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Nope. That’s a Deal Breaker.
On Thursday, I was sitting on the train after working a 13 hour day. Needless to say I was tired. But not tired enough not to keep my eyes peeled and observe my surroundings. As I sat and sized up everyone around me in case I needed to give a police artist a description, this very well dressed and handsome Black man caught my eye. He was sitting a few rows away, and our seats were facing each other, so I had a good view. His waves were spinning; his skin was all clear and chocolately smooth. And even at 8:00 at night, his suit was fresh. As I tried to play cool, I thought:
Damn he is yummy. I wonder if he works near me. What if he gets off at my stop? Wait, how do I look right now? ::fixes hair::”
And just like that, my stop came, and sure enough, he stood up too. And that’s when it happened. The deal breaker. Dude was like 5’5″, 5’6″ at best. My interest in him left just as quickly as it had arrived. So that got me to thinking, what else could lose a woman’s attention so quickly, just on a visual level? Or maybe just mine. Here goes:
Height.
Sorry dudes, but if you are shorter than 5’10″, you need not apply. And 5’10″ is me being generous and accepting the reality that most dudes are not wrapped in 6’3″ or more of manly goodness. Your game could be tighter than Kobe’s or all around like Lebron’s, but that height doesn’t pass the first look. I’m no amazon woman, but I’m 5’9″. And with some pumps? I’m a good 6′. How would I look with a dude stretching for 5’8″? Silly I say. Just plan silly.
Jacked up teeth.
I’m sorry, but its not my fault that you eat rocks, or that your mouth just gives off that impression. Your front teeth should not look like they are giving each other dap. Nor should they look like they are coated in popcorn butter. Hell naw, you can’t get my number.
Jeans that are tighter than mine.
This one gets no love for two reasons. 1. You look suss. And we know how I feel about suss-ness. Skinny jeans are not manly. Period. And 2. As a man, if your stick and balls don’t need any room to breath, are you really working with much? Or let’s say you tuck them or something to get in the jeans. Then I ask you to please reference point 1.
Being Light Skinned.
Sike. haha. I love do me a dark skinned man though. ::shivers::
Braids .
A man over 19 should not still be rockin cornrows with zig parts. Really though? Let it go dude. Get you a good Caesar and keep it moving.
Weight.
I like my men big, but I don’t need to see your man boobs and love handles squeezing through your shirt. Get a bigger shirt, and a gym membership.
We all know that you have to be at least physically attracted to someone (at least a little bit) before you even think about letting them approach you, or trying to holla at him or her. What are some of your deal breakers? Share those “I know that (dude or girl) did not try to talk to me lookin like that” stories. Happy Monday!
Sowhatiff – Are his teeth crip-walking? - Jenkins
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I have all of your deal breakers (but have given about 1 out of 20 ligh men a chance. lol)
1. Too skinny men.
2. No style
3. Halitosis breath (it has a distinct smell. I don’t expect your breath to be peppermint fresh all day but hali- is something that cannot be brushed away)
4. Sagging (of any sort, even if I cannot see the bottom of your boxers)
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Cheekie Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 8:23 am
Most co-signage on number 3 and 4. Number 3 because well, I don’t want a walking gas chamber. And number 4 because it just looks sloppy…and frankly, your pants tucked up under your butt (with a BELT no less) and your boxers showing is rather ghey.
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 10:08 am
“and frankly, your pants tucked up under your butt (with a BELT no less) and your boxers showing is rather ghey.”
But why does it always remind me of baby diapers? lol
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*Executed @ “Are his teeth crip-walking”*
Well, Sowhatiff, your dealbreakers are the same as mine. The only real difference is the specific height since I’m just 5’3”. But, um, 5’5” still may have a tad trouble gettin’ it as I like ‘em a bit taller than that. lol As you say, the heels play a factor.
Only one I can really think of this early in the morning is:
1. Crusty Lips. You need natural African shea butter on them joints. You know you are far gone when Carmax can’t help you anymore. Don’t approach me with those Sahara lips.
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 10:08 am
YES. I agree on them lips… oh and crusty hands too, I cannot.
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This post was geared for the ladies, but I know the dudes have some standards as well. Even though you may not think so. For example:
1.) Hair on the legs. Some brothers like it au natural, I personally have stock in Bic. And there’s nothing like feeling on some smooth thighs… **Trailing Off For A Sec**
2.) No style. Everyone’s is different, I just ask that you have one.
