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As I’ve said before, New York City is filled with the most gorgeous women in the world. This city’s streets are an aggregate and feature some of the best women from all over the world. If you go Uptown you’ll find the beautiful Black girls with multiple degrees and letters after their names. On the Upper West Side are those sexy Columbia girls in search of, well degrees and letters. On the Upper East Side are the White girls with pearls and Longchamps bags. Of course those Midtown mammas are always getting that money. And the Village girls are just too cool for school, that’s why most of them are models. I’m not going to go into the other boroughs, but as we all know Prince Hakim went to Queens to find his Queen. And this past weekend I went to a BBQ in Brooklyn and had to borrow a shopping cart to carry around my jaw. However after meeting some of the many pretty women in NYC and other places, I noticed a lot them have nothing past the surface. It’s a problem that many of my fellow men in the dating pool have encountered as well.
A lot beautiful women don’t have anything else going for them. I’m lumping those with degrees in as well. Just because a person has a degree doesn’t mean he or she is the cream of the crop now. Plies has a nursing degree. I’m just saying. Some of the pretty chicks (with degrees) I met aren’t home trained, are rude for no reason, aren’t doing much, have horrible communication skills and/or are just plain ol’ crazy. How is that possible? Well, we let them get away with that foolishness. How many times have you heard your boy, or yourself, say, “Yeah, she’s effing crazy man. I can’t stand her ass anymore. …But she’s just so damn bad.”
A couple weeks ago, I got a pretty poignant email regarding all this from my man, Mr Roarke aka Jesus’ cousin.
“I’m instituting a new [Man] law – The Ignore A Pretty Chick Law. Why is it that Pretty Chicks feel as if they can gain access to things, get away with things, slick talk and such on the strength of their faces? I’m looking at these whack ass hoes with pudgy bellies, Krispy Kreme doughnut sides, puckering their lips, demanding drinks, food, the whole nine yards and they aren’t bringing anything to the table? WTF?”
“Some of these whores think that they are so pretty that they can wake up in the AM and go get the world. They refuse to fix their flaws – go to the gym, be polite, be independent, etc. [And] all because sucker for love ass [Negroes] love them up and give them the world while [defecating] on all the other women who are actually doing the damn thing! So I tell the real men out there – please ignore these bishes. Don’t let their pretty faces cloud your judgment. They aren’t about [feces], just leeches whom are here to suck your wallet away.”
It’s funny, but true.
Some dudes are at a certain age now where a pretty face and a pretty pussy won’t get you wifed up. It may not even get you some good dick. That is, from the dudes you may actually want to wife you up or get some good Sir Pumpington from. Mind sex is better than people think. So if I get more entertainment from talking to my great grandma’s parrot than to you, then you might want to do something. Read a book. Catch a headline. Hit the gym. Learn a joke. Something.
What do you think of all this? Am I off base? Do a lot of women rely only on their beauty to get them far? Do you? Yes you. Honestly, do you? OK, if you don’t, then what’s your best asset outside of the physical?
What do the fellas think of this new Man Law? Yay or nay?
I know, I know, “But she’s so bad…”
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This post reminds me of something that a very intelligent man once said…”I told y’all [negroes] about got damn takin’ them [ladies] to the Cheesecake Factory lettin’ them [ladies] order strawberry lemonade and popcorn shrimps They ain’t goin’ do nuthin’but try to take all your mother[lovin]‘ cheese” -Antwan Andre Patton.
Its still trickin if you got it. While I do believe that I was blessed with good looks, I think its important to bring other things to the table so I try to keep up on the current events and hit the gym, and every so often I’ll pay for the date, or cook something. People with only good looks going for them get boring REAL quick…”before we make love lets have a good conversation” *que the Dead Prez*
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Atackdog Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 8:38 am
Marry Me Ms. Kriola!!! LOL Great Post Seattle! I’m a young ole’ head and long time lurker to this site. I appreciate the articulate and insightful thought process of some of you yungins. Keep it up! Anyway, Ms. Kriola has expressed what I’ve been telling my sistas for years, and I am finally confident that some of you actually get it. Thanks.
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Do you? Yes you. Honestly, do you?
^^^No, i really don’t…i don’t try to pull any #prettygirlswindles and it was news to me that i was any sort of decent looking until i went to school in the south & dudes were constantly trying to talk to me while i was just trying to get to class after lunch!
OK, if you don’t, then what’s your best asset outside of the physical?
^^^I believe that mine is how supportive I am of the person (people) i care about. I always try to pull through in the clutch & be there for whoever to show them how much i support them and at times, it causes me to go out of my way for that person. Like when I dated someone on my campus & he was in an org, i went to EVERYTHING they had (especially if he chaired it) because i knew it was so important to him. If in a Long Distance Relationship, i’ll be really positive & encouraging during phone convos or sending texts/emails/messages/what have you!
I’ve noticed that about some men as well but those are the dudes that i stray from (i’m not into dudes i have to fight with over a mirror that i’d only use for 5 minutes to brush my hair) but everyone is different. *shrug*
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BTW *completely unrelated to this post* How is your back doing Seattle? Still having issues with it?
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First off, omg. You cussed. I’m telling Slim.
Second, I’m a pretty lady. But my beauty doesn’t stop there. I know how to carry myself without trying to let that be the hat I hang the rest of my behavior and personality on. Women who do that are either dingy, stank just to be stank, or not too pleased with the other parts of who they are.
Newsflash to pretty women who don’t know how to act: physical beauty fades and changes over time. So does body shape. Get your ish together, lest you risk being single or mistreated by the boo. (I add the mistreated part b/c a pretty woman who can’t cook or clean will probably still get wifed
because men are simpleeven though the man knows she’s missing things he wants.Reply
Atackdog Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 9:06 am
I completely agree Miss Jenkins. Your comments are so on point also! Please be my side-piece?
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Seattle Washington Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 9:30 am
First off, stop snitching. I thought you would’ve learned that in the big house.
Second, why you running to Slim?
Third, you still ain’t getting your money.
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streetztalk Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:39 am
Miss Jenkins be actin fancy tho..
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Eh. People do what they can get away with.
There are #prettygirlswindles and #prettyboyswindles.
