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When Mr. Washington Meets Miss Robinson
I Couldn't Have Said It Better
There are all types of criteria that people have when finding a suitable significant other. I’ve heard everything from height to jobs to skin color to someone’s level of education being used to determine whether someone is boyfriend/girlfriend material. Scratch that, to determine whether they’re even “dateable.” And age is up there too. More often than not, it’s a minimum age requirement if you’re not R.Kelly. But what about the other end of the spectrum? How old is too old nowadays?
I say nowadays, because things are a bit different in 2010 compared to ten years ago or even five. There are several factors that allow people of different ages to frolic with youngbloods without a care:
1. Mrs. Robinson is now becoming Miss Robinson at an all time rate. The divorce rate is higher, leaving a lot of older women with steady deposits in their bank account and lots of time to make up for lost time.
2. Plastic surgery is now a real life Photoshop. A human Barbie doll maker plastic surgeon can turn that mediocre 50 year old into a semi-attractive woman that appears to be in her late 30s. With better breasts than she had when she was 25. And she has the money to do so. See above.
3. For those who never jumped the broom, it’s no longer that taboo to be single and over the age of 30. Women can justifiably rock out as long as their eggs let them. And don’t let anyone tell you different girl.
4. Plus with all the technological/nutritional advances we have now, ladies can freeze those eggs if they want, then dine at Whole Foods and eat as much raw food as they can digest to preserve the rest of their bodies until they get a sperm donor suitor of their liking.
And that’s just me joking around. I’m sure there’s a 50 year old woman out there with tons of legitimate reasons why she’s playing bedroom tennis with a man (or woman) half her age. I’m sure she had to have some pretty good ones for her girls and that guy’s mom.
Regardless of the reason, there is no doubt an influx of older women in the dating pool. So the age cap is now a question that’s more top of mind. I’ve never been opposed to dating women older than me. The majority of women I’ve dated have been older, with a cap of about 5 yrs. I was 17, she was 21/22. Man that was fun. Sorry, I digress. Like I said, I only bring this up because it’s happening more often. When I meet women now, they tend to be a few years to almost a decade older than me. And that seems to be the case for most men in the dating pool. Now I’m not complaining. At all. Just trying to figure out if it’s appropriate for that cougar to hit on my mid-20 year old ass and if I should play the roll of wounded gazelle or charge on. Honestly most of the time, “I can’t run that fast.”
I’m more than willing to date a woman who’s older than me, but I don’t think I could date a woman who was 10 years my senior. Why? Well, there’s the generation gap. I’d have to explain why I’m tweeting, why my friends write in acronyms, what the hell a #swindle is and who Jay Electronica is. I’m generalizing I know, but seriously I’m sure there would be some cultural and pop culture things we wouldn’t see eye-to-eye on. And then there’s the family. Not to say my family has a huge say in my relationships, but I’m sure my mom would give me the O_O followed by the o_O if I brought a woman home that could be her not-so-little sister.
What about you guys? Do you have an age limit? Ladies, I realize this was more about the male perspective, but would you date someone younger than you if you were the cougar on the prowl? Or would you get yourself a little sugar daddy? Let’s get this conversation started.
Seattle – Miss Robinson, I’ll Gladly Be Your Pool Boy – Washington
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Sometimes I think I have early onset cougarism because I’ve seen more than one 18-year-old I would glady snatch up (once they hit 21). If I’m single when I’m 40+ I’ll prolly entertain some young tenderonies. Then again I have quite a few crushes on men 40+ (don’t judge me). One of which makes me giggle like a school girl every time I see him and his smile (silver hair and all). Certain situtations just call for robbing the graveyard (or robbing the cradle). Besides, age ain’t nothing but a number (no Aaliyah).
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Let me tell you a lesson, I learned in Undergrad from a wildly veteran: Grad Parties! Granted most of us are the age of Grad students now, but you get the point. Just keep moving up the age later.
