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Is That the Best You Can Do?
You date someone. You break up (on Facebook). You continue to have sex. You get back together (on Facebook). You keep havin sex. You break up again (on Facebook). The sex stops. This time it’s for good. A few weeks months go by and both of yall are on to your next relationships (on Facebook). That’s all good and gravy. You moved on. Have a cookie and salute yourself. The feelings have subsided and you really could care less what the other person is doing…until you see that they’ve moved on to something worse than you.
All that “I just want you to be happy” stuff is somewhat accurate unless you’re a callous and evil SOB. So what happens when you see that the person has moved on to someone who really doesn’t cut the mustard on any level that you find acceptable? It’s probably happened to all of us. You’re just chillin’ one day and then you hear through the grapevine that your ex is in a new relationship. Out of curiosity you ask who or decide to check out their online profile and see that the person looks like T-Pain or looks like Bertha Fae McButtaface.
You laugh or you’re angry/disappointed. Not because you want the person back, but because their next partner isn’t up to par physically (woman concern) or is cornier than Nebraska (man concern). So let’s say you’re a nice lad/lass and you give their decision the benefit of the doubt. You peruse further through the new bf/gf’s profile, or you get the opinions of those that know your ex and find out the person has a lame background and isn’t really about ish. How does that make you feel?
Personally, I’ve had an ex cross over to lesbianage and another one join mediocrity with quite a lame and ignorant Frat dude. As for the lesbianage, to each their own. I should’ve figured when I made certain jokes and the person got all upset and insecure that something was “different”. I didn’t understand the outrage at the time, but it all makes sense now. Oh well. As for moving on to the lame individual, I kinda just figured that she got what she deserved. A dude who prolly got beat up in high school on the regular deserves a chick who…well, let me not get too personal. Maybe the lame dude just laid on the floor and took heels to the back. Power to him. You can’t win ‘em all. Either way, eff it. May they live in awfulness happily cuz my life is great.
Either way, the ish is wack. It’s kinda like gettin slapped in the face when it happens. You’d like to think that anybody you dated, regardless of if they were a mistake, had some highly redeeming qualities that you could speak of. You wanna believe they’re ultimately good people, but then they go and a sign a contract with a fledgling and feeble franchise with no potential. Now some would see this as hate, others would see it as stone cold truth. I, being the upstanding individual that I am, try to disregard it all together. Homegirl’s friends prolly cheered her on to victory and gave her all these reasons why I was wack/lame/booty bunz even though they don’t know the reality of what it was that I dealt with. Maybe they did. Who knows? I’ve had the temptation in the past to make public comments, but I just let it rock. If I see them out in them streets, it’s been laughter and smiles. I’m just an a-hole like that sometimes.
But enough about me, what do yall do when this happens? Are you salty or do you not care at all? Do you call the person out on their wack progression or let them live together in misery? I guess a lot of this depends on how yall ended and your gender. We wanna hear what yall got to say on this one. Let the chitter chatter be fruitful and entertaining for all!
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who they date (or bang) after me doesn’t really bother me at all… doesn’t so much phase me…
i like to look at where they came from before me… like if it was some skinny, no body having, funny lookin hussy or some uber big, weird shaped, not-so-cute chic then i’m like, “dayum, u got a major upgrade”. but then i start to look at him a lil differently… did he get lasik and finally see the light? or maybe he figured he should stop going after personality ONLY.
yeah… the people after me don’t so much matter…
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if I’m truly over him it doesn’t matter. if I’m not over him i’d be like omg she looks like a man!! smh!!
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Well, those that come after me that I end up finding out about I am curious about… depending on how we ended the relationship, with my son’s father I was all up in who he was bringing home because eventually this person may end up being introduced to my son so I made it known vocally who I approved and didn’t approve of! We’re cool so I can talk to him like that…
In a relationship where there’s no need for me to care about who they date, if I come to find out and they aren’t as cute as me or don’t have much going on I shake my head and say… Told ya so
I’m the best that ever did it!!!
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I personally think it’s amusing, and it makes me feel validated for getting rid of that loser who obviously was not qualified to be with a chick like me (talking bout my ex hubby). I just chuckle to myself everytime I see her and then see the sick look on his face that he tries to hide when he looks at me. He used to talk shyt to me about how he’d ALWAYS have a dime, like I was fortunate to be with him because he was just SUCH a catch….riiiight. His new woman looks like Bigg Mixx (remember the chickenmoosewolfpig creature from the cereal?).