If dudes stop letting girls get by on their looks, they’ll figure something else out. Generally, folks only do what you require of them.
I don’t use my looks to get by. I’m just too damn charismatic and charming to try to only sit and look pretty.
In all honesty, I’m a really nice and loyal person and while it usually takes folks a little time to get that I actually AM loyal in the long run, I win.
I wanna know who’s gonna be the first poster to admit they do get by on their looks and they have no shame. Cause that’s the real.
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QueenT Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 8:49 am
ASmith expressed my sentiments exactly.
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:40 am
double co-sign. Just like kids we do what we can get away with other people do too. the #prettygirlswindle does help in times of “need” tho.
I believe hard in being a well-rounded individual… I watched my mom try (and d*mn near manage) to do it all. Be beautiful, be smart, be an athlete, raise kids, go after her goals… and I’ve always wanted to be like my mom.
Besides- why do I want a man who just wants me because my face is nice?
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Reecie Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:16 am
excellent comment! I agree with you.
I can admit I’ve gotten by for being attractive AND nice. I tend to think its more about being nice though, especially among 2520s. Maybe they expect black women to be mean–but if I hit em with the please and thank yous; smile and look good while doing it…well yeah. I think in general I have an “innocent look” as one of my homeboys puts it.
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N.I.A. naturally Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:32 am
cosign!
Please and thank you with a smile gets them every time. Women need to learn the art of manners.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 12:15 pm
2520s are so susceptible to that nice black girl ish. It’s lowkey ridic.
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The number one swindle pulled by the pretty girl is the dead fish. The dead fish is being lazy in bed. THey think b/c they pretty all they gotta do is lay there and moan and what not. Then gonna tell me its good. You effin w/ my pipe game. I’m thinking that I’m striking out and you telling me I’m hitting homeruns. IMHO, on average less visually pleasing girls are better in these areas.
Rick Ross fraudulent but bangin arse rapper said it best
“I dress them up, I buy them clothes
glass slippers, I gas’s hoes
now she’s acting brand new on you assholes”
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 9:39 am
I don’t understand the dead fish theory. How is that any fun for the woman? Why would a woman do that…I don’t get it.
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:59 am
Please explain this to other women. Thxkbai
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 12:07 pm
I will man. I mean seriously you can’t just rely on the other person for all the theatrics.
Ladies, learn to throw it back.
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:07 pm
You should create a tape and sell it
i’d buy itto these broadsReply
LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:15 pm
I AM SOOOO DONE WITH YOU!!!!!!!
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N.I.A. naturally Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 12:09 pm
Some women aren’t comfortable with their sexuality. They have issues with sex, and sexuality in general. Add to that self-esteem issues, and there you have a bad lay. Then, there are some women who think sex is only for a man’s pleasure and not their own. They may believe having sex for their own sexual pleasure makes them a slut. Then again, they might just believe men are supposed to do all the work in sex.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Who are these chicks, Ms. Celie?
But seriously I understand what you mean. Such a shame though.
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:52 pm
Rick Ross fraudulent but bangin arse rapper said it best
“I dress them up, I buy them clothes
glass slippers, I gas’s hoes
now she’s acting brand new on you assholes”
- mc hammer. teflon don is the truth. that is all.
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I can go deep into this, but I won’t..(#TWHS)
Some pretty girls have had the world tossed their way since they were young. Not having (or needing) to mature in any other way. You also find that some of these pretty girls constantly need reassurance and validation because they never learned how to get it on their own..
I had the fortunate advantage of growing up a person that was taught that beauty fades.. and considering that I didn’t realize I had potential until after high school, then i buried my head in the books and stayed there..
my friend says “being pretty gets you in the door.. everything else keeps you there..”
never underestimate a good mind f*ck.. it speaks more than any game.. and my panties can attest..
speaking of mind f*ck.. i’m still thinking about “Inception” this morning.. d*mn, that movie was…..
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 9:43 am
that movie was….the best of the year thus far
Christopher Nolan is that dude!!! And he’s directing another Batman flim set to release in 2 years I believe.
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CHeeKZ Money Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:04 am
co-sign.
classic Nolan. Honestly Dark Knight might be my third favorite Chris Nolan flick AND THAT IS SAYING ALOT!
The whole movie is instense. creative concept. The action was good and CG was damn good. The story was quals.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:15 am
Dark Knight was excellent as well!
But this joint, when they were explaining the premise of dreams and inception,etc. It all made sense! I was like DAMN!! (I would go into it more, but I don’t wanna create any spoilers)
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Nick_L_Odeon Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:05 am
that reminds me.. i owe you a response!! CHUH!! i’m about to hit you up.. (but i gotta look like i’m working!!)
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:10 am
:p Okay hon! When I was DMing you my response…I really wanted to send you a long as email,lol
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Hugh Jazz Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:32 am
Inception is the #$%&. That is all.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:42 am
Tis true!
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I co sign this movement so heavy.
A lot of women are shallow. They only care about their handbag, shoe collection, or who rhianna is dating (Matt kemp is having a dissappointing season). TmZ is not News…
I chose to go see inception instead of going to tye bbq. But I heard such positive things. But the goons keep setting my berry off with need in just how good it was. Major action. my man always said those events are the best to put a girl in her place. Bc every girl swears she is better than beyonce but when she is around so much better ass she realizes her rankbin the world. Its the same way every girl swears she is intelligent. And every dude swears he hangs low.
Humility: if you can combine that with good looking. I think that is a good foundation to build a wifey.
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If simply being pretty wasn’t in itself so profitable, I’m sure more “pretty girls” would have something deeper. But they’ve never had to because as soon as you tell her no, there are 5 other guys texting her yes.
The world demands nothing of attractive women than to remain that way. Everything else will be given to you. It’s an individual choice to enhance other things about herself. And some pretty girls just aren’t that motivated.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:54 am
This! They’re given the world (as Nick_L_Odeon said) and then when she hits 24, everyone’s trying to figure out why she doesn’t know that her looks can’t be everything.
It worked for 24 years why wouldn’t it keep working?
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What, you mean pretty girls have to be more than just pretty? You’re asking too much of them. *sarcasm*
In the superficial world we live in, why would they need to be anything other than pretty to get what they want? Look at what society does for above average looking women?
