippin’ lol.

    Definitely mean mug while on the train. A smile may or may not invite some idiot to come ask you for change, try to shoot his shot, or rob you.

    CTA: Chicago public transportation is pretty good, you can have a car if you’d like though.

    The Mexican corn man: He may or may not pop up in your neighborhood, but if he does! Make sure u get the corn w/everything (mayo, extra cayenne pepper, parmesan cheese). Sounds a lil interesting, but know that it’s fye(good as hell). Yeah, don’t try to make at home…

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    Lola Reply:

    LOL @ the mexican corn man… we have those here in abundance! Cool thing is I know how to make it too and its sooo good and good for you too!

    By the way we (as in messikans) can come up with the weird food concoctions and their so good!

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  2. L.Dejean

    About 8, I made the revelation today that when I’m alone and on the street, I DON’T smile! I don’t know why but I just don’t though it seems to keep people from approaching me which is what I want!

    Use hopstop.com when you don’t know where you are going. It really can be a lifesaver, at times!

    Keep your metrocard stocked up so you don’t get stuck in a place where there is no machine or that isn’t accepting cards or cash at the moment!

    Make sure you stand in front of the crowd or close to it so that you can get in…I pull the #shortandsmallpersonswindle every time and it works for me!

    If you get lost, it’s probably better to go into a corner store & ask for directions. Sometimes, folks on the street will lead you astray.

    I think that’s all I got! Good post! Glad you are enjoying being here!

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  3. Lola

    Ooooh! ok so to sum it up:

    Stay away from large group of people, bum rush to the train, kick off an old lady from the seat, check pockets, make sure not to step on doo-doo, not to recline on Slims car #seewhatididthere if i want to have a good hair day, mean mug a whole lot, and never move in during the day.

    Over here, in P-hoe-nix, hmmmm…. ok

    - make sure you carry your papers (LMAO!)
    - never drive in a car with leather seats – unless you want to have 3rd degree burns on your booty
    - never, ever, EVER wear black during triple digits days, which is from 11am to 7pm
    - did I say make sure you have your papers?
    - always have a water bottle with you
    - sun glasses, trust me
    - your papers
    - smile! we smile back!
    - and unless you don’t know how to drive aggressively do not get on the freeways
    - you gotta go to Sedona, its beautiful
    - stay close to downtown PHX or Scottsdale, everything is walking distance, clubs, sports complex, strip clubs
    - hit up Lola
    - visit Mexico! – pray not getting stuck there
    - Must go to Lolo’s chicken and waffles!
    - Must to go Carolinas Mexican restaurant

    That’s pretty much it.. there’s not much, it’s all about the fun that you’ll have with the people you’re with..

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    CHeeKZ Money Reply:

    “Must go to Lolo’s chicken and waffles!”

    Rocoe’s cousin?

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    Lola Reply:

    Yes!!! And its soooo delicious!!!

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  4. Great ones, but I must add…

    - Don’t look people in the eye.

    - Don’t go to a free Drake concert and expect it to be civilized.

    Tis all.

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  5. LOL@ the porcupine quills… i remember when that popped up on twitter..

    i love NY.. i love exploring it, walkin around by myself.. i love any city that allows me to hop on a train and give me free (no amistad)..
    on visiting Miami…

    1. unless you have a good friend, you’re gonna need a car.. you’ll be out there all day waiting on the transit system.. and HEAVEN help you if you gotta transfer..
    2. don’t drive behind anyone whose license plate says “Quebec”.. your trip will take 3x as long.. they do NOT know where they’re going..
    3. do NOT want to go south on 95 in the morning.. and DO NOT go north on 95 in the evening..
    4. if the billboards are all of a sudden en espanol.. you are in Hialeah, go back east..
    5. regardless of skin tone, a lot of people will assume you speak spanish.. unless you really speak spanish, do not engage..
    5b. if you tell them “un poquito” (a little) when they ask if you speak spanish.. they will begin the backabacka and think you’re from Havana..
    6. it can rain and be sunny within 6 min. pack accordingly..
    7. the best parties are the hole in the wall ones.. do your research..
    8. if you have an aversion to lacefronts, or skittle colored nails.. visit ft. lauderdale instead.. note: this doesn’t eradicate the problem, just minimizes it..)
    9. don’t try to say “hi” to random people.. they don’t do that.. and they’ll bump you for suggesting such a thing..
    10. don’t go to the southernmost part of Haulover Beach.. it’s a nekkid beach, and not even s*xy nekkid #thisainteurope..

    i’m SURE there’s more.. but in the meantime, yes, that is a mirage.. cuz it’s JUST that hot..