But like they say about the dead, he’s now in a better place. More power to ‘em.
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ladebelle Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 7:47 pm
rotflmao!!! u r sooooo crazy!!!
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This has never actually happened to me. I’ve been in 3 major relationships and haven’t had contact with the other two so I have no idea what their chicks after me looked like. And I wouldn’t care either way. My other Ex…she was actually really really pretty. He and I have still not let each other go, so in the beginning it bothered me, but now I’m like who cares. LOL They aren’t together anymore either. Overall I think she and I are equal but on different playing fields.
Any other dude that I’ve shared feelings with but may not have made it to relationship status with on FB, well, I didn’t care about their other chicks. But from what I did notice, they were all pretty much on the same level.
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Once I am over you I could care if you start dating the corner crackhead, or Miss America. If that is who makes you happy? who am I to judge.
the key is if Im over you its done.
Like Toni Braxton sang, “see I’ve already had your man
…I’m not thinking about him, Do you know I made him leave, do you know he begged to stay, He wasn’t man enough for me.”
not bitter, just better
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 1:09 am
I love how women always have some applicable song lyric ready for any situation.lol.
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This is super lame to me. If you are not with a person anymore and you actually cared for the person when you were with them, there can be none of this. Sounds like a whole lot of hate to me. All my exes are just that; exes. I look at them and think they will make some chick happy and I didn’t want to be that chick so I have no room to judge the next chick. To each his own. Also, lets not 4get that the ex and the new new should care less what you think one way or the other…
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I’m Haitian… So I put a Voodoo spell on every woman that ever had sex with me or I have ever had a crush on. If they don’t let me beat anymore, they are cursed with the worst sex life known to man.
~CHeeKZ
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ladebelle Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 2:36 am
lmao!!! i love this…
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 8:18 am
LMAO! abdominal pain…
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Rox Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:13 am
LMAAAAAAAAAO, oh gawd
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I’ve had this happen once that I’m aware of (because me and the guy run in some of the same social circles) and when I saw the chick I was like, “That’s what you got with!?” I have to be honest, I was offended! I felt like the man was a total waste of my time once I saw the new chick. It was as if HE was more of a step down FOR ME as a result of his follow-up choice.
Now……..if the girl was equally attractive or better looking than me, I would’ve been like, “OK, I get it!” But, she wasn’t. Hence, my slight irritation. LOL!! I think this bothers me because this was a man who I said to myself, “I’m not going to go for looks, but get to know him.” Hmph! I won’t be doing that ever again!
- Sauda Voice
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 10:29 am
Your sentiment is what I’ve gotten more from folks in face to face conversations. I live in a city where everybody knows everybody and it’s easy to be like 1 degree of separation apart….a little too easy actually.
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I’m not even gonna front like I want to. I wanna front and say that when it’s done, it’s done – but there’s more to it than that – especially if you had the two-fold close friendship along with the relationship.
A sista gets a might bit salty when the next chick is super cute – yep, I’m a straight hater, no shame in my game.
If she’s ugly, I get a kick out of it, and his choice of chick serves as prime gossip fodder with my girls for months.
The only thing that actually BOTHERS me is when the chick is brain-dead, cause I know he can do better. Hell, he HAD better – ME, lol. I’m only speaking on past relationships where we had an extra special bond; as for the others I truly couldn’t care less.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 10:25 am
“A sista gets a might bit salty when the next chick is super cute – yep, I’m a straight hater, no shame in my game. ”
Honesty makes me smile. I respect your gangstah.lol.
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RedBeanzNRice Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 1:12 pm
Why thank ya, kind sir. : )
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When I see him out, I am very polite, I hold a conversation and may even hug him.
It boosts my ego a bit, bc obviously he couldn’t get any better.
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If the person is someone I didn’t mind letting go of and I see them with someone else and I know that other person isn’t worth crap…I just let it go cause I already know how screwed up the ex is. I let the new wack person deal with the ex’s crap because I’m all too familiar with what goes on with him.
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SJ…You touched on some interesting points but I feel there must be some personal/negative feelings coming from your end chief. Just joking boss hog…
If the relationship is over and you see the ex dealing with SLOP then let the pig play in it. I can see how you could be upset and wonder if this person has bad taste overall but if the SELF ESTEEM (not swagger) is at 100 and climbing, I’d forget it.