2a.) Shoe game. Yes, I’ve been in the club before, looked a chick from head to toe and was stopped at the ankles. I couldn’t do it. I’m from NYC and my moms used to work in fashion. I wouldn’t even be able to bring her home!
3.) Too much attitude. I love a girl with a little ‘tude, but leave the ice queens on Broadway. There’s no need for your face to constantly look like you’re smelling bum piss on a hot summer day. No bueno mamacita!
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 10:09 am
LMAO. MY beautician had the hairiest legs I’ve ever seen on a woman. I was fascinated… (like seriously, does it itch?) She said her man loved it though.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 10:52 am
Y’know I’ve heard that some dudes can’t get enough of it, but yeah, not for me. To each his own!
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Yeah Whatev Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:00 pm
2a.) Shoe game. Yes, I’ve been in the club before, looked a chick from head to toe and was stopped at the ankles. I couldn’t do it. I’m from NYC and my moms used to work in fashion. I wouldn’t even be able to bring her home!
LOL I learned the importance of shoe game last year. I’ve never been much to be so hip into fashion but I have my own style. I’ve been so much into academic study that my style has been very careless throughout the years. For example, this really cute guy was checking me out on the train. He took out his cellphone and everything ready to holla, but then he saw my shoes and stopped short. I wore some extremely worn out silver Sketcher flats (my favs) that day. He judged my whole person based on some darn shoes. LOL. Oh well his lost.
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TIff I was about to go INNN on that Lightskin comment! LMAO! U lucky!
I did a post similar for fellas, pertaining to relationships:
http://www.examiner.com/x-4625-NY-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner~y2009m2d25-Top-5-Relationship-DealBreakers
Here’s my #1 though, let me know if you cosign:
#1- Invasions of privacy (My answer to Essence): Lil Wayne’s Mrs Officer shed light that there are some sexy/beautiful law enforcement women out there, HOWEVER that doesn’t mean I’m into FBI induced behavior when dealing with a shorty! All the private eye behavior (breaking into phones, email accounts, checking garbage cans,etc) earns you an immediate release from your contract. I don’t do it, nor do I ever feel compelled to snoop, so I don’t think she should either! Ladies, you can tell me all you want about “women’s intuition” and finding something knowing you were right. Sorry, it’s STILL wrong. Fellas, if your shorty ever finds out damaging info on you by super-duper snoopin, please cite that the bill of rights Fourth Amendment protects you from unlawful search and seizure and without a proper warrant, that “evidence” is inadmissible in your conversation.
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Streetz, why were you about to go in? you are not lightskinned. LMAO.
I’m cool with all except the height and the light skinned. being barely 5’3, its not a dealbreaker for me–I’ve dated 5’6 dudes before and I was fine with it. I don’t have a complexion preference either, just that you be some shade of brown.
I also agree with the add ins no stank breath, and a sense of style.
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In addition to those nuances which you’ve so eloquently described, I could not date a man with ugly hands and feet. I’m sorry, but this is a big dealbreaker for me. I realize some folk are just born with ugly toes, and that’s fine. You just need to keep it movin to someone less insensitive of that fact.
Also, big white tube socks are not the move with sandals…no matter what type. Stop it.
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Being of the light skinned crowd, I need a girl (part 3) that isn’t darker than me. Voice is a big thing too she has to have a nice sound to her. Dark indian ladies need not apply.
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Reecie Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 9:44 am
interesting. I usually see guys with women that are opposite of them. very light date darker women, and vise versa.
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 10:20 am
I thought people geared toward opposites too!
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Doc S Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:31 pm
Maybe I am just a diff breed?
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I don’t really have deal breakers, they are more side-eye points. If a really nice guy approaches me and he’s 5’6 to my 5’5″ I’ll side eye him but possibly allow the infarction if he’s bringing more to the table. Also, I detest skinny men, I’ll take a man with rolls over a skinny man any day.
Sides that, I’m pretty easy going except, I really want a man that goes to church. I probably wouldn’t date someone if he wasn’t saved.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 10:57 am
Don’t you start that Church stuff here today.lol.
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Tha Management Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 1:05 pm
LoL. Its the truth. I used to not care but now I’d just like a non heathen … and I don’t want to have to trick you into becoming saved just so you can get with me, lol.
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**exhales into palm of breathe***
Smells aight to me.
I got your back Seatle.