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    L Boogie Reply:

    haha i’ve spent time in Hialeah, and yeah, every single billboard I saw was in Spanish…

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  6. Good list!! I disagree with one though: “Never move in during the day. Your stuff will be as good as gone.” Naw. Only move in before 12pm. The crackheads, stick em kids and boosters arent awake yet.

    Here are my additions:
    Make friends w/ the ppl on your block even if they are hood. They’ll watch your car and point you in the direction of the ganja.

    Make friends w/ the Aks and Papis at the corner store. They’ll let you slide when you’re a dollar short.

    Live where the 2520s live. This doesnt mean live in the rich neighborhoods. This means live in the poor neighborhoods where white ppl are moving in b/c blk folk will be too busy robbing them to rob you.

    Hot 97 and Power 105 are better than your best iPod/CD/mixtape on a Friday night

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    LoudPen Reply:

    I agree with this list as well! And I must say I have applied every tip on this list. That’s why I’m a female living alone in NYC who’s never been robbed or messed with!

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    CHeeKZ Money Reply:

    great list Peyso.

    Stoop ninjas are going to be on your stoop. Hince their name. Don’t try to fight it, just make good with them and keep it moving.

    And you should know the price of everything in all four corner stores or ‘bodegas’ in your neighborhood. Walking a little further could save you some change.

    Factor parking tickets into your budget.

    97 and Power are good WEEKEND NIGHTS! DJ Enuff is still the best in the city and his extended rush hour really gets you in the mood for the wknd when leaving work. Also Cipha Sounds and Rosenberg are great for your ride to work. Outside of DJ Self (young dude always gets exclusive freestyles) and some good interviews by Flex and/or Angie STAY AWAY! Hip hop stations have become r&b stations. and not that good r&b we were talking about on tuesday.

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    BLaCk Bruce WaYnE Reply:

    I’ll Co-sign Hot 97 and Power 105 on a Friday night!! Coming back from where ever you prowl at night, you can rest assured that they will take it back to the mid to late 90s CLASSICS!!!

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  7. Smiley Face

    For DC…

    1) Learn the difference between the quads NE, NW, SE, SW

    2) Stay out the Farms, unless you know some folk or you’re white and have a dog (they ain’t bothering white folk, lol)

    3) Please, please, please learn how to navigate Metro and the rules therein

    4) Say no disparaging words about the most beloved mayor of all time, lol, Mario Barry.

    5) Anacostia Park …. you’d have better luck with Hains Point or just the Tidal Basin in general until you get your DC wings lol.

    6) You hate Go Go? Too bad, build up a tolerance for it, you’re going to hear it at some point (like all day everyday)!

    7) Do the tourist thing…you know how many people born and bred in DC have NO idea what the inside of the Smithsonian looks like? Don’t be one of these people, lol.

    8 Learn land marks, you’ll get most of your directions this way for example “Make a left at the Big Chair,” “pass down by Frederick Douglas’ House,” “pass by Bread for the City and go a lil bit up until you see the McDonald’s and Popeyes.”

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    Smiley Face Reply:

    *Marion

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    Capricorn Reply:

    Co-sign.

    I’d add:
    1. know your 95s: we have 95, 195, 295, 395, 495, 695, 795 and 895 all within a 50 mile radius.

    2. THE LEFT LANE IS FOR SPEEDERS. Do not drive in this lane if you want to drive 5 miles over the speed limit.

    3. Rush hour is no joke: 6 am to 10 am and 3 pm to 7 pm. DAILY. Forget 95s after 2 pm on Fridays.

    4. And yes, move to the right on the Metro steps/escalators or you will get run the hell over.

    5. Mambo sauce makes the wings THAT much better.

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    Smiley Face Reply:

    “1. know your 95s: we have 95, 195, 295, 395, 495, 695, 795 and 895 all within a 50 mile radius”

    THIS!! And please know, just because it’s the weekend doesn’t mean there’s no traffic…uh uh.

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    A.Smith Reply:

    I’m like 85% sure there is NO difference in wknd and wkday traffic. Not even like a 4 car difference.

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    A.Smith Reply:

    Number 3. PLEASE NUMBER 3.