If the ex is dealing with a lame/cornball/a sorry piece of work, we can safely assume that they have clearly lowered their standards a tad. Or maybe they saw something within that person which is probably skin deep. Probably sooo deep you have to fish through the wackness…
Let the past be the past….
P.S. I’m not being arrogant…it’s just real talk…
Peace in Bahgdad & Gaza
-BBW
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RightCoastLexSteele, The Caribbean Cocksman Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
Good. So I’ll be arrogant. It’ll be like good cop, bad cop…
Look Slim, chalk it up this way: you are the shit and her being with anyone else but you is a step down. So in reality, there’s nothing to be mad about because face it, she’s doing the best she can. You gotta look at these things ego first homie.
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I don’t expect his next girl to be as fly nor as swaggalicious as me…kinda hard to do, nah mean? (hehe) But I do expect that he’ll be with someone who’s at least up to par with his potential. If I’m still friends, or even cordial with dude, I’ll call him on it. Don’t want him embarassing himself…
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 10:48 am
lol…looking out for him huh?
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Nyela Goodness Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 11:44 am
Yehess! There’s still a three-month, post-break-up window where he still represents me. Lookin out for myself, too.lol
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ladebelle Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 7:49 pm
i like this… get that…
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This personally has never bothered me. My exs have dated girls attractive enough for me not to hate. However, I have noticed each time I was cheated on the girl was always a step (or two or three) down from me. That shit REALLY makes me mad. If you are going to cheat for god sakes cheat with some really hot girl. I think that bothered me more since I was still in the relationship and obviously still cared. Like many other women said above, once they’re an ex, generally you have moved on enough to not care who they date.
I do like Nicki Sunshine’s comment “It boosts my ego a bit, bc obviously he couldn’t get any better,” though. That is def the right attitude to have!
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 11:01 am
“If you are going to cheat for god sakes cheat with some really hot girl.”
This reminds me of John Edwards and his awful decision.
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Steph Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 11:08 am
It reminds me of 99.9% of men who cheat, why in the eff is it always an uglier, fater, dumber, or in someother way not as good as your current girl????
Let me get off this kick before I turn into a bitter woman today, lol.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 3:19 pm
We live in a time of convenience and instant gratification. Not to mention that most of us now are in grad school or working, so free time is limited. Hence the reason why the side chicks aren’t as bad as the wifey. No time for all that.
Take my man Bill Clinton for example. A man with unlimited power and notable charm. He could’ve bagged any chick he wanted to. Yes, you too. Yet his side piece roster is abhorrent. Worse than the 1990 LA Clippers. But he was a man with limited time, so he had to do what he had to do.
I don’t condone this behavior, but I understand.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 3:36 pm
So are you sayin that Hillary is hot?
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Seattle Washington Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 3:52 pm
Uhh, no comment. Looks aside, Hillary is far better than Monica. Potential Secretary of State or chick who’s peddling her own purses and accessories at http://therealmonica.com
I’ll take the former.
Ask me that question after a few Patron shots and you may get a different answer.
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Vanessa aka Miss V Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
i would have to agree that messing with monica was def a downgrade on bill’s part… even if she had a cool personality.
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Steph Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 6:09 pm
First no, Bill couldn’t havd bagged me. I’m not a groupie chick, lol. Second, I respect your argument. I was tellin Slim I generally hear the argument that the side chick does X which wifey doesn’t do. So, regardless of looks, it’s some aspect that dude doesn’t get from his main girl in the bedroom.
Thanks for takin the time to provide some male insight. Always appreciated.
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You’re just chillin’ one day and then you hear through the grapevine that your ex is in a new relationship. Out of curiosity you ask who or decide to check out their online profile and see that the person looks like T-Pain or looks like Bertha Fae McButtaface.
My friends and I have GREAT gender nonspecific name for those…
We call them BOORILLAS!!
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I guess it depends on if you’re over your ex or not. But then again, it could just be that you’re curious just for the sake of being curious (read: nosy). Besides the potential fug is terrific fodder for talking smack with your crew.
I think Facebook takes the “Is that the best you can do?” question to a whole ‘nother level. It allows you to see more than you wouldn’t have been able to see otherwise. It’s a blessing and a curse.