I don’t consider myself drop dead goregous but I know what works for me.
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looks are just skimming the surface……
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Um…. I’ve have gotten away with some ish just cuz I was told I was pretty… BUT, I’ve also learned, and some of it the hard way, that my pretty face or physique won’t get me as far.
There are folks out there that know how to use it to their advantage all the time, but at the end, they’re just hollow. All that beauty on the outside, alive and radiant, but obscure and dead on the inside.
It’s always amazing to have a conversation with someone who is hitting on you because you’re pretty and then you come from the side with a current event on them and they give you the o_O because they thought you wouldn’t have a functioning mind. Those are the kind of men that later drop you because all they want is just the “trophy” SO by their side but no brains so that they can do as they please thinking that we’re naive… no buddy… not this one…
This can be applied to men also… just cuz you fine and all sorts of delicious doesn’t mean that it’ll be enough (some times it is – some times I don’t want to hear you talk just do – my bad) sorry got off track there, um, oh yeah! it’s not. I love an articulate man *that’s why I’m on this site* it is so much more sexy, mind f*xking is the best… along with the real thing.. lol
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You say that you don’t want just a pretty face but I was at the BBQ on Sunday and it seemed like that is what all the men were checking for. Sorry I don’t believe you. Some commenter said that women are shallow. I think men are just as shallow.
I am not the best looking chick out there and I am not the ugliest either. I KNOW I have alot of the qualities you guys whine and say you want but can’t find. It seems like I get past over time and time again for the women in the tightest outfit and the prettier face. So sorry if I am not sympathetic to your dilemna. You probaby walked right by me and didnt say a word but was breaking your neck to say something to my friend.
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Lola Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:33 am
THIS!!!
“I am not the best looking chick out there and I am not the ugliest either. I KNOW I have alot of the qualities you guys whine and say you want but can’t find. It seems like I get past over time and time again for the women in the tightest outfit and the prettier face. So sorry if I am not sympathetic to your dilemna. You probaby walked right by me and didnt say a word but was breaking your neck to say something to my friend.”
^ so true!!!! I KNOW I have much more prettier friends than me and this happens constantly when we’re out… so I let them… but when they find out that she’s a complete air head, that it’s all about her, her, her, and that if you don’t drive a benz or beamer she will drop you that’s when they turn to me and say wassup… EFF THAT!!! I don’t need to waste my time with you!
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average chick Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:48 am
Thanks for agreeing with me. I was alittle worried about being completely honest because I thought someone was going to say something slick. Glad I am not the only one who feels this way.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:47 am
@averagechick
I def feel you on your comment. I just wrote a post on single black male about suddenly getting looks from women in nyc after getting pretty much nil for years.lol. I actually don’t nitpick about women like that when it comes to appearance. If someone is neat, put together, etc. then it’s whatever.
However, I know many of the type that Seattle is talking about. I have a tremendous amount of disdain for them. The feeling between me and some of the extremely pretties is mutual.lol.
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average chick Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 12:20 pm
Well where do guys like you hang out at in NYC/BK area because I don’t see you. I look neat, don’t smell and will not embarass you in public but get passed over for the pretty face but has a incurable STD, a child, only after your money.
P.S. Those are REAL examples of women that I have known. I don’t like when other women put each other down. I am sometimes amazed when I see men lose their minds over a pretty face and I think to myself if you knew the type of person she really is you would RUN not walk away. Maybe I am hating but I am just extremely frustrated. You go to events to “put yourself out there” and get passed over time and time again.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:27 pm
I have a funny story for you. I walked over to 2 women that were talking to each other at the BBQ. One was the quintessential pretty chick that was overdressed for the venue, the other was a stylish, cuter girl with a sense of style i.e. more my type.
I walked over to talk to them both, made an intro line and the other cuter chick walked away with her head down like she had just gotten passed up. She was the reason I went over there! So now I have to interact with this bird.
I may have looked at the stunners, but the chicks I went for were my style. But sometimes these women just get some fed up with the pretty chicks they let them win. Eff that. Stick around and shine. You’ll win every time.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:00 am
Um, this is a little off topic, but I’m really about to stop being friends with pretty women (ok, ok, the ones more pretty than me).
Not because there’s something wrong with them. I ? the hell out of all of ‘em, but I really can’t with dudes.
Homeboy in the club asked me if he could talk to my girl. I was like “Uh. I’m not her keeper. You want me to write you a recommendation?” Ish like that (in the “what in the hell” vein) happens way too much when I’m with them.
And as much I love the girl he wanted to talk to, she ain’t somebody I would put with anyone I care about. Lemme put it like that.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:04 am
So in typing mode that “?” was a heart.
I question them, but I heart them more.
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Lola Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:07 am
I most DEFINITELY co-sign on this. I hate that. With a PASSION. Again, these types of females are the Type A, I’m a Type B now, and I say now cuz at one point I was the Type A but I’ve out grown that, now my style any more.. It just amazes me that a lot of men hitting on these females are exactly the same way so they gravitate towards each other, its when they finally know that they have nothing in common or that either one is too needy that they go their own ways cuz ish didn’t work out how they thought it would. 2 beautiful people does not = great relationship… that rarely happens
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
writing a recommendation- HA!
I certainly plan on using that.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 12:27 pm
He didn’t like it — he told my friend, when he finally spoke to her, that she should tell me I could be nicer.
I was like, FIRST OFF what’s with him and sending messages through other people and secondly, I used my nice girl voice.
I really was confused, though. More confused than the time a dude tried to holla at my friend – a different friend — and she smooth ignored him. We were in a pack of people at a festival and so we were shuffling along. He tried to get her attention 2 or 3 times. When he shuffled past me he tapped me and said “hey, can you get your girl?” I’m thinking (and lowkey saying) “dude, she just ignored the HELL out of you and you want me to get her for you? Please go away and stop playing yourself.”
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:53 pm
“Homeboy in the club asked me if he could talk to my girl. I was like “Uh. I’m not her keeper. You want me to write you a recommendation?””
Me do this so that you can either get out the way or to get a jump on the many c-blockers that are in a girl’s squad
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:55 pm
Uh-huh. Had a feeling on that.
