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Predator or Prey?
SEATTLE: The traditional train of thought of men hitting women over the head with a club and dragging them back to the cave may be gone. The ratios have swapped as women’s standards have gotten higher. As the number of eligible bachelors dwindle and women get more comfortable in their lovely skin, they are the ones walking around with the clubs. And I’m just a cute seal with a nice pelt. Just look around in cities where there are more women than eligible, straight men, ahem, Atlanta. It could be something as little as them buying you a drink at the bar to as big as seizing opportunities so she’s more ingrained in your life. She could be the lion waiting to pounce on you for that night or the fox patiently waiting behind the bush. Either way she’s coming for you.
SLIM: And coming is sometimes what it’s all about. In my years of observing and learning about those that call themselves women, I’ve started to realize they aren’t the victims of trickery as often as they claim to be. In an era where everybody is self-interested and women are consistently refining their search criteria, it’s safe to say that their games(wo)manship is evolving as well. So much trickery and deceit in them titties.
SW: Wonderbras, Spanks and Contacts aren’t the only tricks of the trade. For example, I remember one expedition in particular where RightCoastLexSteele, our friend Anaconda Jones and myself were hanging out at a watering hole, catching up and just being Cocksmen. As we’re shooting the ish, I notice a group of three women eyeing us like wounded gazelles from the other end of the bar. Cool. Nothing to fret about. The jokes and chilling proceeded as scheduled. And to continue the festivities, we tried to ask the bartender for another round. He walked passed us to help the women at the end of the bar. Irony was, they called him down to buy a round of drinks to us. Yahtzee! Bold? Yes. Did it get what they wanted – our attention & some nice conversation? Damn right. Just a microcosm of a movement that I’m seeing and I’m liking.
SJ: Ah yes, the instinctual pursuit of attention. It’s amazing how all the creatures on this wonderful green earth adapt to their environments. The cunning nature and increased aggressiveness of women is impressive. I respect the ability to hunt in lieu of the fact that resources are low and they continue to cut down good trees in their forests over a few petty branches (per numerous recent blog posts). But let’s not get it confused Seattle. Though this movement seems grand, these same predators very easily become the prey…when it’s convenient.
SW: I don’t know Sir Jackson. How many times have you been on an expedition and suddenly fallen into an unexpected trap? Like when you’re chasing after Chick A and all of a sudden you’re talking to said chick’s homely friend. That kind of stuff is never an accident. The innocent fawn can quickly turn into the Cougar. Literally. The older the woman, the more fine tuned her predatory skills are.
SJ: I actually agree. It’s some chameleon or black widow spider type ish. The appearance of being vulnerable (i.e. drunk, under the influence, recently had a break up) or emotional is one of their most renown qualities. Next thing you know you’re deep into sumthin wondering how you got there when it was part of her plan the whole time. Though I’m fan of this movement overall, I gotta say it exposes some ugliness as well homie. They’re dangerous. That’s why you’ll never catch me grazing in the field alone.
SW: Wingmaaaan! Always good to have someone watching your six when surrounded by a pack of lovely Pumas (the younger version of a Cougar). It’s hard not to get poached. But you know what, now that I know the game, I’m OK with that. I miss the chase a little bit, but nothing like being chased. Just today I got picked up on the street by some chick. Honestly, it put a little pep in my step. Do my fellas agree? Or are you a little uncomfortable with this new found nature? And ladies do you find yourself planning out safari hunting trips with your friends?
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I am not a hunter… I’m more of a baiter. Hunters are more aggressive than I and don’t mind rejection. I’d rather dangle myself out there on a line and wait to be snatched up.
I met my current man online… and I contacted him first. I didn’t straight up holla. I just sent him a note that said, I think you’re attractive (or something simple like that) and then he took over the rest. It was the best move I made.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 10:59 am
That’s a whole different kind of hunter right there. You still know what you’re doing, you’re just setting the trap instead of running out there full force. I see you still!
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 12:20 pm
LOL. I’ll take that.
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Streetz: Mr Monday Night Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
LOL yea Nicki u need more ppl. U pulled the Will Smith I Am Legend Move on your boo, lol
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
LMAO! It was a passive aggressive way of doing it though.
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Vanessa aka Miss V Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 1:50 pm
yeah i think i’m a baiter too… i’m all about strategic placement
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
Strategic placement???? Ahh, I like that.
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N.I.A. naturally.... Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 6:10 pm
LOL!! strategic placement is the best way to do it….
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lol. i’ve noticed this happening more and more myself. women are starting to become more and more aggressive. i still remember when i took that trip for a conference to san diego. i ended up going to this lounge for happy hour and ended up staying for the night. it was like bizzaro world. women were buying me drinks left and right. i wasn’t empty handed the entire night.
i don’t know if its because i just seemed that dashing and debonair that night, or women in san diego weren’t used a black man who was actually interested in black women. either way i wasn’t complaining. i wish stuff like that would happen more often. lol.
sidebar: do you think a woman has ever slipped a man a roofie?
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Streetz: Mr Monday Night Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 12:57 pm
its happened to me. Real Talk. I cant prove it, but it did. Ima write on it one day
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 6:18 pm
I’ve never purchased a drink for a dude, but I’m not afraid to approach and start up conversation. It’s kinda fun actually. It’s all about placement and timing.
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N.I.A. naturally.... Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
I’ve never purchased a drink for a dude, but I’m not afraid to approach and start up conversation. It’s kinda fun actually. It’s all about placement and timing.
Exactly…and this is best done when you are either out by yourself, or with just one of your girls.
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SJ
“The cunning nature and increased aggressiveness of women is impressive.”
