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Back in my less mature day, I was a woman with strict guidelines as to what I wanted my man to look like. “Oh no girl, he gotta be between 6’1″ and 3/4 and 6’5″ and gotta be dark skinned, etc etc.” Thankfully, as it tends to do, life showed me what was up. I realized that I was equating masculinity with physical stature. And those things are not one in the same.
Case in point.
Look at those skinny arms.
T.I. Aside from his legal troubles, T.I. has that manly thing I’m talking about. He is probably 5’6″ and 155lbs soaking wet, but I bet he ain’t no punk.
What do I mean by punk? A punk is that dude that will let his woman talk to him any old kinda way while he just buries his head in his hands. Or the man that does not assert himself when it comes to…anything. Some might call that man compromising, or sweet. What about that dude that cries like Big Baby from the Celtics or gets tats of lips on his neck? Some might call him emotional or responsive. I call them punks.
I can safely say, that when a woman has some outward manifestations of “independence” or whatever the kids are calling it now a days, she would probably love for a man to “rough her up” once in a while. A man who will not be afraid to tell her chill out when she acting ridiculous, or cut his eyes at her to say the same thing. How about one who will make the decisions about what they are going to do for the night, when she clearly can’t make up her mind? Or one that will not hesitate to protect her if something went down.
So yeah. I like a man with a firm hand. Thankfully, I have learned not to wait for that strapping 6’2″ dark skinned dude to come waltzing into my life. The manliness I want can come in shorter, lighter skinned packages. Sike.
I wonder though, in this day and age, if it’s hard for men and women to express what they want from their boos? Do women fool themselves into thinking we like playing the strong role all the time? Do men let us reinforce this bulls behavior? Or do we both just take things as they are and let it rock?
I think its a little of both. Men are not sure how to step it up amidst the craze (or do they know, but choose not to say anything?). And women don’t know how to turn down all the “independence” to show the softer side.
Ladies, how important is the manly-man factor in potential boos? Fellas, do women stifle that manliness? Or do real men know how to get around that?
Just happy to be here,
Sowhatiff “I like my men firm” Jenkins
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I must say, I am of the T.I. body type growing up throughout my whole life. I speak for all the 6 foot skinny dudes when I say “it aint easy”. Everyone has certain physical features in mind when they think of the opposite sex, but when the person comes along that totally goes against that idea and still gives you thrills, you got something good on your hands!! i love this site.
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I love big burly men…..
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Peyso from the Brook Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:12 pm
we love u too, my initials are NH. Is this about me?
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IluvN.H. Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:25 pm
idk, just coincidence maybe….
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Peyso from the Brook Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:44 pm
im jus gonna go through my day thinking its about me anyway, it will make me feel good lol
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I love masculinity & assertiveness. When I push, I need someone who’s not afraid to push back, someone not afraid or too lazy to take the lead sometimes. I hate feeling like I gotta mommy somebody & make all the decisions. And don’t get me started on the bedroom….guys, please don’t think that lovemaking and passion are mutually exclusive.
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Intellectual Hedonist Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:24 am
“When I push, I need someone who’s not afraid to push back”
I think this also sums me up
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:07 pm
Word.
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ife1love Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
Co-sign… Passion is vital!
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I love a man that knows how to be a man.
When we were in college my girls and I used to say Treach (from Naughty by Nature) was just that kind of man. He looked like the kind of guy that would just take you and ravage you then have you make him breakfast. But also the kind of guy that wouldn’t let anything happen to you.
I know that I become submisive around a man that knows how to be a man, but if I sense any insecurity my independence rares its head. Then it’s up to him to take over or its over
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I love a masculine man; one who will stand up to me. I want to be submissive and the man has to be able to command it. It’s s3xy.
I’m talking to this guy now who’s kinda sensitive and I can’t take it, so he’s already been put into the friend box.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 9:36 am
“I’m talking to this guy now who’s kinda sensitive and I can’t take it, so he’s already been put into the friend box.”
