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1. Loser dudes from the past
2. Loser dudes who hope to be a part of my future
3. Grudges and Bitterness
4. Sex
5. Cussin’
Please note: this list is a work in progress. Depending on the day, or my mood, some things get added to the list, or taken away. I am actively working on each one, so by no means have I “achieved” any goal. For discussion’s sake , I will keep the list as is. And if you are anything like me, you can probably guess which one I am struggling with the most. Well two. Cussin and sex, with the latter being the most difficult. It is truly something I toggle with. For those of us not carrying that V card, we know how good sex can feel…so how do you just walk away from that?
As I struggle with the desire to Just Say No to the vitamin D, I am torn. On the one hand I’m like: Its simple. Just say no. Don’t answer his texts; don’t send him sexy emails or leave sexy messages. Go home after you spend some “friendly” time together. On the other hand, I’m like: Damn, it felt so good the last time. Plus I could use the work out. Then I start thinking:
Why am I saying no to the Vitamin D?
For a few reasons. But mostly because its not doing anything for me beyond the momentary pleasure. I’m not into having sex with people I don’t have an emotional connection (not read: in love with), and since that part of my life is a little out of order right now, I might as well cut it out.
How do guys feel about women not giving up the cookie?
Is this something runs men off? Like, will my dating stock drop if I’m not sharing my goodies? I know Slim likes the ladies with the low digits, and other dudes do too. So does this work in my favor? Would I judge a man if he told me he wasn’t into doing the horizontal mambo because he needed “some perspective”? Probably.
Damn. Will my skills get rusty?
I mean, they say some things like are riding a bike. Once you learn, you can’t really forget. I wonder if this holds true to riding other things as well. Just a thought.
It can’t be that bad.
There was a time when I wasn’t getting the pumpington, so it can’t be that hard to stop, right? Eh. Easier said than done. So for now, I just take things one day at a time. When I want to make that call, I just say a prayer, and find something to do. Maybe I’ll start working it out more or something.
Have you ever had a similar struggle to keep the goodies on lock? Or was your dry spell not by choice? What was your motivation? Do men think about not having sex too?
Sowhatiff – I have bling on my chastity belt – Jenkins
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Wow, when did you get in my head? I am in the exact place you are right now. I’m not struggling yet (4months now) but I know I will be. What gets me through it? Knowing that I won’t have to be looking at the sleeping person next to me wondering if what I did was worth it, knowing that I won’t hear from him again until he decides he needs a Jane-ooh-ahhh-fix. No thanks. I have things that deserve my focus right now and unfortuantely sex (and him) is just not one of them.
-last note: I was celibate before and ummm guys weren’t very nice when it came time to tell them, lol. It just let me know to keep it moving.
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I was celibate for over a year until yesterday and trust, it was well worth the wait in finding someone who I was really in tune with.
I went through the exact same thing as you, including just feeling like I wasn’t getting anything from it.. I just felt empty aftewards.
It’s hard initially, but for me…. I had to cut off anyone I’d had s3x with previously and basically start over again from scratch.. that way, you aren’t tempting yourself.
Cussing— yeah, I’m still workin on it. lol.. today is a new day.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 8:36 am
So if you were celibate until yesterday, then there is a man that is sitting at a desk somewhere or walking around with a huge smile on his face and a twinkle in his eyes.lol.
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:30 am
LMAO Slim. Yessir, he prolly is…
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This post caused me to throw my hands in the air, laugh, and shout “this is f*ckin great!”
“I know Slim likes the ladies with the low digits, and other dudes do too. So does this work in my favor?”
It works in your favor if the guy is looking for something long term, which I’m assuming is ideal for grown women like yourself. The other interesting thing about this attitude is that it can reduce the number of dudes your steady guy thinks you’ve been with in the past…assuming yall never have the numbers talk.
I’d have less questions in my active mind for a woman who appears to be highly selective/conservative with her thang as opposed to someone who takes minimal effort to thronx down.
Come to think of it, I don’t even like thronxing. I just like to spoon and fall asleep quietly with some random old school r&b album playing in the background.
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Just A Thought Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 9:39 am
Ha! That was funny!
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Tunde Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:10 am
“I just like to spoon and fall asleep quietly with some random old school r&b album playing in the background.”
rotflmao…
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Southern Belle Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 3:43 pm
“Come to think of it, I don’t even like thronxing. I just like to spoon and fall asleep quietly with some random old school r&b album playing in the background.”
I would have never thought.
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I didn’t make any new years resolutions for 2009, but I felt the need to set new standards for myself when turning 25.
Getting that good D game no longer felt that “good”. That’s when I realized that I needed to stop casually giving the cookie to someone that was not deserving of it. I made a resolution that no cookie was gonna be given to anybody that I was not in a relationship with.