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honestly, if i was in a relationship with a dude and he picked up a wack chick after me, i wouldn’t be mad. as a matter of fact, i’d prob make fun of him and his new girl… to his face!
however, i think i’d be pissed if i were in a “talking” situation with a guy, and for whatever reason, we stop talking then he wifes a wack chick. then i’d be like, what the hell is that about?? how is he going to downgrade when he had the opportunity to be upgraded? doesn’t make any sense to me…
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Nyela Goodness Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 12:52 pm
Great example, V. And pissed I
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ife1love Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 1:58 pm
V, girl I agree…
I’ve just decided that some men LOVE mediocrity. That’s the only conclusion I’ve been able to come up with. My life story for the past few years is I’m “talking” to someone who seems to not want anything long term and then they turn around and get themselves a Boorilla. It happens all the time to me, my girls, their girls… it’s an epidemic. Not that me or any of my friends are perfect, but still..
Example, my besty, she “talked” to this dude off and on for years and it just never seemed to work out. He didn’t want to commit. So he wifed this kinda funny shaped girl we dubbed “Smokey” cause every time we would visit him she would be in his window w/ a blunt and a book (at least she reads). But we didn’t get it because he used to always talk about how smoking was the most unattractive thing a woman could do.
I remember my sister “talked” to this guy for a long time and finally he told her he didn’t want to commit to her because he wanted her to be his second wife, but first he was gonna go marry this rather unattractive, rich girl, so that she would pay his way through medical school.
I tell my boys all the time, would you go trade in your Jaguar and get a Hyundai!?!?! It might look the same to some people, but dude…. you’re still driving a Hyundai. Maybe you see a 2009 Sonata… I see a late 90s Accent. Either way, it’ll never be a Jag.
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Vanessa aka Miss V Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 2:50 pm
lol @ Smokey
Yes, same thing happens to me… however, usually the dudes i “talk” to don’t wife anyone after me…for a while at least. they just “talk to”/mess around with wack chicks. and thats super annoying because it doesn’t make sense to go from one busta to another. or then i have to wonder, am i wack, too? (which i know is not true LoL) but it’s crazy that i have to ask myself that.
but yeah, i’ll accept the explanation that dudes love mediocrity.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 3:10 pm
Not so much mediocrity. Some dudes, please read some, just don’t want to put in the effort and in turn go for the low hanging fruit (pause). Please don’t mock them, at least they’re sticking with Black women.
You’ve got some other dudes, again some, that skip the mediocre Black women step and just move on to White women.
I know, I know… different topic, but I couldn’t resist.
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Vanessa aka Miss V Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 4:00 pm
another reasonable explanation…
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RightCoastLexSteele, The Caribbean Cocksman Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
LOL…did you just call black women low hanging fruit?
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Yeah Whatev Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:12 am
“Not so much mediocrity. Some dudes, please read some, just don’t want to put in the effort and in turn go for the low hanging fruit (pause)”
omg…I think that is what just happened to me. Not that I put myself on such a high pedestal, but I’m really slow and difficult to break through. Many guys just give up so quick!
This last dude put in so much effort for two whole months. Sweet talking me and filling my head with gingerbread and sugarplum fairy lies. Wining and dining me, treating me like we were official. Said he wanted to meet my parents, grow old together, about to fall in love…blah, blah, blah. Then all of the sudden BAM! He completely stopped talking to me?! WTF?! I thought it was because I wasn’t showing him that liked him back enough. Although I did like him very much, but I was still suspicious that he was running game, a helluva good game at the that. The best I’ve experienced to date. All he got was a kiss after all the effort. I guess my fruit is hanging too high?! I would really like to see the new girl he’s after too! I can’t believe I still care to see her, but I really do.
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RightCoastLexSteele, The Caribbean Cocksman Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 9:02 pm
Well…theoretically…if you sold the Jag for a Hyundai, depending on blue book values and what not, you could still have a car and a little cash on the side. Unless it’s a really cool old school jag it probably doesnt have any value anyway since Ford makes the new ones. American engineering is like the reverse midas touch.
Cigarettes-unattractive
Blunts-sexy, sexy, sexy!
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Do any dudes, other than Cheekz and his usage of voodoo, react to this type of stuff?