I was still confused though because I had been standing next to her for all of 3 minutes. I’d spent the previous 15 mins downstairs.
Homeboy had been off in the cut when I left and was right where I left him when I came back. I mean really? He couldn’t have used that prime 15 mins to holla?
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:43 am
c/s average chick
Also I hear dude complain about the “fakeness” of some chicks…weaves, fake nails, contacts etc. Yet that’s exactly what they gravitate toward.
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average chick Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:51 am
Sunday at the BBQ my friend that got more attention than me was wearing a wig and the other one had synthetic hair down the middle of her back and was getting attention as well. Me with my natural locks??? not quite.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:53 am
Ha! I was natural a few months ago. One dude (I knew him, but it was still rude) had the audacity to tell me I would be the perfect catch if it weren’t for me hair o_O
Mind you, my hair was always done…just natural. But I bet if I through on a lace front, he’d be feeling the kid.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:56 am
Umph. CO-SIGN.
“You say that you don’t want just a pretty face but I was at the BBQ on Sunday and it seemed like that is what all the men were checking for. Sorry I don’t believe you. Some commenter said that women are shallow. I think men are just as shallow.”
Talk with your actions… talk with your actions…
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CHeeKZ Money Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 10:57 am
shots fired….
can’t hate. When you are right, you are right. Dudes need to look at what is between the ears more.
But to be honest when my team has done this we tend to get alot of back talk and sly comments.
Slim did a whole post about this kind of hate.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:03 am
From your boys?
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RastaGal Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 11:54 am
Average Chick,
You are absolutely correct! Once they have walked by you & me for that matter, they find the “pretty” girl isn’t all that and then they want to talk to you… WTF???
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average chick Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 12:12 pm
Totally agree!! You are not going to try me because the one you initally wanted turned you down.
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CHeeKZ Money Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 4:27 pm
now you are just being picky.
Who cares who he wanted first?
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BBD said it best, ” You can’t trust a big butt and a smile”. Yet, you guys are still chasing chicks so stank they can’t get their tight romper out they ass.
I wasn’t in attendance for this annual meat market event. However, from the looks of things it sounds like although with a ratio of 6:1 you came out empty handed. Don’t expect to meet the future Mrs. Washington at a place like that.
just my thoughts….
PS- next time a chick gives you a stank look, step on her maxi dress
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:54 pm
I literally guffawed
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I’m instituting a new [Man] law – The Ignore A Pretty Chick Law.
Careful, you’ll have those lame, pretty women all over you. Few things are more attractive to pretty women than men who don’t think they are pretty.
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To use another Rick Ross ism
“She thinkin Phillipe’s, im thinkin WING STOP”
We wrestle with this daily. ive seen dudes make the concession for having a trophy boo who looks good on the outside but lacks substance. Who acts fancy and cant even back that up with intelligence. Crazy!
Sometimes, overly attractive women give me pause because I’m shook of the swindle. Of any kind. Just gotta use the best judgement you can!
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I’ve been known to say that pretty and $3 will get you on the bus. I think I’m pretty, but I don’t put much stock on it. I don’t like to focus on it and I’m unmoved by compliments on my looks…I’d much rather hear a man say “I love how smart/funny/weird you are” than “You’re so pretty”.
I will agree with average chick et al though – men stay talking about how they want a woman who is smart or funny or career-oriented or whatever but they are quick to pass over an average-looking chick with a lot going for her for a hottie with two marbles rattling around where her brain should be.
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The only reason attractive people get away with ish is because people let them. You were just on here gasing up pretty chicks in NYC. Of course they think they don’t have to do anymore than look right because men will still go after them. Stop chasing these chicks, stop trying to save them, and move on to quality.
Now, I think I’m a fairly attractive woman, but my best asset is loyality and general coolness. I’m a chill person, and men like talking to me and like being around me. #NIAshrug. Plus, I’m a lady. Don’t let twitter and blog comments fool you.
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Wow I have had this convo so many times with my male counterparts. It does seem to be that way up here and I honestly see it in my own friends. Not saying I may not be guilty (bc i can be a bitch if you step to me wrong!) But overall I think that the pretty chicks are tired of the whack approaches.
And I love how you men folk to quick to judge a sistah when you steppin to her with the same issues. Tight ass shirt sexy body and the first thing u talk about is sex. Or the attractive quiet guy that doesn’t show enough initiative. We’re all screwed up. But lets please check ourselves (our genders) before we start yelling at the other.
side note: I was @ the cook out and I saw/heard what alot of those brothers were rapping to my sistahs…i’d verbally smack (did smack) a few myself.
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You know…
Whenever a topic like this comes up, you get a lot of people on the flip side saying “Yea, I’m this, I’m that, and people never check for me….I may not be a 10, but I’m decent, I can suck a good d*ck and hook a steak up blah blah blah.” Here’s the thing…
You might not actually be that attractive.
We’ve clearly established that you aren’t a 10, and that’s fine. But I get the feeling that some people may be thinking they are 7′s when they’re actually really like 4′s. Or maybe there’s something that’s really lacking from your personality the same way young Seattle is learning that some pretty girls can’t walk and chew gum at the same time or just having boring conversation. Yea, it sucks that head to head the only thing shorty over there got going for her is her looks. But that’s life. It’s like playing poker…if you got the same hand, but the other person’s kicker is higher than yours…sorry, you lose and all the crying in the world won’t help you win. Yea, yea, yea, looks shouldn’t be everything, but if all your teeth are on top of each other like they trying to get in the club, or you have a slight mustache that you insist on not waxing, or you’ve taken the “Monique approach” to shaving, or if you’re slightly a bit heavier than you care to admit to, or you’ve taken the natural hair thing a bit too far, or if it looks like your trying to plant sweet potato, yam and banana under ya toes AFTER your pedicure, or if you turn your head in a certain direction, you look like a damn Jim Henson character…well, 10 times outta 10, young Seattle and co. will walk right by you and talk to the heffer w/ the weave and waxed lip until they get sick of listening to them go on and on about how Danielle crazy ass is bout to press charges on Ashley. Such.is.life.