1) Low Slope of your Curve: No flat backsides. **Mike Singletary Voice** Can’t Win with em, Can’t Work with em. Can’t have them on my team. Wont do it**
I could type for hours about the horror I feel when I see a thigh that turns into a back. What are you a barbie? Eat something? Its called chicken. How do you even do froggy with your tailbone attacking my pelvic.
2)Religious Fanatics. Being a non-believer is hard, I’m not going to find a girl with my skeptical approach to life, I accept that. But I’ll be damn if I’m with someone who tries to convince me of the fairy tail she believes. Yeah I get it, you have an imginary friend who justifies everything on earth instead of taking responsiblitly for your own actions, congrads.
3) Hair that grows anywhere lower than your Nose. See Seatle’s Blog Post.
4)Any mention of excrement from your body: I am not ten years old. Bathroom humor does not entertain me. I don’t want to know what you do when you are in there. As far as I’m concerned you don’t even do that. And with that in mind….
5)When you menstruate, stay the hell away from me. That is disgusting. It may be natural, But its disgusting.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 11:00 am
LOL Cheekz. You prolly just salted a good number of people that visit here, but who am I to shun freedom of speech. I support the sentiment about women in the bathroom. All they do is pididdle and drop small spheres of potpourri.
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niasmomma Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 11:07 am
*sigh*
Cheekz…
I do so dig your honesty, but you’re crazy as hell! And you know it and make no apologies for it… Crazy I tellya.
Fact: Women boo-boo, too.
It’s a sign of good health and non-pregnancy and it only lasts a few days. Get. Over. It.
Opinion: Unless you’re keen on populating the Earth, when your chick/girl/wifey gets her period, you SHOULD be glad… I know I am every month!
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Remi Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
niasmomma ” – “It’s a sign of good health and non-pregnancy and it only lasts a few days. Get. Over. It.” I completely co-sign this.
A man who is afraid of menstruation is a deal breaker for me because that is a big part of what makes a woman a female. I’m not going to announce that I’m on, but if you are that childish about the female reproductive system, you probably are childish about other things, in addition to being very suspect, and we cannot hang.
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CHeeKZ McPuzzled Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
So when you go through Menopause, you are not a woman any more?
BOOOOOOOOOOOO!
I don’t know what kind of men you are dealing with. But no one I know wants to be around that mess. Ill be honest, I think you are prematurely applying the word suspect to fit around anything to save face. Trying to call something ghey just to pump your feminist fist is just as immature as anything I could say.
Its not like I said don’t have one or I complained about you having one. Just don’t expect me to want to hang.
Stop taking it personal. There are alot of things that our bodies do that is completely disgusting. Do you want to be around me when I’m having a wet dream? Or are you going to let my morning wood poke you in your back?
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:14 pm
“Do you want to be around me when I’m having a wet dream? Or are you going to let my morning wood poke you in your back?”
I don’t know about anyone else but ummmm, yeah?
lol
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Reecie Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
I totally agree with this. definite dealbreaker. babies throw up and shit too–sometimes all over you. does that mean you not gonna have any kids?
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CHeeKZ Money Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 3:50 pm
@Nicki…. ok I picked a bad example
@reecie. I’m still going to have kids dispite the fact that sometimes they can be gross. but when i know they are throwing up i am not going to point their mouth at my face! and say “yeah! its wonderful to experience this with you son. the joys of fatherhood.”
So if you ‘re going thru it, I not going to let you rub your bare crotch on my new Artful Dodgers Jeans. If I know you re moody, tired, cramping, easily irritable WHY ON EARTH WOULD I SURROUND MYSELF WITH YOUR PRESSENCE. Think of the kind of person you ladies know me to be, WOULD YOU WANT ME AROUND YOU DURING THAT TIME? Would I just be making the situation worse?!?
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Terry Lang Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
Dude, everytime you make a post I feel like lunging at you. LOL
At any rate, I appreciate your comments – honesty is ALWAYS the best policy
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and1grad Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
Not only do I co-sign but I damn near want to put money in your paypal for this. Amen. (or not)
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CHeeKZ McPuzzled Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
Jeez Guys.. I don’t get it. After I was accused of being a homo rapist last friday, I really tried to turn it down a notch. I haven’t even mention anal in two weeks.
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Remi Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 3:42 pm
I think you need to stop taking it personal. It’s not that serious. I was just expressing my opinion the same way you were. And for the record, if a woman is going through menopause, she had her period at one point in her life, so you aren’t making sense. But at any rate, you need to calm down.
I agree with Nicki on the wet dreams…:) I don’t mind that.