    It’s tourist season and I just can’t even with the metro right now. It’s already full of dumb f*cks anyway but you wanna add these slow ass tourists?? OH MY GOSH. (can ya’ll tell I loathe this? Probably not, huh).

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    L Boogie Reply:

    MAJOR co-sign for 1 and 3. Can’t tell you how many times people get lost because they forget to add the quadrant distinction in their directions. And number 3…whoooo chiiiiileeeee, I SWEAR I want to knock people out of the way EVERY TIME I’m on metro! You see the train is coming in 2 minutes, yet you and your whole FAMILY wanna stand on the left side of the escalator?! Cmon son…MOVE! *woo-sah* Great list…

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  8. Smiley Face

    OH and don’t think just because you live 5 miles away from work you’ll get there on time, be prepared to leave 1 1/2 hours early at least to make it on time….until you learn the back roads then you might make it in an hour, lol :)

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  9. Jasmine

    Do not tell your car insurance co. that you are moving to NYC. They will rape you.

    that is all

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    Slim Jackson Reply:

    Mine still doesn’t know yet. But when they do happen to find out, I’ll apply for the white street discount.lol.

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    Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:

    This is why at least 50% of drivers in NYC have out of state plates

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    The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:

    And the other 50% use upstate addresses.

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    CHeeKZ Money Reply:

    my DL still says I live in Ithaca, NY.

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    Satya Reply:

    lol @ this. I’m going to my dad’s in NC to get my license and insurance in 2 weeks. NYC insurance quoted me @ $375 a month GTFOH!! And I have a parking garage. I refuse to pay the insurance man nearly $400 and the student loan man almost $500 #nothappening

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  10. Yaz

    For St.Thomas:

    Always use the local card. Tourists pay $20[if they like you] more for everything.

    Don’t be cheap, use a taxi. You WILL get lost otherwise.

    Street signs lie. Northside, Country, Town, Downtown, West, and Redhook are the only directions here.

    Safari’s cost ONE dollar to ride, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

    Brewers is the shit beach…don’t swim in sewer.

    Give pocket change to the crackheads..this will be hilarious..and you will get your change back.

    If someone calls you a skunt, curse ‘em out.

    You must go to a food van and ask for a johnny cake w/ cheese :)

    Do not buy jewelry in vendors plaza.

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    The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:

    Also for St. Thomas:

    Don’t be alarmed by the stop lights at the very top of a curvy hill.

    Don’t drive closer to the center of the road hoping to escape the bush that’s overgrown onto the shoulder of the road. Chances are there’ll be a taxi van swinging around the corner @ 90 mph and they will clip you and keep it movin’.

    For St. Croix:

    Stay away from Thomians.

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    Yaz Reply:

    lmao. Chances are they’re too old and blind to have even noticed.

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  11. The $5 Halaal Chicken & Lamb w/ Spicy Rice is the troof. I’m mad i’m not working in midtown where there’s a cart on every corner! It may be unhealthy for ya, but $12 salads aint the move everyday.

    But yo, forreal…

    To my fellow NYers on 3Ways… didn’t it sound like Slim was describing NYC in the 80′s? It really aint THAT bad anymore…

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    Slim Jackson Reply:

    I mean I was exaggerating in my wording, but I see some variation of all this stuff regularly. Y’all just used to it. Chicken and lamb with spicy rice is all I eat.

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    L. Dejean Reply:

    I think it totally depends on where you stay! I’m in Brooklyn & at times, it can get hectic…

    Another one is to steer clear of block’s where there is some sort of party going on…they don’t always take too kindly to strangers and/or people with dogs.

    Don’t sit on a stoop that isn’t yours, a friends or family members. Folks don’t like to see strangers in their space (i know i don’t).

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  12. LOL @ surviving in NYC. My general rule about surving is simple… live in a upper middle class neighborhood. I’m not “so hood”. Khalid

    Seriously, surviving in Raleigh

    1. Learn the difference between the Inner and Outer Beltline.

    2. Smile, and speak when spoken to. Or at least nod, wave, something. This is the South, mean mugging will get you nowhere. So, leave the mean mug in NYC.

    3. You need a car. Seriously, YOU NEED A CAR!! If you are visiting, and staying in a hotel downtown, there is the free R Line, which will take you around downtown Raleigh to the different bars/clubs/restaurants.

    3b. When visiting, do not stay out by the airport unless you rent a car. Sorry, but public transit sucks here, and it sucks worse coming from Morrisville.