Word of advice…stop the reverse shallowness…you know…cuz you can’t complain about the 10′s getting all the attention, when #youmad that the male 10′s ain’t hollering, while your male 4 counterpart is laying in the cut waiting to stroke ya little fuzzy mustache, if you’d only give him a chance.
Yup.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:09 pm
RCLS, as usual you make a valid point, but I think there’s being mad that dudes clearly out of your league are not hollering… which is nobueno, but then there’s wondering why in one breath dudes of varying leagues and levels complain that the pretty girls never amount to much but the pretty girls are the only ones they’re after.
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The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:34 pm
Well…because people like pretty things. I mean, once again, that may be a shallow trait, but we all do it, word to Kanyeezy. Think about it…if you won the lotto big today, would you go out and cop a double wide trailer and a ’97 Buick Park Ave or a mansion, a Benz and yacht? (#onlythebruhzwillseewhatididthere)
There’s also the factor of maybe…just maybe, all the other tangibles and untangibles that make someone “attractive” just may not be there. Maybe your convo just isn’t as interesting as you may have thought…or maybe ya granny’s cornbread recipe isn’t that banging…or something…
:rclshrug:
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:47 pm
i saw. “the house, the car, the boat and _ _ _ _ _ too.” be owt bruh. i’ll be setting that one owt at clave.
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The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:52 pm
Oh yea…about your clave question from yesterday…
Tossing out the excuses thing makes me feel slightly not owt for my reason for not coming to the clave, so f*ck it, we’ll call it an excuse, I’ll spit my poem and take my 4…
Gotta work bruh. But I’ll be there in spirit.
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:01 pm
it is what it is bruh. *shrug* i’ll be owt enough for all the bruhs who aren’t there.
oh yeah. 5 around these parts.
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The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:07 pm
LMAO @ 5. 5, 6, whatever…the swingin’ 2nd stay in the cut all night. Peyso will prove it to you…right Peyso?
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:24 pm
you do realize i’m a 2nd D bruh as well?
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:25 pm
I’m just sure that he didnt know where you went to school
The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 4:20 pm
Certainly did not. The 5 thing threw me off. Must be that new ish in the streets.
MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 4:42 pm
naw that’s some chapter ish. lol
Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
lol I got neos for that lol. Honchos take double? So we at 10 now. We could have a MKDMPiE swing off? all the #pauses
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The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:15 pm
LMAO…THAT’S WHAT I’M TALKIN’ BOUT!
:tosses the wood on the floor:
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:26 pm
man. y’all bruhs should be like eff obligations, hop in the whip and drive down to north carolina. i’ll set y’all owt.
Slim Jackson Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:16 pm
Finish Him!!!!
dun dun duunnnnnn
Block up up high punch
Scorpion fire
Fatality
Toasty!
#dead
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Nick_L_Odeon Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 4:43 pm
all that Mortal Kombat was too much for me..
and i loved every line!!
Friendship. FRIENDSHIP?!?!
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Cheekie Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 5:20 pm
(finishes Nick’s ref)
Again?!
I had to… I had to.
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average chick Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:27 pm
You made a valid point but I think it is fair to assume that the ones that agree with me more than likely don’t have hairy legs or hairy mustaches. Seattle made his point. I feel that my point is valid as well. I am definitely not one of those women that only wants to date guys that look like Idris Elba. However, I don’t have a blog where I can complain about seeing all these pretty women but nothing is on the inside. Has Seattle every dated someone simply based on personality. I find women to be ALOT more forgiving in the looks department than men. Example – Heavy D was the overweight lover. Some women find Rick Ross(myself included) very sexy. Are there any examples of women?? You made fun of Monique’s hairy legs. She is a very attractive woman in spite of something that can be rectified in minutes with Nair. I can’t think of any women that black men have thought was not that attractive in the face but something else about them made was sexy or attractive. Please correct me if I am wrong oh Honorable one!!
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:43 pm
There are tons of women who I’ve met who were, eff being average, were straight up ugly and kept a fly dude. Chex appeal and attractiveness are not always one and the same. It is possible to be ugly and chexxy. I’ve seen many a time when the dude wifes the big jawn b/c she takes care of him by feeding him and washing his sh*tty drawes. Also, consider the fact that women are attracted to other abstract concepts like “Can he protect me?” or “Can he provide?”.
“You made a valid point but I think it is fair to assume that the ones that agree with me more than likely don’t have hairy legs or hairy mustaches.” – This is not remotely a fair assumption. As I told a dear friend of mine, everyone on this blog, until we meet in person, could very well look like an actual avatar behind their avatar.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:49 pm
As I told a dear friend of mine, everyone on this blog, until we meet in person, could very well look like an actual avatar behind their avatar.
IM SO DONE WITH YOU!!!!!
*dead*
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The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:49 pm
…of course you’re wrong.
You do have a valid point. And thank you for not taking my comment personally, as I have no idea who you are and what you look like. And I agree, that good women that may not be runway models do get looked over for the runway model type. But I also get the feeling that the same way you go on a blind date thinking she’s gonna be as slim in the waist and cute in the face as ya man’s told ya before he set you up, there are a lot of people on the innanets that may advertise themselves as a solid 7 when that’s no where near the case. It’s total poppycock, the same way 8′s try to act like 10′s and 10′s try to act like the world owes them something. Nonsense.
As for the overweight lovers, the Honorable one has always been fond of plus sized women. I’ve been known to comment that women like Kelly Price, Monique (before I found she don’t damn shave), and Queen Latifah (if she’s into that sort of thing) could get a holla. Real talk, everytime I see Jennifer Hudson on her Weight Watcher’s campaign, I get a little tight, cuz wadn’t nothing wrong w/ Jhud 15-20 lbs ago. Of course, I can only speak for myself, I don’t know how many men are into plus sizes.
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:49 pm
“You made fun of Monique’s hairy legs. She is a very attractive woman in spite of something that can be rectified in minutes with Nair.”
very attractive? that is definitely an opinion. not fact.
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streetztalk Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:51 pm
Took the words right out of my mouth…
LMAO!
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:03 pm
i’m saying. i’ve never heard ANYONE say that monique was very attractive. i’m pretty sure her husband probably thinks she’s average but her bank account and fame probably bumped her up a couple of notches.