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ladebelle Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 7:50 pm
LMAO@you entertaining that… hysterical…
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I get extra salty either way. I know I look good, but we all know when another chick is like topnotch. I get salty and started hating, but I also feel okay knowing that he sorta upgraded. Otherwise if she’s ugly I’d be pissed, definitely asking “you got with that ish after me?! WTF? You f*cking kidding with this chick?!” No sir, not having it, and knowing myself I would find someone better looking for him. I have no porblem moving on myself, and he should at least go for better after being with someone as awesome as myself.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 12:58 pm
So just cuz the person moves on to someone that’s extra sexy does that in itself make it an upgrade? The person could have a dirty coot or suffer from inferior insecure intolerable chick syndrome.
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Reign Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 1:32 pm
That could be the case, but I stay away from asking about details unless overheard. From my experience I’ve only seen the new chicks and most of my ex’s have high standards. The one’s that mattered… one married a VP of Finance (not hurt, feel sorry for her) and another dated a chick that was into Art History and traveled the world and ish. Nice chicks. But haven’t experienced an ex moving on to an “extra sexy, dirty coot or suffer from inferior insecure intolerable chick syndrome.” If they did, they wouldn’t tell me cause I would clown them for a hot minute. Seriously.
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Not a dude (though my name is not gender specific, I know), but I can tell you that they definitely do. All my male friends (despite my recent blog) always talk about oh, that negro is wack, he is mad corny, hate, hate. Of course, females are more likely to waste their time hating on the next chick (sorry, ladies but it’s true… most men don’t wanna think about who has been up in their chick before or after them) but we women tend to be masochists at times, so here goes…
My repsonse to this entire blog is simple: you don’t know someone’s heart. I hate to be the diplomatic (pronounced Bible hugger) one all the time, but honestly… How can you look at someone’s pictures/facebook profile, etc. and know who they truly are, or how good they are for your ex?
So, they’re not as good looking as you (objectively speaking, of course, if one were to compare oneself maybe), but maybe you treated ol’ girl/boy like crap and they decided they were going to adjust the radar a bit. And maybe they don’t have as many degrees, or as good a job as you, but maybe they’re in the military (a reputable profession… sometimes) or they’re self-made or took over their parents’ business. And maybe they have a kid or something (I’m taking this a bit too far, but hear me out) but they might have been married young and really love their child and take care of them.
None of these things make them less worthy than you, or make you better than them. And if you’re looking for something to indicate either of these things, then maybe YOU’re the one that’s not yet over your ex, and in order to put an end to this hate, you should probably stop looking at their profiles or stop being their friends altogether to enforce some self-restraint.
I dunno, I’m not saying I’ve never done this, because I have. Both for women before me and women thereafter. But I do recognize at the end of the day, that it’s just plain silly. And that comparing myself to others means I probably need to start looking inside myself and figuring out why it is that I need such validation.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 1:28 pm
Ya know what…this reminds me of something that I once saw on Facebook…since the people put all their business out there online, I figure it’s fair game to talk about.
This couple was dating for a while and broke up. One of the folks slid off according to the status update war. The person who got slid on posted a picture of the person that the new ex had slid off with and wrote a caption about how bad a decision the person made. From the pic posted, that person wasn’t as appealing to the eye. I saw the reason for saltiness.
Then again, being that you love you some Bible I’m sure you’re not talkin’ about people who broke up due to infidelity.
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Joey Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 2:23 pm
I’m not really sure what the Bible has to do with that in the first place… Considering if we wanna go there, then neither party would be having sex with anyone, or sliding off or whatever cuz I got really confused with the skiing terms.
I didn’t quote the Bible or say anything about what God says or anything like that; what I said is that I’m always giving the diplomatic point of view and then semi-jabbed myself by saying it might be because I hug my Bible at night sometimes.
Regardless, someone can get cheated on no matter how they practice their faith. Infidelity happens in all kinds of relationships, even (and oftentimes especially) Christian-based ones.
The point I was trying to make is that, taking infidelity out of the picture, in a mutual breakup, when someone else moves on, you can’t tell by the look of their new boo or by their fb profile, anything about their heart.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
“The point I was trying to make is that, taking infidelity out of the picture, in a mutual breakup, when someone else moves on, you can’t tell by the look of them or by their fb profile, anything about their heart.”