I have no age limit. I love the attitude older women have. They are less concerned with keeping up appearances and keeping their bed number low.
They want their space after their failed marriages. Plus they sex doesn’t get good for women until they turned 30.
O lord. I remember my boss from my summer position freshman year. @ 19 working on a 36 year old. Only thing is you have to perform well, no misfires. My boss told me flat out, if I bust early she is telling the entire office.
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shubby doo Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 2:03 am
lol@ telling the whole office at any misfires…o lawdy…no pressure then!!!
p.s
yes our sexual peak is our 30s…plus the older one gets, it becomes more about enjoying everything for what it is…experiences become more about self awareness than self discovery
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A couple of years ago I was vehemently opposed to getting with someone younger than me. But over the last little while I’ve become more relaxed about it. I find that men in their twenties are a little easier to deal with than men my own age.
At the same time, I also realize that I have way higher standards when it comes to younger men (This is actually the subject of tomorrow’s post on my blog). Behaviour I might let slide a time or two from a man my age will get a young dude cut off quick. I think I feel that I’m compromising my standards a bit by entertaining him so he must work harder to impress me. Which is unfair, I know. I need to work on that.
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I’ve actually said that if I’m single in my late 30s/40s, I too will be on the prowl for a younger man. I’ve said it kinda jokingly, but seems like it could be fun.
On the flip side, at this age, I don’t think I could date a man more that 6 or 7 years older than me. I “dated” men who were in their early to mid-30s a few years back and at times I felt too young, whatever that means. As I get older, the generational-gap-feeling may close, so who knows.
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All thru my life I have attracted younger men. I look alot younger then I really am..my ex husband was four years my junior..and my current SO is also four years my junior…four years doesn’t really make a huge difference….I probably would go ten my junior. I like younger men…they’re fun,they have stamina and I just appreciate what a younger man can bring to the table…..the problem arises in matters of maturity, but that is another topic for another day….
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LCD Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 9:17 am
At 19 I look 16 (or 15) so needless to say, I will get looked at by high school boys more than guys my own age and up. But that’s when maturity comes into play. A 19 year old male will be 16 or 17 in maturity years where as a 17 year old will be like 14. Maybe I’ll look at younger dudes seriously one day when I’m not able to be cradle robbed anymore. I like ‘em older and my limit is *thinks* he can’t be old enough to be my father or older than my father who’s 56 (ewww… ‘cept Denzel #don’tjudgeme) so… mid 20′s – mid 30′s *cough* for now *cough*
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Oh Yes! If I’m single in my late 30′s to 40′s I have no problem dating a younger guy….but I’m not sure about doing much else with them. I see them as a means of plain and simple fun. Knowing myself I know I’ll have a hard time taking the whole thing seriously unless he’s damn good at showing me he’s serious.
I prefer older men though, always have, but these older guys will just be plain ol’ old by the time I get to their age lol.
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I have to admit, I’m one of those women who doesn’t believe people should place barriers on themselves when it comes to dating, particularly with an age range. Being 23, typically I’ve found myself dating around the 29-32 age range, however, I’ve recently been dating someone who is 15 years my senior. We have a great time together and we see the world the same way. Granted he’s substantially further along in his career than mine, but I never FEEL any significant differences. The only time it bothers me is when I think of the future, and about how if things were to progress he’d be an older father, and that maybe eventually the age difference would start to show; i.e. when I’m 40, and he’s 55. But, then again, who’s promised tomorrow? I say go for whatever if it makes you happy. That’s what life is all about.
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I went back to the yard this weekend and I found out that one of my old freshman tenderoni’s (she was a frosh when I was a sr, so she turns 21 this year) is dating a 36 yo. #blown I wasnt jealous but more suprised but I guess if I was that old I might get me some 20 yo drawers too.
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I’ve never dated anyone younger than me. Well, does 4 months count?
I haven’t dated anyone my age since undergrad, and now, the men I date are all 30+. I will officially officially be in my late 20′s next week, so my max dateble age will increase from 32-33, maybe 34. I’m looking forward to it.