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Hugh Jazz Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:59 pm
average chick: “You made fun of Monique’s hairy legs. She is a very attractive woman in spite of something that can be rectified in minutes with Nair.”
Monique isn’t an ugly woman, and some men can look past her corpulence, but you know that whole personality thing you mentioned? Monique is loud and obnoxious. Now Jill Scott on the other hand…
Enough, he brought it close so I could really see
Up close he slid between my brea$ts
Sweaty with lust and sweat
Rode Mt.Saint Scott ’til, ooooo!
Creamy lava landed on my skin and neck
Blended with my all day Chanel scent
This freaking was incredulent, decadent!
Flip side, stomach meets sheets,
He plows inside as if he’s making beats,
As if this year’s harvest depended on it,
Bendin’on it
…could definitely get it.
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:05 pm
i don’t think anyone would say that she is ugly, but very attractive. c’mon son.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:03 pm
“Has Seattle [ever] dated someone simply based on personality[?] I find women to be ALOT more forgiving in the looks department than men.”
You’re right we are. Men are visual creatures. I’ve told my homegirls this time and time again. It’s just a fact. We like what we like. We have to be attracted to you first. Someone can serve you the best steak ever, but if it’s on top of a pile of newspapers instead of a plate I’m not sure if you’ll eat it.
With that said, I like a plate. Doesn’t need to be crystal, it could be a dixie plate. I just need something to work with. OK, enough with the analogies. I like a certain type of woman. I’m flexible about other things, but she has to fit into the broad strokes. Pause?
I tried to date a woman strictly on personality before and I failed miserably. I can’t do it. I know I can’t. It’s proven. I need to be very sexually attracted to a woman I’m going to date.
With that said, I’m not asking for a model with an amazing personality. I’m just looking for an attractive young lady with a personality. They’re out there. I know they are.
::Looks to the stars with wonder in his eyes.::
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:18 pm
I tried to date a woman strictly on personality before and I failed miserably. I can’t do it. I know I can’t. It’s proven. I need to be very sexually attracted to a woman I’m going to date.
I commend you for that…because let me tell you something *cue fire marshall Bill* I need to be attracted to whoever I date.
Your personality and intelligence is not what’s going to be staring me in my face as we do the do.
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N.I.A. naturally Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:25 pm
Your personality and intelligence is not what’s going to be staring me in my face as we do the do.
This!
I don’t get people who say they date based on personality. Personality is not the first thing you see. An attractive face will always get you in the door. A good personality will let him stay. And might get him breakfast.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:27 pm
Finding the combination of looks, personality, and intelligence is hard.
Le sigh.
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:31 pm
Welcome to Cutthroat Television with your Host RCLS!
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The Honorable and Rather Articulate Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, LLC, Dark as the Night that covers me Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:36 pm
Thank you! Thank you! Give it up for my band, Sesssual Chocolate! Don’t they play so nice?
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streetztalk Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:49 pm
church tabernacle synangogue mosque planetarium temple and PYRAMID to this!
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:00 pm
*reincarnated from Peyso’s comment just to die again from this one*
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Kriola Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:56 pm
“while your male 4 counterpart is laying in the cut waiting to stroke ya little fuzzy mustache, if you’d only give him a chance.” DEAD!!!
But seriously, I agree. When I was reading these “reverse shallow” comments I was thinking, hmmm maybe because you aren’t that cute. I never thought of myself as the not pretty friend lol, not saying I am a 10 exactly, but I ain’t the ugly friend, or the not so cute friend and I would never call myself that. Part of being pretty is knowing that you’re pretty and holding yourself accordingly.
However, I do think that many men attempt to holler at girls out of their league because they think they are more suave then they really are. This leaves all the women who are 8s and lower with the Uncle Ruckus lookin ass negros, and you have to be pretty damn dusty yourself to go for that.
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:13 pm
how does one really know their not “that cute” tho? Is there a where to measure this? just for curiosity’s sake. I mean I can look at others and make a judgement but aren’t you kinda bias with yourself?
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:21 pm
Naw B, ppl be knowing that they ugly. You just wake up and realize it.
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:25 pm
i didn’t say ugly. I said “that cute.”
I’m sure ugly people know they’re ugly. I’m talking about the difference between knowing if you’re a 7 or a 9.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:25 pm
They probably don’t know.
Like some people fail to realize they smell.
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Reecie Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:31 pm
I’m convinced a bunch of ugly people do not know. don’t ask about the empirical evidence, but its mostly chicks that gas up their friends erroneously.
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:38 pm
i had a friend in HS who was not cute to ANY man that ever met her but her momma reinforced that she was the baddest chick on the planet. twas a rough 3 years.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:40 pm
Makes me think of a girl I know who told me the reason she didn’t have any female friends is because her mom had warned her they would always dislike her for her naturally long hair and extensive beauty.
::blink,blink::
Whatever works for ya, darling.
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:38 pm
*nods head*
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:39 pm
i’ll take it a step further. by reading a lot of comments across the blog world versus avatar pictures i would say its not just real life friends that gas people up erroneously. *shrug*
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:45 pm
shots fired?
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:46 pm
also- can you really see avatars? all of mine are itty bitty
I can only guess.
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:48 pm
i can see enough. not just this site. other sites have larger avatars. and yes #shots fired.
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streetztalk Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:59 pm
**Reloads and provides cover fire for MS7**
Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 3:07 pm
yikes. double yikes.
N.I.A. naturally Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:51 pm
See, I never understood this. If you’ve never been called pretty by anyone outside of your circle, than you’re probably not. Ladies, we have to stop doing this to our friends. Especially if it’s something fixable, like wearing contacts or not wearing weave ponytails. smh…
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A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:55 pm
I think for some women, it’s a ploy. Keep your girl(s) looking a mess and you always win. At least go some theories. My life says generally speaking, it behooves the group to all look as good as possible.
Plus, there’s telling your homegirl her weave needs to be redone and telling her she’s ugly. LOL. One takes finesse and the other… well… I don’t think there’s a way to do that.
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Reecie Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:59 pm
you don’t ever say it. but you don’t say gal you so pretty either.
girl you are working that dress.