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CHeeKZ Money Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 4:23 pm
@REMI
**LITES A FIRE. OPENS UP A BOTTLE OF WHITE WINE. SITS DOWN ON A BEAR-SKINNED RUG. LOOKS DEEPLY IN REMI’S EYES**
NAW GIRL, LET ME TALK TO YOU FOR A MINUTE. I did get tight when I read your comment. Let me explain something to you. Its not that I dissrespect your opinion. But you tried to use the threat of men being called ghey as a way to influence our course of action. Suspect is a very fragile word when it comes to men. And you called me out baby…
Remi: I think its suspect if any guy doesn’t take his girl shopping every sunday.
EasilyImpressionableDudes: Well I don’t want hot girls like Remi to think I’m ghey so I better take my girl shopping and miss the football game.
It offensive to the ghey readers of threewaytotakeit. I have said some suspect things on this website… but that madame was not one of them.
NOW GET YOUR OVULATING behind off my Polar Bear Rug!
And y’all need to look up Nocturnal Emission.. I fail to see what is so great about me spewing in my shorts while fast asleep? Even Paris Hilton doesn’t think that is hot.
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Remi Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 6:01 pm
Lol @ that scenario, but your reasoning is not parallel and so I still stick to my opinion b/c if you are afraid of something that happens to many females (yes there are a small number of females who never have never had periods), but a major part of what makes a female a female, then it is suspect to me and immature.
And, I know you’re not trying to throw in that ghey readers may be offended by my comment, when you may have offended some females with yours. You didn’t like my comment. Cool, but yours was no better. But it’s still all smiles on this end.
* Proceeds to sit on Cheekz’ polar beer rug, while menstruating*
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CHeeKZ Mac Reply:
June 9th, 2009 at 8:40 am
“Grrrrrr”
U better be plugged up well, homie.
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i also posted something similar to this:
http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/2009/04/turnoffs.html
my list included:
~bad feet
~chipped fingernail polish
~new growth
i will go further and add:
~bad breath
~excessive weight
~for the most part light skin chicks (i will make exceptions though)
~bushy eyebrows
~bad shoe game
~bad teeth
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Yeah Whatev Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 1:43 pm
~new growth LOL you don’t dig the au natural huge black fros I guess. That sucks. Oh well.
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If I can smell foul odors on a guy, and it looks like he doesn’t shower and has a lot of dirt under his nails…no bueno.
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Yeah Whatev Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 1:50 pm
yeah most women are not attracted to street bums.
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I can’t rock w everybody on the short thing, I’m quite okay w a short guy. As long as your eye level when we’re barefoot, I’m cool. I think it takes a supreme level of confidence for a man who’s my apx height to be out with a 5’5 woman in 5″ heels (I LOVE me some serious heels).
Anyway, I cannot get down with:
Dirty fingernails – If you can’t take care of simple ish that you know I can see, the rest of your hygiene is instantly thrown into question. This is slightly relaxed if you’re a mechanic or something, but still so major.
Dry/chapped/ashy lips – That is gonna end any s*xual thought I had of you, right there. Can’t do it.
Cheap/dirty shoes – ugh. You’re to grown to be wearing Sketchers to work. I’m not saying you must have on Crockett & Jones or the latest hyperstrikes, but at least look like you care!
There certainly more, but those will cause me to hit the breaks within seconds.
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1. False sense of entitlement – I don’t care what you think you should have, I ain’t ya daddy.
2. Broke- self explanatory. I can’t have you AND uncle sam digging thru my pockets. Get ya own bread.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 8:52 pm
Physical deal breakers.
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I get extremely turned off by chicks that on a date or within a short amount of time hanging out start criticizing or talkin ish about other people in public. Drives me nuts and will quickly get you canceled out.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 8:52 pm
Interesting.
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Physically: – man boobs (men shouldn’t have titties – period), -too skinny, -bad teeth, -bad skin/horrible acne, -long/dirty nails (fingernails or toenails – YUCK), -any type of detectable, permeating funk, -knocked knees
Other: -sociopathically dishonest, -unemployed, -children, -lives at home
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Tunde Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 12:00 pm
i know what you mean to say but on your last point. where should a man live if not at home? someone else’s house perhaps?
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Can’t quite agree on the short thing… I am a good 5’2″ AND a half. With heels I’m pushing a 5’5″ maybe 5’6″. Anything shorter than that need not apply…
Skinny… I am thickiekinz and if you are 132 soaking wet, exit stage left. I like a little tummy but no maboobs. Also please no body builders either. Muscles are not a turn on.