That’s prolly gonna hurt his feelings.lol.
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:14 pm
I didn’t tell him. LOL.
Sunday he asked, “what do you like about me?”
Seriously, I mean, SERIOUSLY????
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 2:06 pm
Yeah. He is a punk. Maybe I should make a checklist…
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WithRainbowSprinkles Reply:
January 9th, 2009 at 2:36 am
That goes right along with “Do you miss me?”
No, B***h! If you have to ask, NO! I hate those questions…
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
Sowhatiff: we def need a checklist. LOL. He’s a lil too in touch with feminity
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ChokLitFacory Reply:
January 7th, 2009 at 11:49 am
LOL is this what people mean when they say we have a whole generation of men raised by women? Its like an epidemic!
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Ainz Reply:
January 11th, 2009 at 9:48 pm
Lmao…
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OK…I like to feel like the woman like every day all day. I need a man who can just look at me and make me shut up etc. A skinny one has done this before and I ain’t have a problem with this BUT I loves me a man I can jump on and ride without snapping his hips.
Yep…I even dated someone 5’4 but he was you know…wide-it was a very good look.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:08 pm
LMAO @ snapping is hips!! That image is priceless.
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I’m not going to put it on blast, but non-thug types use to get no love growing up in my neighborhood. People had to join a Gang just to get a girlfreind.
I’m not saying you have to be a thug to be tough guy. But its should be noted that the example that y’all gave has to serve a year in prison come March.
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i def like my men to be tough. not in the sense that they’ll beat up every dude that checks me out, but a guy who can defend my honor when necessary and shut me down when i’m getting a lil reckless. of course, i dont want a dude who would beat me up if we get into an argument… thats just crazy. but i def don’t want a dude that i feel like i can boss around, or if i have to question if he’s still a virgin or a wuss… that’s not sexy.
as far as physical appearance, he doesn’t have to be that 6ft, 200-something guy in order for me to think he’s tough. sometimes, it’s all in the swagger (yeah my new fave word!).
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Im tryin to shed my immature way of thinking when it comes to my ‘ideal man’ but everytime I try and step outside my box and date someone different, it never works out. I just luv a tall, black, manly man!
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Von Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 10:55 am
And anotha thing (lol) I think its natural for most women to want a man they feel can protect them, and provide for them. If my man is shorter, and skinnier than me I would feel more like HIS body guard!…. k im done!
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I can relate to this…
I love manly men but I think the women do sometimes steal from their manliness with our independence… but I think that happens because a lot of men are spoiled and we’ve had to do for ourselves and them for so long.
but don’t sleep on the men in touch with their emotions…
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RightCoastLexSteele, The Caribbean Cocksman Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 11:55 am
Spoiled? How so? Do tell…
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ladebelle Reply:
January 7th, 2009 at 9:41 pm
man… don’t get me started…
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Welcome back, Sowhatiff! Glad to see the P-Power has returned.
I think that just like women are confusing men with the “I want a bad boy, but don’t be knocking me down like I’m in a Tyson match” tip, men are now confusing women with the “I want my woman to be i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t because she got her own, but also want her to ask me for a ride or two (pause)” tip. I think, as always, there needs to be a balance. And said balance is possible even if we’re always presented with the extremes.
I love my independence, but I can show my softer side of Sears, too, ya know? I can be rough and tough, but I’m not Lady of Rage. So, I’d love for my ideal man not to hit this generic range of height and weight requirements (because, hell, I’ll know if he looks good, forget the technicalities), but to know how to show his sensitive side as well as his rough side when it’s the right time. Too much to ask?
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:05 pm
Glad to be back!
And nope, I don’t that’s too much to ask for. Balance is key. Extremes are lame. Can’t have him walking around looking for a boxing match all the time…
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I have a masqueline man, and I’ll tell you sometimes I like it and sometimes I hate the control he has over me. I’ve been attracted to men that allowed me to be a lady. You know the strong type that is not afraid to hold my hand and hugg me in public. But also will not allow me to over exert myself once I get drunk at the bar. LOL!!!