I really like your hair.
that eye makeup is on point.
mean shoe game.
LOL. all acceptable compliments before heading out the door. and I truly think when we hang around someone long enough, we see the beauty in them–that may not translate to first time look seers? yeah I’m going with that.
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streetztalk Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 3:00 pm
its still some sort of Swindle thoguh twin.
TO be real, ive found that my boys will ETHER each other with certain fashion choices. Its tuff luv, but love nonetheless feel me?
The reality era must commence! Stop lettin ur friends hit the streets horrid and have us poor men fooled!
Damn! lol
A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 3:02 pm
Uh huh. I like that. Ok. Let’s use it.
A.Smith Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 3:05 pm
But streetz, do ya’ll ether on actual looks?
My girls will get at me about how I’m dressed if need be and that’s one thing.
But do ya’ll go after each other on the “You’re a 4, stop tryna holla at the 8s.” type stuff?
Reecie Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 3:06 pm
@streetz
its not a swindle if its the truth. I’m giving examples of positive compliments to give IF TRUE instead of saying someone is pretty when they are not. I do not lie. I give strategic compliments ALL THE TIME.
“I really like that dress on you” is NOT the same as “you are so pretty in that dress” the dress itself may be pretty. but anytime you use the word pretty (mind you we’re talking about the dress, not the person wearing it) someone’s head has the potential to erroneously swell.
ok Im being silly now. but I’m serious. lol
N.I.A. naturally Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 3:07 pm
co-sign allathis! lol.
LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 3:11 pm
My friends and I will tell each other if we’re looking crazy
At least me and my bestie do…but we have that level of communication
streetztalk Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 3:52 pm
@A.Smith
Yup. Dudes will stay sayin “You an ugly n*gga” and you know what that ugly dude says?! “But I bag B*s tho” and we laugh and keep it movin. Dudes know what it is.. The boy panama jackson on vsb stay saying he a 3. He promotes it! I bet you he bags chicks tho! Its all confidence. FOr men confidence can turn a 3 in to a 9. Factorials
Jemsstar Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 6:12 pm
BWAHAHAHAHA!!!! I really just can’t with you today!
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Addressing some of the issues that were mentioned here:
1) Who hollers at the chick you think is average at an event? Why not go for the gusto, the banger, the homerun. When at events, you usually go for people that strike you. Something about their look or personality almost reaches out and grab you. If you are an average dude or chick that isnt getting hollers, your personality isnt dynamic enough. I’ve seen ugly broads who legititmaly thought they were fly bag more dudes b/c they were out there tricking dudes into thinking they were fly. I’d argue that when average looking people get together, they met at a place where they could immediately get to see their personality.
2) For all that argue that men complaining about certain parts of women and then being attracted to women w/ said fake parts are stupid, your logic is beyond flawed. Fact A: Men like certain traits. For the sake of the argument, let’s call them long hair and flat stomaches. Fact B: Men suck at telling the difference between the real and the fake, especially when it comes to things that they like. Conclusion A: Men are fooled by the fake. Men think the fake are real and vice versa.
Men are only complaining about the fake sh*t b/c we’re getting fooled by it. We keep getting pulled to it b/c we suck at telling the difference
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:47 pm
does that explain why in the club men try and “weave check”?
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:58 pm
yes
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:31 pm
i’ve checked for weave before. yo, since i’m taller than most women i can see that little circle y’all have on top of y’alls head where the wrap weave thing ends. smh.
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Reecie Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:35 pm
this tickled the hell outta me. LMAO
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:36 pm
YOU’s A FOOL!!!!!
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Little Miss Sunshine Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:37 pm
oh- back when I used to wear my hair longer I got physically checked- often (smh DC/ATL men)… as soon as roots were confirmed then men wanted to chat -_-
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:50 pm
well i guess it’s the dc in me then. *shrug*
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Rum Punch Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 4:00 pm
Oh so this is a very real thing that’s happening?!? Cause I don’t go out in these streets often and so when a guy ran his fingers through my non weaved hair and then his friend had the nerve to yell, “that’s that yaki!” – they both got cussed out. I was like is this the modern day version of the brown paper bag test? What’s this foolishness?
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MadScientist7 Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 4:46 pm
the two aren’t really comparable. skin tone is something you are born with. something you can’t change (unless you have re-vitiligo). now weave. you make a conscious decision to buy that and attach it to your body.
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Rum Punch Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 5:44 pm
Yes, I was being ignorant. But I think running your fingers through someone’s hair is equally ignorant. Anywho. In my mind it was all about passing a “test” and I saw old school folk puttin’ a paper bag next to a chick’s thigh and tellin them they couldn’t dance @ the Cotton Club. And modern day men holdin a comb next to a woman’s scalp. But hey I have an active imagination.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:47 pm
Come on Peyso! You mean to tell me if a chick’s hairline starts 1/2 a centimeter above her eyebrows, you can’t tell that’s a wig?
Her hair is down to her ass like Rapunzel…that doesn’t seem just a little far fetched?
That Keylolo has green eyes and is as black as Bernie Mac (RIP)…that doesn’t make you wonder, that maybe…just maybe those are contacts?
Yes some women do you use “tricks” of the trade. Spanx can give one a whole different body. However, I dont’ think men are fooled 100% of the time. That’s just an excuse.
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:00 pm
What it does mean is that I wasnt looking at her wig
.
When it comes to hair, a man is wrong if he does and wrong if he doesnt.
If any dude is actually hollering at a chick w/ color contacts and claims to be a good dude, he should be viscerated.
I be fooled at 82% of the time. I’m getting better though. I just recently learned that “ratty” is not a texture of real hair.
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LaBakir Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:06 pm
LMAO!!! I’m may need to stop talking to me for the remainder of the day.
No ratty, is not a texture of real hair.
And that’s what you get for keeping your eyes other places!!!!
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streetztalk Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 1:48 pm
“Fact B: Men suck at telling the difference between the real and the fake, especially when it comes to things that they like. ”
This is my only point of contention sir Peyso. I think
i’M BIG MEECH!!!I can tell the difference well, or well enough. I do make certain assumptions in the “Baggin women proof”Given: Her hair may be fake
Subtract 4-6in from overall height to compensate for high heels
if her stomach looks flat and it is the winter/spring months, there may be a girdle involved
Possibility of a push up bra
prove: Shorty is bad
You have to use your 5 senses to deduce wehther se is bad or not, and even then, make a decision as to whetehr or not you can deal with the facade if it isnt that far off from her reality. Its a complicated process mentally, but we actually do that subconsciously.