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CHeeKZ Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 2:21 pm
please define late 20s.
***I fear being included in this catergory**
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N.I.A.naturally Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 2:29 pm
I’ll be 28 next week, the 6th.
Don’t be scared, CHeeKZ. Embrace it. Enjoy it.
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Ms. Cherry Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 2:32 pm
Dude if you’re 27+ just let it go… you’re damn near 30. Just accept it and keep it movin’ lol!
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CHeeKZ Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 4:11 pm
damn!
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Hmm, and here I thought this post would be a juicy retelling of Seattle’s first Mrs Robinson experience. *pout* Maybe next time?
Seriously, though, good post and very true. Cougars are taking over the world and I ain’t mad at ‘em. Mostly because I’mma be one in the future, judging by all the high schoolers that hit on me. o_O I know I got a babyface, but…Um, no, I will NOT be the female Kels. Anyhow, that will work to my advantage when I hit the big 3-0 and beyond.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 10:43 am
How can I resist that face? Lol.
Maayyyybe next time. But if we weren’t banned by offices before, we certainly will be after that.
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Cheekie Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 1:31 pm
“How can I resist that face? Lol.”
It’s mathematically impossible.
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Cheekie Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 1:36 pm
Oh, and this:
“But if we weren’t banned by offices before, we certainly will be after that.”
Makes me even more curious. #youseatease
But, I certainly understand the caution! lol
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…And if anyone is interested in dating a cougar, please click on that Cougar Life banner on the side. You’ll get a hot 40+ year old woman and we’ll get some ad revenue.
It’s a win/win!
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I’ve always been mostly drawn towards men 4-5 years older than me. I rarely date men my own age. I’m not 100% sure why. I think it’s because I prefer to be submissive (you can take that however you’d like). Don’t get me wrong, I know how to assert myself and take the lead, but I’d rather navigate while you take the helm.
As of right now, I can’t see myself dating a younger man. I’m 29 and for the most part, I find men under the age of 25 to be completely obnoxious. Seriously… sorry kiddos but you give me migraines. There’s also a generation gap that’s hard for me to get over. There’s a difference between being born in the 80s and being an 80′s baby. If you never owned a 45, if your first Nintendo was a Super Nintendo, if you never tried to breakdance up a wall w/ a broom, or collected Garbage Pail Kids… iCant date you. #kanyeshrug
On dating up… I’m really hesitant about dating a man more than 6 or 7 years older than me. Mostly because I fear they might not be able to keep up with me sexually. I have a high sex drive. There’s always Viagra, but I need you to physically be up to task, not just phallically (is that a word?). I’m the type of woman who likes to get it as good as I give it. If I’m the only one putting in work imma have to tender my resignation.
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Another thing…
I’ve always attracted older men. I used to have the hardest time attracting boys my age in middle school, let alone high school. As a young 8th grader, it was scary to find that young men would try to holla at me. I loved foing to HS football games, but hated the attention I received by the 17-25 set. Now, I have old men in my father’s generation trying to holla at me. These men are either divorced or still married, and just looking for a little piece on the side. SMH @ old black male attorneys/business men who want to “mentor” me.
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Nick_L_Odeon Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 12:01 pm
THAT is me too… i laugh when they come by the office and wanna give me the “look”.. and i’m like, “i’m xeroxing your wife’s documents.. you CAN’T be serious..” do they think i’ll be SO happy that i’m gettin hollered at that i’ll take whatever comes..
it’s not attractive uncle Rufus… so sorry
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Cheekie Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 1:33 pm
Same here. While I do attract younger guys because I look younger, that actually makes sense. It’s the old fogies I ALSO attract that makes me pause. I mean, lookin’ EXTRA hard. I automatically assume they’re a registered child sex offender. Talmbout, “Hey beautiful”. I’m like, Um, yeah, *politesmile*. Why can’t niccas my OWN age be this dayum vocal. I hate ya’ll menses sometimes.