Overlygroomed… being from NYC allows me to appreciate a gritty grimy look. Don’t be dirty but if I open your medicine cabinet and see anything that says for exfoliation purpose I will let myself out of contractual agreements.
Dirty nails, & unkept hair. Please get a damn haircut and/or shapeup. Take something anything and clean your damn nails.
Don’t even approach me with your unbraided hair in a ponytail.
Lastly, mispronounciation of simple words like supposebly.
Tis all.
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Terry Lang Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 12:45 pm
“Supposebly” – LOL, I feel you on that one.
I went to George Wingate in brooklyn (hood HS, don’t even ask) and I remember once this dude that liked me said to me, while I was waiting outside my homegirls class, “I don’t appeciate you standing in front of this door.” I remember saying to him, “shut yo’ dumb-ass up!” lol
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Nyela Goodness Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
omg co-sign. how bout “lab-top” and “lye-berry.” ::cringe::
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ashbunnie Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
And this is the very reason why I’m studying to be a high school english teacher. Its funny at first, but then it turns into sad, then I just pity the fool who can’t turn ebonics off.
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Wow, I guess light-skinned people really are out of style.
*Terry goes and hides in a corner*
Living in NYC you don’t need a car, but you can’t still live at home with your parents (basement dwellers also need not apply). Men with kids and social ignorance, smokers, beer bellies, man boobies, small hands, short men (below 5’10), broke ninjas (if you bitching about a $10 cover, don’t even step up to me), braids, dreads, afros, waves (i hate that ish, unless it’s organic, but if you’re applying all types of gook, get a life), vegans (i hate y’all), if you wear sneakers all the time and the only type of “shoe” you have are Tims, smart-asses that think they know it all (I don’t respect you), man-whores, womanizers, a man without a watch and this post is geting too long, so lastly, self-centered men – all these don’t get even a second glance from me.
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ashbunnie Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 12:28 pm
Lmao. I love it. Especially your hatred for vegans.
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RightCoastLexSteele, MonBijou's Finest Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:40 pm
So uh…you don’t like men, huh?
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Seattle Washington Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 3:38 pm
You read my mind friend.
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Terry Lang Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 5:42 pm
Oh, baby, I love men. I’ll give a good man the last dollar in my pocket if I have to.
I’m writing about the type of man that I’m not attracted to. The ones that don’t share the same interests that I do.
Look at y’all two, the moment a sister starts listing things she doesn’t like with the less-than desirable men out there, you all starting thinking it’s man-bashing.
Are all men man-whores? Are all men womanizers? Do all men wear afros, braids, live in their momma’s basement? Of course not, but those that do, don’t get any play from me.
Simple as that. Ya dig?
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Don’t get me wrong I like and agree with some of these deal breakers but, honestly it’s not that serious. Yes, I have my standards and guys that I would definitely go for but, I don’t have the time or the energy to put this much thought into it. Either I like you or I don’t period. And nothing is going to change that.
Basically, because I have a job of course, I want a man with one. That to me is just common sense, not a deal breaker. I mean, come on, you date people that are within your circle. So, all I’m saying is for all of you with these strict requirements and stipulations, one: make sure you possess what you require and two: dating outside the box can be fun
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ashbunnie Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
Blah.
Honey, as you can tell, men have a preference. And they are a lot more open to share their preference and a lot less willing to budge on what they like. So why can’t we (we being beautiful successful albeit picky women) be the ones to decide who we want and who we don’t. Respect your thoughts on dating outside the box. But my box says it likes darkskin, taller than I, non-metrosexual, and proper-speech-speaking individuals. So all others, go somewhere and meet someone without standards. Because, I, Ash Bunniekinz, will not budge.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 8:57 pm
This is all in good fun. Of course the rules can bend a little. Even with all that you have said, I’m sure there are way more things what you will not deal with from/on a dude. If a peg legged midget with only his two front teeth limped up to you and tried to holla, do tell me you’d give him a chance.
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I hear a lot of women talk about if a dude lives at home, thats a dealbreaker. Is there no exception for this? I know many dudes who stay home to stack money and within a due time moved out and made it happen, instead of taking a risk and moving back. Whats the statute of limitations on that?
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ashbunnie Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:06 pm
Good point Sir Streetz. For me this is not a dealbreaker. It becomes one when you are living with mommy and mommy is your source of life.
Example: ma, I need to eat. Did you cook dinner?
Ma, I have no clean graws, can you wash my clothes.