    4. You have to go to The Pit to get some real BBQ.

    5. Be careful walking around downtown. The hood is right around the corner, and you do not want to get caught out there. Especially, the ‘hood around St. Augustine College. Not the nicest area.

    6. Visit the Farmer’s Market. Some of you big city folk probably have no idea how a tomato is supposed to taste. Or fresh strawberries, peaches, blueberries, etc.

    7. Lock your door. This ain’t Mayberry. People will take your ish.

    8. If you sweat a lot, carry a hanky or something with you at all times. It gets hot and very humid here. Just walking to your car will cause you to sweat. And sweat is not sexy.

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    Slim Jackson Reply:

    I’d argue that sweat can be sexy. see: back being blown out for an extended amount of time

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    CHeeKZ Money Reply:

    any liquid + (any women – black women’s concern over their hair) = sexy

    YOU should know that, N.I.A.

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    N.I.A. naturally Reply:

    YOU know I know, baby. I was waiting for you take the bait. Slim beat you to it. But, I knew you would come soon after…

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    CHeeKZ Money Reply:

    you know what.. I would like to change that equation.

    bodily fluid + (any women – black women’s concern over their hair) = sexy

    Dreds can get wet right?

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    Just A Thought Reply:

    And so can afros and naturals. And the right man can sweat out a press and curl or a wrap, by the way.

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    LoudPen Reply:

    I’m loving the “this ain’t mayberry” reference and also the no-mean mugging rule. I’m from Ohio originally and that shit doesn’t fly with us either.

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  13. 05girl

    what in the world? so do you like the city or not? and why do you own a car in nyc?

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    Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:

    There are tons of reasons to own cars in NYC. Just not necessarily the same amount of reasons to drive everyday

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    Slim Jackson Reply:

    Just like any other city, it has its perks and it has its downsides. Not having a car is not an option. I’d rather park my car out in a different borough and access it when I need it rather than have no car at all. I don’t believe a trip should take an hour if it could take 15 minutes by whip.

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  14. When in a big city…try not to look like an outsider. I.E. looking lost or confused…walking extremely slow.

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    Slim Jackson Reply:

    I always trying to look focused even if I have no clue. I will go the wrong direction knowing I’m going the wrong direction with the utmost confidence on my face if I see a bunch of people around.lol.

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  15. The Law

    Tips for living in the D:

    You need a car. Seriously.

    When you get said car, if you don’t drive at least 15 mph over the speed limit (of 70 mph), stay off the freeway. Think urban autobahn.

    We invented road rage. And we have liberal concealed carry licensing laws. #donttryit.

    Get to know some of our more beautiful (read: white-friendly/occupied) neighborhoods: University District, Palmer Woods, Sherwood Forest, North Rosedale Park, Boston-Edison.

    Go to the festivals at Hart Plaza. Every weekend. Yes, even for the Arab-Chaldean Festival and the Downtown Hoedown (pause).

    Speaking of festivals, the Carribean Festival is the shizzle dizzle.

    We have some of the most beautiful women in the world here. But they will still cut yo a**. Use caution.

    Hope this helps.

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    Guns & Butter Reply:

    it’s so cooooold in the D.

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    SaneN85 Reply:

    LMAO, stop with that G&B, I’m still trying to get that atrocity out of my mind.

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  16. Satya

    I agree with the person that said move in before noon. When I moved the roomies and started at 6 a.m. and were done by 11:30 lol.

    -I love the halal karts. by senior year there were 3 of them around St. John’s campus. But, beware the hot sauce it will light yo booty up. Only get a lil of it
    -Get an unlimited metrocard for the month, even if you have a car. you never know when you’ll have to hop on the subway and don’t want to have to look for a machine
    -Learn the Belt Parkway, BQE, Major Deacon, and what bridges are free otherwise you will pay ridiculous amounts of $ traveling the boroughs.
    -Be nice to the bodega and .99 store people, like Peyso said they will let you slide if you’re short on some $
    -DO NOT go to Queens Center Mall or Kings Plaza on a Saturday unless you like rowdy teenagers. Try Roosevelt Field or Smithhaven instead.
    -Your local druggie may be be very useful. Don’t shun him/her but don’t be too friendly. He/she will scout for parking spots for you, watch your car, sell you metrocards for less than retail value (i think they get them at rehab) etc…

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    Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:

    Co-sign the whole list!! You gotta know what exit to get off the GCP before it takes you on to the Triboro and there’s a way to skip the toll on the Hutch too.

