Modern Day Matchmaker: To Wife or Not Wife Her?

Posted by on March 12, 2010 - 11 Comments
Relationships

Paul, the Modern Day Matchmaker, and the fellas are back to continue their discussion on the things men think about when it comes to relationships. In this installment of the series, Paul and his friends discuss the process of making a decision to date/wife a woman vs. keeping it moving. Let us know your thoughts on this installment of the series. Videos deserve discussion too!

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  1. Tunde
    March 11, 2010 at 10:50 am

    these dudes are tripping. no man thinks: “oh i’m gonna marry her.” when he first meets a woman. smh.

    oh and for me it goes: face (particulary the mouth region)>ass> breasts

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    Paul Carrick Brunson Reply:
    March 11th, 2010 at 12:22 pm

    I respectfully disagree brotha – those are the exact words I was thinking when I first met my wife.

    Co-sign on your order :-)

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    Tunde Reply:
    March 11th, 2010 at 12:52 pm

    we’ll just have to agree to disagree but do you think it’s possible that you might have thought that looking back now that you’re married?

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    Paul Carrick Brunson Reply:
    March 11th, 2010 at 1:07 pm

    I definitely could be influenced by looking in retrospect.

    That said, many of my friends (fellas on the video, etc) and family (my brother is single and wanting a committed relationship) tell me they often think this way. Moreover, I work with several male clients that actually suffer from a “hyper-marriage” syndrome…moving too quickly to “Wife Up” – all these guys think “oh i’m gonna marry her” when they meet women.

    The key point is that neither men or women are monolithic (contrary to what traditional media spoon feeds us). My hope with this series is to give a look inside the man not often portrayed in media.

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    Tunde Reply:
    March 11th, 2010 at 1:56 pm

    i definitely feel like media shows us the opposite of what goes on in society. i for one am not fooled. as far as they hyper-marriage syndrome, i think it happens to men who’s internal clock starts ticking (yes i do think men have clocks as well). no man who wants to children wants to be 50 playing ball with their kids.

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    Ms. Cherry Reply:
    March 12th, 2010 at 1:22 pm

    I think that “I’m gonna marry her” moment happens to most men, just not all the time. I mean who meets a woman they want to marry everyday. Most of my male friends who are married have reported similar experiences. Maybe Tunde just hasn’t had that moment yet.

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  2. Seattle Washington
    March 11, 2010 at 5:17 pm

    I’m a sucker for a smile man. If a woman has a beautiful smile, that’s where I’m going to be. After that, it’s the body.

    I have to tentatively agree with Tunde on this one though. I’m not sure if I’ve met a woman and thought – damn, she’s the one. However, I can break women down into different baskets. For example, I love a good conversation and wit. If the woman has neither than she just may be a good time for now, but she won’t be something that’ll last. Same thing goes for the other things on my short list.

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  4. Ms. Cherry
    March 12, 2010 at 1:29 pm

    I have a question for Paul… well for all the guys really…

    What is this whole “girlfriend vibe” thing that I hear bullshit dudes guys talk about? Both myself and my girls have had several instances of men that we’ve grown close to and given the goodies to later say the reason they don’t want to take the relationship to the next level, i.e., give things a title and commit is because while they enjoy our company, like having us around, and the beats are good, they just “don’t get the girlfriend” vibe from us, or the never intended to develop feelings and even though they have because that wasn’t want they initially were looking for, we’ll never be wifey.

    Is this just BS cause I think it is or is there some truth to this?

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  5. N Aimee
    March 13, 2010 at 8:36 pm

    Interesting dialouge… I enjoy hearing what different guys opinions are on relationships/initial meeting.

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  6. juniebug
    March 14, 2010 at 10:42 am

    so you men look at the woman’s outer appearance to determine if she is wifey material or not? um ok…..

    unless i misunderstood the video…..

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