SW
“ lovely Pumas (the younger version of a Cougar).”
Wow fella’s this post is exactly on the money. Pumas are Cougars in training. These women are deceivingly cunning. A lot of women in our time are increasing the efforts whether through “baiting or hunting with a pair of sexy legs and other tools of lure these ladies use. Cougars are especially luring because you know they are up to something but through well place baiting they attract your attention and then your just curious to see what this well refined cougar is serving and then Bam Bam! They Got you Partner. Ahh Geesh! Now your just trying to make it to the door. LOL!
Women are like a well thought out riddle; you have to figure out the niche to winning before you capture the ever so tantalizing Punnannnny!
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lol
I have been the aggressive one before, he didn’t call.
Usually when im the agressive one, dudes think im Fast, so I have stopped that.
I find I get more attention refusing their advances *shrugs* go figure
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“I find I get more attention refusing their advances *shrugs* go figure”
Men enjoy the thrill of the chase! Either its wam, bam, thank you mam or the chase but don’t play the middle. That’ll drive em away quickly…
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Never the hunter, but I’ll give the eye. I’m more like the enticing deer: grazing, minding my own business, I see you, I know you want to pin me down, but just remember whose woods you’re in.
I have this puppy analogy:
It’s fun to throw the dog a bone.
If he gets excited, I have something to entertain me from a distance for a few hours while I stay texting my man.
If he stares at it and walks away, then he was just as boring as he looked from across the room.
Which puppy’s next?
The Retired, Southern Wouldn’t Mount You If I Could Belle
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I was hunted once or twice. Its kind of scary to be honest, I almost always think “What’s wrong with this chick?”. The girls who are really good at wont even let you know you’re being hunted; you’ll just wake up and you’re being eaten (or eating) alive (not that that’s a bad thing).
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Slim Jackson Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 12:10 pm
“The girls who are really good at wont even let you know you’re being hunted; you’ll just wake up and you’re being eaten (or eating) alive (not that that’s a bad thing).”
This made me have to take a step away from a desk for intense laughter.
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Brookland's OWn Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 3:11 pm
“This made me have to take a step away from a desk for intense laughter.”
DITO!
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I don’t chase men darling, not my style……not a cougar or a puma but a tigress…….
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This actually only happens to me when you’re around. Thanks for the free beer homie!
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Seattle Washington Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 3:27 pm
Two fingers to the sky!
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The Anaconda Jones Experience Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 9:08 pm
Lex thats why you keep a Tall Goodlooking nigga with you, natural bait.
All women become chasers when you play the game right … Being the Ugliest Cocksman on Earth, I am constantly pursued by Hot women.
There’s three things that cause a women to chase you:
1) The way you look
2) The way you act
3) The way people treat you
Some guys get chased immiediately, women push through other women, make bold statements, etc… Hence why when we’re out with a MegaStar like Seattle or the President, we’re instantly mobbed.
Other guys with my kind of personality (Mr. Right), we get Tracked Down!! But its not immiediate, unless they already heard of you’re Legend.
Convo with my Uncle Boat:
Uncle – a woman knows what she wants and won’t let nothing stop her from getting it …
Me – word, and that means
Uncle – women can’t help but chase, if she’s not chasing you in some way, you’re not on her radar.
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I notice a group of three women eyeing us like wounded gazelles from the other end of the bar.
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I couldnt get past this. LMAO!!
I enjoy the subtle hunt, but to be hunted is ridiculous. I like a bold woman, not a pushy one. Honestly it does 1/2 the work for you because if shes intersted, all you have to do is play the course and make it happen!
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Seattle Washington Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 2:44 pm
Yeah, there’s a fine line between bold & pushy. I get instantly turned off by chicks who are on my back like a spider monkey. Not the move.
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RightCoastLexSteele, The Ambassador of All Things Arrogant Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 3:06 pm
Free beer!
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“Next thing you know you’re deep into sumthin wondering how you got there when it was part of her plan the whole time”
Can’t say I’ve never played some sort of role as a part of a larger plan, but is this not what dudes have been doing for ages? Some call it game. Cuz that’s all it is really. Men and women find out how they can strike, what flags to raise or leave tucked away for later. Next thing you know, later comes and you’re both looking for your draws in the morning wondering who gamed who.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 7:22 pm
Dudes haven’t been doing the I’m weak and vulnerable and I need to be saved thing for years. As far as I’m concerned, when women do this I consider it passive hunting…
and it’s not later that comes, it’s one or the both of you.lol.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
June 18th, 2009 at 9:08 pm
I’m talking about the plotting and planning thing. No matter what the approach, its the same thizzle.
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So have ya’ll done a post on approaching guys tactfully? I noticed that Ms. Jenkins said she is not afraid to do it. I, on the other hand, am scared. Maybe it’s because I’m young and haven’t learned. Please enlighten me….times are getting dire and it seems like all the cute guys are getting hunted nowadays. I don’t want to be left with the scraps lol
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Slim Jackson Reply:
June 22nd, 2009 at 8:22 am
I don’t think we’ve done a post on that specifically. Use the “Holler at Us” link at the top of the page and send us an email. I’m curious how you’re conducting your search at this point.
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liberianbeauty Reply:
June 22nd, 2009 at 5:21 pm
Wish I could say I had much of a search to conduct… When the hints (read: full come-on) I tried to drop on one of my male friends didn’t work out I resorted to “accidentally” running into boyfriends and sadly even hookups of yesteryear. Now I am left with an abundance of Mr. Right Nows.
It’s not right, but it’s ok.
Definitely dropping by “Holler at Us.” I need help as you can see.
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