I mainly am attracted to men with broad shoulders, it’s just my thing. T.I and Nick Cannon (another example) are far out of my league. They’re bodies are like teenagers and that’s not masqueline to me. Almost like they would still be wet behind the ears.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:06 pm
lol…I feel you…they are a little too skinny. I do like a man with a lil meat on his bones.
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Peyso from the Brook Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:15 pm
It appears that you love da bruhz
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
On rare occasions.
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In high school, my game had to be on point to get the jawns and believe me you, twas. In high school all the girls were feeling dudes that were pretty and resembled B2K. Then I got to college and all the jawns wanted manly men and I came back in style
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Danielle Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:23 pm
I hate a man that calls himself pretty. B-cuz lets face it I’m pretty but all the time I don’t want someone competeing with me.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
Word! I don’t want to have to fight with you for time in the mirror. Makes you less manly. And we no likey that.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
Dammit, where’s our Kappa friend when we need him?
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:14 pm
This made me laugh heartily.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:19 pm
Grrr.
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My friend used to call this the Alley Test. She said she wouldn’t date any guy who she wouldn’t feel safe walking down an alley with. And that wasn’t just all size … cause a 6’5″ motherf*cker who cried during Bambi aint protecting anybody.
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Danielle Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
she better be careful because he might turn out to be the one she needs protection from in that alley.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:42 pm
lol @ the alley test. so a 5’4 dude with a gun passes the test?
Ain’t nuttin wrong with bein 5’4 btw.
I’m 6’1
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Cheekie Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
LMAO @ “Ain’t nuttin wrong with bein 5?4 btw.
I’m 6?1″
I don’t know why that cracked me up as much as it did…but it did.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:22 pm
I must disagree. As a long legged woman who stands at 5’9″, I must say that there is something wrong with a 5’4″ man. For me. Sorry to our vertically challenged male readers I may have offended.
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Danielle Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
I stand only 5’2 and I don’t think I could lay with a man that’s only 5’4…… IDK why.
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Cheekie Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 4:30 pm
“I stand only 5?2 and I don’t think I could lay with a man that’s only 5?4…… IDK why.”
LOL. Neither could I. I’m 5’3 and though Imma try to save the “tree” brothas for sistas who are 5’7” and up (because wow, they have a hard time finding really tall brothas because they’re always with REALLY short stacks), just ONE inch taller than me ain’t gonna cut it. I
needprefer a man that I can wear heels next to him and he’s still even a little bit taller than me without having to wear a pair of Tom Cruise heels himself.Reply
Vanessa aka Miss V Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 4:49 pm
LoL thanks Cheekie… i’m def 5’7″ and it’s hard to find a dude i can walk with confidently when i wear heels. it’s not cute to tower over my date!
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ife1love Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 4:50 pm
I keep telling people that men over 6’2″ don’t exist. It’s a myth until I meet one…
I’m 5’8″ and generally at least 6′ in heels. It’s very RARE that I can find a man who I can look UP to. There’s nothing like a big field handy looking dude who can make me feel little
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I want a strong-minded, confident man. One who won’t necessarily have to “put me in my place” with a stare or command but can make me aware of myself during my random spurts of OD-independence/ABW moments with merely a thought-provoking question or sentiment. One who will challenge me, intellectually, and will assert is ideas in such a way that compliments—or, perhaps, even combats—my thoughts before I make them. I care more about his ability to hold his own—intellectually—around my colleagues, college friends, family, and even those boujie acquaintances than whether or not he can fit in on the block. Coupled with this type of confidence and intellect, I believe, is an inherent need and ability to protect and honor me, as his woman. That’s really all the man I need.
As far as physicality, I’ve never been a “thug” seeker…or even for someone supposedly “hard.” I don’t want no punk, but I don’t want an idiot, either. What good are you to me if you get ya behind whooped tryna prove yourself? For all I care, we can run from the bullets/knives/fists together.lol
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I’ve met brolic dudes softer than Kleenex and I know thin dudes that would light you up quicker than a Christmas tree.