    Many of the crackheads get the metrocards they sell by pickin up old ones and bending in a special way that gives you one more ride

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    Satya Reply:

    What? I never knew you could bend it a certain way. I must learn this trick

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    Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:

    Yea but you have to be careful who you buy from b/c they could be undercovers that will give you a $100 ticket

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    CHeeKZ Money Reply:

    But when the gas prices are high and you have the EZ pass are you saving money with all the stop and go?

    When I was in Harlem I would just take the tri-boro. The next bridge was the queens boro and that is ALL the way in midtown.

    For example, today I’m watching game 7 at my boys house in the BX. Coming from my job right (where the cross island meets the GCP.) I might as well take a whitestone or throgs neck… traveling thru queens, thru the top of manhattan just to save 5 bucks?

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    Satya Reply:

    Very true. It’s just good to have options. Depending on where you’re going you can decide whether or not to spend the $ for bridges n tunnels.

    Right now I don’t live too far from the Verrazano. When i’m going “down south” i take the Verrazano to the Goethals rather than drive all the way to the city to take the Lincoln just to save a few bucks

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    Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:

    that toll on the verrezano is a beeyotch though

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  17. In Newark, NJ…..

    1. Don’t visit any number streets. Especially if it begins w/ South…ex. South 17th Street. Unless you have people there…who names rings bells…you best to K.I.M

    2. Chicken Shack chicken is awesome. And they are opened all hours of the night…and owned by Africans or the same dudes who own the Halal trucks in NY. My cousin and his peeps from ATL were floored Tuesday when they tasted it. FYI: Chicken Shacks usually have names like Detroit Chicken, Kennedy Fried…but they all get called chicken shacks.

    3. When walking in Newark Penn Station after 10pm, remove head phones…and be aware of your surroundings. Definitely some shady characters out there.

    4. Visit Branch Brook Park for the Cherry Blossoms.

    5. Ninjas really do steal cars…New Jersey Drive.

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    L. Dejean Reply:

    i keep my headphones on to keep my calm but i keep the volume down enough to where i could hear if someone is approaching. It makes me walk faster. I’m from NY so i kinda know how things operate here, i did the same when I was in AL but ish is different there!

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  18. The dondadda

    Tips for living in houston
    Its all good if you know somebody

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  19. Awe, I love New York!!!

    Peace, Love and Chocolate
    Tiffany

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  20. I have a couple NYC rules.

    1)Don’t drive in manhattan, if you believe in following the rules. Its a fact, the close to manhattan live the worse your driving is. So When in rome…

    2)African-American is not an ethnicity. Its a race.. You need to get ethnic. Fellas, have you ever been to the Brazil Pride Parade? Don’t you think that is something you would like to attend? Put on your ronaldinho jersey and rep. You can make the arguement that this past sunday was the greatest collection of beautiful women in the country. THE COUNTRY.
    You want some good food.. what do you need Russian? Greek. Jap. China man. Haitian. Dominican. Kosher. Indian….

    3)Open Bar parties.

    4)Find your scene. There is nothing this city can’t offer you.

    5)JFK or LAG. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE! Not interchangable. Each has its purpose.

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    L. Dejean Reply:

    Trini food is pure awesomeness too! #biased but i’m part Haitian too, i grew up on both!

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    CHeeKZ Money Reply:

    Haitian and Trini… I have been trying to make one of you for years now.

    #seewhatididthere

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  21. LaBakir

    @Slim

    LOL! Word! 1 day I was heading to BK, and the A train wasn’t running (Hoptsop didn’t tell me this as I planned my trip).

    I hopped off @ a street name I knew and hit the ground walking like I was a native…as I called my friend telling her I needed to be redirected. I ended up having to turn around…walked so fast I did like 5 blocks! Lol.

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  22. Don’t step on the roaches, it just makes them angry. They’re the size of tea cup poodles out here. Except with a shell similar to a Brinks truck.

    Remember that just because someone lives in NYC doesn’t mean they’re from NYC. If you stop and ask someone for directions, you may be in worse shape than you were before.

    On the other hand, just because someone’s from NYC doesn’t mean they know that borough. When it comes to the BX, I know how to get to my boy’s crib and the bomb patty spot. And that’s only because it’s around the corner from his crib.

    Pedestrians, don’t stop in the middle of the sidewalk. If you don’t know where you’re going, pull over to the side. Would you slam on the brakes when you’re driving in the left lane of a highway to check your GPS? OK then.

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