Agreed. That’s usually the point I make (in different words) when I’m listening to a girl talk about an ex and his new boo. I never have to use that with dudes. If a dude is goin off about how shorty’s next man looks, I may have to call him on his sweetness. It’s a case by case basis though.
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Please excuse my delay folks, my company was treating me like I was an adolescent again and blocked my Internet. Now on to business.
Slim, I haven’t really wondered about the new dude until directly confronted by it. For example, I ran into an ex girlfriend’s brother awhile back and he was telling me how his sister was with a lame. He even asked me to reconsider things with her.
Ego boost? Slightly. Not going to lie. But a bigger part of me felt bad for her because I wish the best for her and I know she deserves better. I don’t know the guy, but if your own family is doubting your decision making skills, that says something.
I will say though, Facebook makes things real difficult for a new or old break up. The tabs you can keep on people, and more importantly what they can see about you, is ridiculous.
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ife1love Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 2:16 pm
Very true about FB being the devil. I got proof the day my ex and his new gf both popped up in the “People You Might Know” section and stayed there for about a week, just tempting me to take a peep at their pages.
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ladebelle Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
tru tru… FB/Myspace and now Twitter have been known to break some things up (or have the cops called on that ass) before…
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Interesting.
I haven’t had any real relationships yet, so I have no personal stories to share regarding this… but I hope to never have to see it play out like that.
Seeing just friends’ relationship statuses update all the time is just weird.
“SuchAndSuch is single/in a relationship/single”
lol
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 4:23 pm
I seen a real funny version of what you describe with the updates. Any man with half a brain was able to determine that the chick was clingy and crazy. Hmm, let me see if I can find it.
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I’m actually working hard today, which is why I’m late in commenting–boo
I have never had that happen -where an ex found someone new who was not up to their “standards”….
In the case of Slim where the a downgrade was apparent, in my mind, this is a reflection of two things:
#1- Insecurity- She has leeched on to a t-pain-like creature because maybe he bought her drinks one night at the lounge continuously feeds her ego by calling/text her every day, he pants barks and does cute lil flips for her like a f%#$in lap dog
#2- Self-Victimization (I like the way this sounds, not sure if this is the right term)- perhaps subconsciously in her twisted mind she want you to “rescue” her from king Kong…she is victimizing herself by being with king kong…she knows damn well he aint no good but she continues to plug her ears and close her eyes in hopes that things you’ll get back together???!!!
I know…very out there…but this is what I make of it all
Maybe I’m totally off…maybe she sees something that no one else can see? I doubt it tho….
Back to starring at my monitor, continuously stacking work into pretty piles on my desk while delving deeper into iPod world
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LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this post and the overall discussion. After reading everyone’s comments thus far, I am glad to know that I am not alone. ‘Cause my butt was definitely irritated and offended by my ex’s choice of “new girl.” But as many of you pointed out, maybe I should’ve looked at the situation from a different perspective……
As one poster mentioned, maybe it’s better to look at the situation more as, “Well, guess he REALLY CAN’T do better.” Or, just has “mediocre” taste (which makes a lot of sense when I look back on the situation now). So, that is definitely a compliment and an ego booster all by itself. Sometimes, that’s just the pick-me-up a girl needs. LOL!
- Sauda Voice
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i agree on the fb thing…my ex and i definitely are no longer facebook friends…he was a little different and would check up on me through fb, until i un-friended him. that brings down the chances of him askin about any guy im in a pic with, or seeing where i went out to this past weekend, etc.
he now has a new girl, and i have absolutely no interest in seeing her…if she were a) ugly b) not smart or c) lame, i would be sincerely disgusted at him lowering his standards…just because i dont understand why he would do that to himself.
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ladebelle Reply:
January 5th, 2009 at 7:53 pm
yeah… the fb thing is kinda bo-nanas… the only thing my status really talks about is my blog…
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This happened to me before and I can’t lie … I was mad and bothered. I mean … the guy had just got off house arrest and had his second kid by his second BM. I broke up with her, but we were friends still and I just didn’t want to see her sell herself short. *sigh* … now she is about to be his 3rd BM.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 10:53 am
Dude has some potent man spray.
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If you are having trouble understanding what your ex sees in their new boo, save yourself the time and angst – ask them directly.
They know, not you.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 9th, 2009 at 9:39 am
Good point. Thanks for droppin by to comment!
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