It’s all about the intangibles ladies. A dude’s bravado isn’t reflected within his height or weight.
With that said, shout out to T.I. for reppin for the skinny cats out there!
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temps Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 12:53 am
Thank you all men know size is POINTLESS, Ronnie Lott, and Roy Woodson are NFL players and they some of the hardest hitting dudes to ever play and they WERE never the biggest on their team not even close. Also in the hood you always fought someone bigger and the reality is if I kick him in his nuts he goes down, worst if he is big and has NO HAND skills all I have to do is stick and move sooner or later his lack of fighting and his stupidity to think that I am intimidated by his size will work to my advantage. Also as a 32 yr old from a bad hood I havent fought anyone since 19 so whats with the women needing men to be violent or protect yall…protect yall from what?
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Great topic. I can admit this is a subject that I used to get real bitter about. Girls would tell me “I want a man that isn’t afraid to grab me by the back of neck and show me what time it is, but also is sensitive and likes long walks on the beach”. In my mind, that would come across as “I don’t know what the *&@#$ I want!”. With time and experience though, I’ve come to understand the paradox. I think it’s no different than the “lady in the street freak in the bed” thing most guys have going on. In any case, I’ve learned the benefits of swagger or whatever, but allow me to step on to my soap box for a second: Swagger ain’t shit. I hate the love people have for style over substance. Don’t get me wrong, being confident or cocky is all good when you can back it up. But being cocky for no reason is bullshit. I make it a point to chump these lame dudes incessantly talking about “my swag” who’re punks on the low. And it irks me that chicks fall for these lames so often. Dudes stay advertising the sizzle but don’t got the steak (pause). Heh, enough of that. Good post.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:15 pm
You’re getting into a post I have brewing…I effs with your comment here though.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
I like steak.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 1:27 pm
Too easy.
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Fellas, do women ever make it hard to be the manly man you are inside? How do you deal?
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 2:21 pm
Inside of what? I have a dirty mind.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 3:10 pm
You know, I missed that one when I wrote it. ::shakes head as shame sets in::
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Ironman Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 2:32 pm
Only when she can’t get the back into it…
Lol…jokes aside, any dude who isn’t himself because of a strong minded woman isn’t a “manly man”. You ain’t gonna take a lion’s mane by being independent. He’ll probably just walk away if he doesn’t want to deal with it.
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Cheekie Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 3:15 pm
I’d love to know what the fellas gotta say about this one because I always thought that a true “manly man” wouldn’t look to a woman or anyone else outside of himself to be a man.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 3:34 pm
You know what. I look at all my friends and the groups I’m associated with, and I can’t think of one who lets his chick dominate him, or tip toes away when people disrespect him or his girl. I’m a manly dude, but I’m typically on the calmer side of things…even though I can turn into testosterone monster pretty quickly.I don’t need a woman to
insertassert my manly man-ness. This isn’t to say that it isn’t nice to be appreciated for different stuff that could be considered manly. Aside from jumping in front of bullets for shorty or knockin’ a sucka out for disrespecting her or bedroom antics, where else is this manliness so important? I’m just regular girl. I’m just regular.Reply
Black & Trapped in Toronto Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
“insert…my manly man-ness”- giggles lollllllll
I personally think too much of the “mama said knock you out” hot tempered ish does not constitute manliness….
cool calm and collected……wooosaaaaa
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From my somewhat limited dating experience I’d have to say punks come in different shapes and sizes.
I’ve had the assertive, 6 foot+, used to play sports -turn corporate, knows how to make you do anything he wants mofo, which I perceived as masculine(=security & love?). But over time he ended up removing his mask to reveal Punk b*tch status- “where did yur balls go?” lollll
My “ideal” tall dark and handsome….but my real ideal is someone who is on the same brain wave length (sounds like a MySpace description yikes!!)