Ma, I have no money. Can I hold 78 dollars?
Ma, I need gas and/or carfare to get to work.
I’m all for the stacking of bread. But if you my friend are essentially surviving off of mom dukes, please proceed to exit stage left.
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Terry Lang Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
My sentiments exactly.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 8:59 pm
I think “it depends” on why he’s “living at home” i.e. are his parents sick? Helping out with the younger sibs? Trying to make big moves (can’t just be living there just to live there)? So Streetz, I can rock with you on this. There may be some exceptions.
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Being Light Skinned.
Sike. haha. I love do me a dark skinned man though. ::shivers::
Being a smooth chocolate girl. Deep, dark chocolate in the summer. I get approach by mostly caramel to very light skinned guys. That’s what I prefer actually. No it’s not a color complex or anything. I’m just more physcially attracted to them. Doesn’t mean I have never been attracted to a guy closer to my complexion but it is less likely. Something called Opposites attract.
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ashbunnie Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
That’s interesting. Being darkskinned, I don’t really like lightskinned guys. I am a dark chocolate, so mocha/light chocolate is what usually tickles my fancy.
Dated one lightskinned guy. Like almost spanish looking. Didn’t last. So he kinda set the precedent for my color adventures. They’re cute but not my style. Give me a guy with my complexion or darker (with superb pearly white teeth of course) and I’ll be happy.
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Ash Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 3:06 pm
I’m a milk chocolate girl and am usually attracted to lighter guys. But, I’m recently single and would LOVE to expand my horizons and talk to a chocolate guy. I mean, I do think they’re cute, I’ve just never tried one!
How about they pay me no attention? I get stepped to all the time by the Drake doppleganger, but no chocolate men. Too much of the same, I guess…LOL!
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I can co-sign a host of these ladies let me add:
…….I don’t do guts
man boobs
out of shape
flabby,
soft,
pudgy
chubby
FAT or any of that..cause I puts in that body work dude and its harder for a woman to maintain so ummm the really out of shape need not apply…
I don’t like SWOLE like BUSTa RHYMES type dudes neither….
Bad hygeine
jacked up grill
anything below 5’10
small d*cks like 5 in’ or less
Ignorant/Uncouth
Psycho/Controlling
Insecure/clingy.needy
Trifling
Chinchy as in CHEAP mofos
DL dudes/Metrosexual= OVERLY groomed as in eye brow arches etc
Players/Manwhores
Braids/Dreads
corny, wack, bamarific mofos etc etc etc
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CHeeKZ Money Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 2:53 pm
Wow… she actually called out the Inches.
**pulls out ruler and walks to restroom before he hollas**
Thanks for going easy on us. Some of these chicks OD with the 12+ request.
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OrangeStar616 Reply:
June 8th, 2009 at 3:56 pm
LMAO nah I don’t need Mr.Ed rearranging and damaging internal organs…. a horse is a horse of course of course LOL…….
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yeah the Narcissisitic self centered SELFISH a-hole inconsiderate its ALL about them type dudes noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!
Baby father x 2 or 3 +
dudes with infants/toddlers….child got to be at least 7 NO crazy baby mothers
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Lemme throw this out there about looks esp the chicks demanding the Adonis look (Which is same as mens’ over demanding looks on women). HGH and Anabolic steroids in the hardcore workout circuit is common like weed in a hipster party.
Designed to not ad bulk but rather make one look lean and sculpted lots of men in the entertainment industry and in wrestling are using them. This is the drug the baseball players caught using steroids were taking. Women do surgery, men do HGH.
Working out was something once done to maintain good strength and overall health but it is now a multi billion dollar industry driven by the multitude of ancillary business that have cropped up since the early 80′s. I brought a weight set in the late 90′s never had a gym memebership. I never became a workout nut just would while in college try to maintain a workout here and there. Yet though I did gain weight toward getting out of school but in the last 18 months I lost 40lbs and as a result the by product is a better look for me. I do workout on the reg now but its more for my health not so much as a demand that if I date Jackie Joyner Kersee type chick unless she was a former track runner but otherwise this draconian demand we have placed on ones physique does seem at times very vain.
BTW I am 33 live for dolo, no kids have a degree and own a business but I am only 5′ 9″ so I am DOA on just about all the ladies list.
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OrangeStar616 Reply:
June 9th, 2009 at 11:10 am
5’9 ain’t bad dude LOL…..Adonis not really, just in shape guy, not necessarily RIPPED just in shape/fit/strong
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