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MyzDevyneOne Reply:
May 27th, 2010 at 6:03 pm
HAYLE YAHZ.
If one mo’ “I’m about 2 years from Poligrip and Viagra” aged man tries to get at me…LOL!
Had this dude hit me on a personals ad, and this joker was 65. 65 dawg?!? You have GRANDKIDS my age!!! WTFrench Toast!?!
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well thank you Seattle.. i’m over 30, and it’s nice to know i can be single all i want.. (tell that to the people that live in Miami!)
i got an issue with dating younger.. but that’s just me.. i know that some guys are mature for their age, but there’s some things that the 20′s are used for.. s*xploration being one of them.. partyin, and all that other stuff.. and i’ll be D*mned if i let you get that out of your system when we’re together.. #callmewhenyouresober
this isn’t coming from a place of closed-mindedness.. i’ve dated younger.. and yes, it was a problem (for him too) when we’d be out, and he couldn’t order a drink.. the maturity (or lack thereof) became a problem..
however, i DO notice that because i look younger than i am (and have the freedom to act younger too) that there’s a myriad of 20 to mid-20 year olds that wanna get at me.. to balance this out, it seems like the 50-something year old men love me too.. however, i think it’s because they’re looking for a young tenderoni and wanna rush my application #nosir.. i don’t find it attractive..
and like i said, yes, i know that there are mature 20-something year olds, and maybe my experience hasn’t been with the mature ones.. i guess i’d take it on a case by case basis..
OH!! Congrats Seattle, on the amount of money you raised!!
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Cheekie Reply:
April 27th, 2010 at 1:35 pm
“well thank you Seattle.. i’m over 30, and it’s nice to know i can be single all i want..”
O_O
*looks at avatar* *thinks about previous avatar you just had*
Wait, #YOULIE. You are not even close to 30!
Go, girl!
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i’m 28 (will be 29 this year) and i’ve never dated a woman more than 3 years my senior. i couldn’t seriously date a woman more than 5 years older than me. as far as dating i think i’m at the point where i want my relationships to be serious. that being said, i don’t think i could see myself settling down with someone that much older than me.
now if we’re talking about cougar action i don’t think i have an age restriction, as long as she looks the part.
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Just thought about this… I have a friend whose mom is cougar. When we first met freshman year of college I was stunned by how young her “dad” looked. I found out later he was her step-father. At the time he was 32 and her mom was 52. They’d just gotten married a year or so before. They seem pretty happy, but to this day it’s still a little weird to me.
Her mom likes to sew, and I remember the first time I went to her house over winter break, her mom and step-dad had on matching animal print fleece, sweat suits that she had made… o_O
Took everything in my power not to fall out laughing lol. I just kept looking at dude like WORD?!?! It’s that good huh? It seemed a bit like she’s pimpin and he’s simpin but they’ve been together for over 10yrs now, so… I guess to each is own.
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im usually just a lurker but this post is right up my alley. i love me some younger men, they are just so cute and accomodating. im fairly young myself (19) and have a crush on a 17 year old, cant wait till he turns 18 so i can snatch him up *walks away in shame*
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im usually just a lurker but this post is right up my alley. i love me some younger men, they are just so cute and accomodating. im fairly young myself (19) and have a crush on a 17 year old, cant wait till he turns 18 so i can snatch him up *walks away in shame*
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I was feeling some kinda way about the older womam/younger man thing. If the 28-34 year old guys are getting snapped up by the 35-45 year old women, where does that leave my nearly 28 year old self?? I have a rule; my mom was a young wife/mother, so she had me at 19. I can’t bring home no man who is closer to my mother’s age than mine, so that means after 37 its a wrap for suitors.
Now, I’m dating a 25 year old. LOL He’s pretty mature for his age, and VERY eager to please. Might be something to this older woman/younger man thing after all.
#ImNotACougarYetTho
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