I refuse to become less independent & fabulous to make a man feel more masculine…a quality man will work with you and put you up on the pedestal that you deserve to be on. And in turn I will throw in a lil “cater to you” because I love you, NOT to show you my softer side- real women are multi-dimensional
Ladies please do not question yourself- 9.5 times out of 10 – its him not you!!!
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Slim Jackson Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 2:33 pm
It’s not him if he says “baby, don’t move” and you choose to move your hips one last time and he goes volcanic. That was all you.
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Black & Trapped in Toronto Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 2:38 pm
nuh uh….thats just reverse psychology…u were asking 4 it!!!
Thanks slim u just had to go there… I was tryna be all serious…shooot!!
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Vanessa aka Miss V Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 3:51 pm
LMAO
oh boy
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Metrosexual men RUINED my New Years…
I went to a house party in Brooklyn and I dunno… I guess when I hear “house party in Brooklyn” there’s a certain type of man I expect to see there and when I showed up, he was missing… I saw about 5 Ushers, 2 Ne-yos, and a couple of boy band rejects. It looked like a Vibe Magazine fashion spread.
Most of the men spent the majority of the night dancing alone in groups
like womenand then waited until the room was packed wall to wall to start dancing. I was disgusted from the moment I walked in so I stayed on the the outskirts of the crowd searching for some signs of masculinity. Finally, right before I left, I was standing by the door irritated, waiting on my friends and this cutie w/ jeans and a t-shirtwithout any metallic decals, rhinestones, or bedazzling, grabbed me and was like “you can’t just stand there” and I got to get one good dub out before I left.There is a fine line between fashionable and overly metro…
Leather gucci loafers with the double GG imprint… nice
Gucci print sneakers with the matching gucci belt and hat… NO!
Tucked dress shirt instead of a button up… cool
Jeans, dress shirt, w/ a buttoned vest that matches your tie, belt, news boy hat and the ‘kerchief in your back pocket… STOP IT!
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Black & Trapped in Toronto Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 2:41 pm
LMAO….Did dat party happen to have an abundance of Jamaican men in attendance??
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Danielle Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 3:06 pm
LOL!!!! This is a perfect example of partying with a younger crowd. I don’t get it why do men wear these tight clothes hanging off their butts.
I’m totally not into the metrosexual thing.
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ife1love Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 3:11 pm
Not sure, though a few did get quite spirited when the DJ started in on his dancehall set… lol
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Yeah Whatev Reply:
January 7th, 2009 at 10:18 pm
“LMAO….Did dat party happen to have an abundance of Jamaican men in attendance??”
Nooooo! Not Jamaican Men! LOL! They’ve got a style all their own! Still love ‘em though.
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ChokLitFacory Reply:
January 7th, 2009 at 12:18 pm
LMAO so funny! That tight-pants look is real popular amoung the dancehall scene tho hey? 2 Ne-yos? YIKES! Usher I can dig tho, he ain’t too bad.
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temps Reply:
January 8th, 2009 at 11:03 pm
Again not to say women made this happen but yall was complicit in a lot of this metro sex thing. So I cant see why now all women are buggin. The reality is thugs if they really are thugs go to jail-some men not all of course yet out of that “some” a few go to prison-where if there long enough they will sex a man. Thug Life.
When yall didnt want them yall tried to merge his college counterpart with the slick “new” R&B look of the 90′s and a little bit of street but then Kells started sleeping with kids…So yall went for the ULTRA male, degree and looks too good and has a “street background”. Then find out he is a diva dude. Some of you women wanted us out of our timbs…like NOW and the alt…colorful kicks? Then yall realized these guys are for real (though he makes “real suit money” he dont own NOT ONE for example). Again I want to know what is the appeal of women shapin men in a femmed image and then so surprised when the guys take to it? If it gets us laid ONCE its in play period…some women out there must LOVE this or men wouldnt do it. I am not shocked at all the pattern fits todays “surface is depth” nature. From the Thug-to Sensitve Man-to Corporate Thug-to Metrosex/Diva dude all of these types allow men to front and women are buying it…imagine men going for butch looking and acting women thats NEVER happening!!! Problem is women do not know how to go for the guy that thinks and acts FOR HIMSELF…every dude wearing tight jeans loud dumb looking shirts well cats like me are not..slim jeans and my waste size yes w/button ups some with cuff links also I dont wear them lame prada kicks everyone has..I got Cole Hanns with the Nike air bubble!!! I got men and women asking “wear you get those” not follwoing them metro dudes thats fo sho’!!!!!