FIN
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Please Excuse Your Significant Other Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:01 pm
You think every man has the mental capabilities of doing that within moments of seeing her? EFFFF outta here. I got dumb friends and I know u got dumb friends too
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streetztalk Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 2:04 pm
LMAO touche..
im sayin tho…
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Jemsstar Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 7:44 pm
“Who hollers at the chick you think is average at an event? Why not go for the gusto, the banger, the homerun. When at events, you usually go for people that strike you. Something about their look or personality almost reaches out and grab you.”
Peyso, I co-sign 100%!!!!
Here’s the thing tho, “pretty is relative”. I know some people don’t believe that, but it’s true. When I see a dude I find attractive sometimes my friends may not think he’s alladat, and vice versa. I know a lot of my male homeboys who will point out a chick and tell me point blank that “that chick is bad!!!”, and really they are just average. I’s not just because I’m a female that I’m saying it, I know what pretty/beautiful is,, and sometimes these girls just aint it.
“I’ve seen ugly broads who legititmaly thought they were fly bag more dudes b/c they were out there tricking dudes into thinking they were fly”
Now I wouldn’t say they were tricking dudes into thinking they were fly, but confidence goes a long way, if you don’t think you are pretty why should anyone else.
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CPT Callamity Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 11:31 am
“… but confidence goes a long way, if you don’t think you are pretty why should anyone else.”
Which is what I’m getting form a lot of the responders here. Some of you all are doing a good job of making yourselves sound ugly based on your getting passed over. Buck up a bit, eh?
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Jemsstar Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 12:23 pm
EXACTLY!!!
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Peyso: “The number one swindle pulled by the pretty girl is the dead fish. The dead fish is being lazy in bed. THey think b/c they pretty all they gotta do is lay there and moan and what not.”
That’s knocks a 9 or 10 down to a 3 or 4 real quick.
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I totally agree with this post..! I’ve been told that I’m very pretty & sexy (throwback to another TWTTI post) but had no IDEA this was the case til late in life. Being dark skinned and the only girl in class w/no relaxer or pierced ears (or nice clothes for that matter!) i was never in any running or contention for pretty girl status all before high school. So accepting that the deck was stacked against me, made it my business to cultivate the other sides of me. I was a book whore (which has made me a venerable wordsmith), became an excellent listener, honed my joke skills. i observed older people and learned to be well mannered and cultured. my whole being was to become a modern day geisha. so mostly im known for being a cut up, being the next oprah #imcomingforyournumberonespotmswinfrey#, loyalty, friendliness, etc…you know, all the attributes of a fugly person #jus’kidding#… but now it blows the minds of men and women alike that all that niceness is attached to cute face, big butt and smile
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When I met you in person I mentioned that your blog seemed to cater to those who were less attractive but what I meant to say was stop shitting on pretty people. I am attractive and I like myself, I have a brain. Despite the women you might have approached in the past I think there are too many other women who have plenty going for them who are, or happen to be beautiful. There are a variety of women and some are a combination of pretty, interesting and intelligent. Don’t pout because you haven’t met any. But we met, so I guess you have. Well don’t pout because you don’t recognize the combination you are looking for when you meet it. This post is the the kind of post that makes me want to write and write and write about how ungrateful and judgmental men are. Thanks for the inspiration Seattle.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 12:08 am
o_O
Honestly, I don’t remember having that conversation. And like South Park, we put the lights on everyone, not just “pretty” people. Ugly people can get it to. Please see Right Coast Lex Steele’s comment above.
Yes, I didn’t hit you up. I know. Maybe I was blinded by all those attributes you listed or maybe you just aren’t the woman I was looking for. Just because a woman can check some of the boxes, doesn’t mean I want her. After all, I’m allowed to have preferences too.
Either way I’m happy I could help inspire you. Thanks for reading and I hope you continue to visit.
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I have used my looks to get free things. Why not? If you were a women you’d do it to. I have a career, my own place, car, etc. I can hold a conversation about anything from boring politics to what pookie did in the hood. In most situations none of that matters. Looks get you through the door the rest makes settles the deal.
That’s in all life sitautions.
N enough with what’s real and What’s fake. If it looks good, who cares. When its a starlette she’s perfect. When it’s a normal women she’s fake. What’s the damn difference? If I’m pulling it off why worry if my lashes are real. Are you gonna buy me some Latesse? I don’t think so.
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Jemsstar Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 12:30 pm
“N enough with what’s real and What’s fake. If it looks good, who cares. When its a starlette she’s perfect. When it’s a normal women she’s fake. What’s the damn difference? If I’m pulling it off why worry if my lashes are real. Are you gonna buy me some Latesse? I don’t think so.”
THIS!!!!!!
I’m sorry, cuz I know a lot of you will disagree with me, but If i came out looking like a WILDABEAST there would be a problem right!! All you guys need to concern yourself with is if she looks presentable when she’s with you, it shouldn’t matter if some things are fake. Sometimes beauty is an accessory and that’s all, it doesn’t take away from the person we are inside.
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As a lady who, on her best(est) day, can garner a “cute” or “pretty”, I honestly can’t think of one instance in which I *expected* anything based on my looks, or my intelligence for that. I am, for the most part, a self-made person, always has been, and any extra things that get thrown my way based off some thirsty dude’s attempts to get in my pants just make me feel uncomfortable or send me off running in the other direction.
But I live in Atlanta.
And what you’re describing happens more often with the men here than the women. I’m amazed at how many brothers here think that just because they have a degree, a mid-level job, a shiny car, and his own digs that they don’t have to do any social heavy-lifting. And frankly, he really doesn’t. A soft, boring, blazer-wearing 3.6 can pull vacuous, self-esteem deficient dimes who don’t know how to check ‘em. To which I say…good riddance.
But sometimes, I have to wonder, how would these men be if they were forced to actually, like…try?
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