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Great topic Sowhatiff!! Wow, where can I begin…
I also used to equate never-ending muscles with masculinity; in fact, I had a weight requirement, which was 200 lbs just to get in the door (pause). I dated all these big burly negros that literally would grab me up when I wasn’t acting right (not like physical abuse guys, come on) and could pick me up with one hand and throw me over their shoulder (it turned me on) and back when I was in the sheets, I never wanted to actually be in sheets (ie. public places) so having someone who could lift me and thrust me with ease was a bonus for dark alleys, kitchens, classrooms,(clean) bathrooms, etc (don’t judge).
Anyways, all that changed when I met D. D was a linebacker All-American at Linebacker U (won’t get too specific here, as I am told one or so of the bloggers here attended Linebacker U). He was about 6’3, 250 lbs, all muscle, 2% body fat, milk chocolate perfection, and definitely passed the manly man test… Except for one thing… The guy took longer to shower than me (on account of his shaving his entire body), used more women products than me (lotions, body wash, deoderant were all from B&B, VS, or had commercials about being strong enough for a man), manicured his nails, wore more jewelry than I did, dressed better than me, and couldn’t be caught dead in the famous blue & white athletic swishies that could be found all around our prestigious university.
No, he wasn’t gay. But I can guarantee you, there was no grabbing me up, no throwing me over the shoulder, no girl have you lost your mind looks to put me in check, and I guarantee if some guy tried to grab me in a club, he would have kindly asked him to not do that. Basically, he went completely off his big stature in order to avoid confrontation (no one really wanted to mess with him), but I didn’t feel any safer/more feminine with him than I would with my best female friend. And in the sheets… there was more “love-making” than any girl should be subject to in her lifetime… Not once did he choke me up even a little bit, nor post me up in the parking lot (stop judging).
Part of wanting a manly man (for us SBWs) is being able to feel feminine in a world that we constantly have to assert our “I can fight my own battles/ change a flat tire/ open my own damn door” feminism just to be taken seriously. When we go home, we want a man who doesn’t tell us that since he paid for dinner last time, we should get it this time (not that I’m against that, I just don’t need a man telling me that). We don’t want to always have to be the one to take control in the bedroom. We don’t want someone to say “Why did you hit me? How would you like it if I hit you?” every time we give him a good punch in the arm for lookin’ at another girl (he should just take it like a man). We want to feel like women with our men. Because at the end of the day (and this is probably a new topic), men and women are NOT equal. There ARE roles/expectations that are meant for men, and those meant for women when it comes to a relationship (yeah, this is a whole new topic). So says the Bible itself (here I go).
Anyways, needless to say, my burly man phase ended shortly after D. I still prefer a height minimum (for baby-making purposes), but I’m much more flexible when it comes to weight/muscles, and even height because what’s most important to me is that he makes me feel like a woman.
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Peyso from the Brook Reply:
January 6th, 2009 at 4:15 pm
O i’ll make you feel like a woman…..
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Joey Reply:
January 7th, 2009 at 12:29 pm
Thanks, Peyso… but incase you didn’t catch that, I retired from my feeling like a woman days to become a nun… Thanks anyway.
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Preach! I am a woman and I want a man, not a boy or some kind of flim flam pansy. Being a man doesn’t mean you have to have outdated ideas or fake machismo, but I do need to feel like you are protecting me and not the other way around.
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I been gone for a few, this def was a great post. One thing i can honestly say i hate to see a fly girl. With a dude that looks he better of being her friend.
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