You’d be surprised…it actually felt good. I actually started forming better, more substantial relationships with men around me, and recognizing who was there for me, and who was there for the sweet treat (I want some milk and coookiesss)
Remember, to get what you truly want in life..and to get something really good, you’ve gotta sacrifice.
But damn, some good D could make a sista act crazy!
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 9:39 am
Ain’t that the damn truth.
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temps Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
If the D is what you wanted why is then you (women) come back with “I want something more” when did you want more before or after you gave it up? If its AFTER , thats SELLERS REMORSE, you know mom brought the toy you dont play with it, friend comes thru loves it- NOW you want to claim it and use it to re-establish the friendship and thats a manipulated feeling and those arent counted. It sounds as if you accepted just the D therefore all of the other half-ass crap dude bringin the bullshit was bringing which you igg’ed cuz you was gettin yours right which is what keeps you-men have been using this yo-yo for as long as women will let us? But he keeps bringing it so now the focus goes to be “well I am not putting up with this you’ re just someone I have sex with”. I feel when the D goes sour women want relationships-when those goes to the left she wants “just that D”.
Could it be women like men eschew Quality for Sexiness (which is easier to show AND read but Quality takes time-so are the ladies impateint when meeting Mr.Wouldbe-Goodbar?)
IMO the men played their part-walking and talking dildos’ they pleased the women so whats wrong here?
Do women revise whats sexy in man @ 31 from 21?
What were the overwhelming reasons to sex these men-the criteria? Because to this date I have never myself or my boys complained about some really good P that we wanted casually. Now a dumb date or a bad relationship..but guys dont complain like that about casual sex we make jokes about it with our boys.Last I didnt have to belet down or hurt to find out that “gee maybe I should slow down” its like the parent only reacting to their kids issues at the preceint or in the principals office. Just my opinions though.
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:48 am
Amen!
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Cocksman Bka Anaconda Jones Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 2:43 pm
Praise the Lord!
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Southern Belle Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
“I made a resolution that no cookie was gonna be given to anybody that I was not in a relationship with.”
In theory, great idea. However, sex makes up a large part of any relationship. I couldn’t start dating a man and then come to find out that he’s working with less than adequate goods or he’s just corny in bed.
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temps Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 7:48 pm
Oh baby THANK YOU cause I swear women really dont want cellibate men-just men who throw down in bed but isnt promiscuous-yet multiple partners is the best way most men get good at sex-talk about a paradox, the other is being with someone long enough to develop their routine-stamina likes and dislikes.
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I’ve been celibate for most of my adult life (my record, after turning in my V card), was 3 years, so I guess I don’t look at it as a struggle. I get bothered more by having no one to cuddle with or to (gasp!) cook for.
Anywho, men take the “I’m celibate” statement in one of two ways. Either they act stank and disappear, or they make every effort to get the golden compass. Either way, you will get to see a dude’s true colors once he knows about your decision.
But, no worries, your skills will not get rusty, and it is only hard every once and a while. As long as you get rid of ways to contact Mr. Good Wood, then you will be able to keep your commitment. Oh, and be prepared for the onslaught of calls, texts, runins w/ fine specimens who only want that late night tangle. The devil is busy and he will throw everything at you in the beginning.
As for the cursing, I can’t help you. I don’t think I’ve every gone a month where I didn’t swear, and these jackals I work with don’t make it easy.
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:49 am
I agree… when I told men I was celibate, you’d swear I told them I was hiding the Golden Ticket in between my legs…
I haven’t met any that were discouraged.
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Southern Belle Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 3:52 pm
Hmm…
If the shoe was on the other foot though, and dude was celibate, would that bother you? As a woman, I crave intimacy, not sex. I like being close to the man that I love, both physically and emotionally. Physically, sex is as close as we can get. I used to talk to a guy that was celibate and our relationship was great. However, when all that was left was taking that step toward sex so that we could get close, he wouldn’t consent and I found it difficult to build from there.
In no way do I feel that any woman should sleep around casually, as it’s destructive in the long run, but I will say that sex can really help two people grow closer.
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1) Guys who just want the wet-wet will be angry, others who just like you and wouldnt mind the wet-wet arent going to be angry and guys who are in it to win it dont care cuz they know they’ll get it eventually.
2) Your skills aint gonna get rusty, ya stamina will though. Dont expect the nana to take the pumpington as well as she did in the past (no homo)
3) It is that bad but remember that the pain of regret hurts much more than the pain of sacrifice
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Intellectual Hedonist Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:19 am
“the pain of regret hurts much more than the pain of sacrifice” I am embroidering this into every one of my panties. thanks
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Peyso will kuffi smack you Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:28 am
I think that would make my penis run away
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Intellectual Hedonist Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:41 am
lol
perhaps a temporary tattoo on the thigh will be effective too.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:37 am
“Run, Penis. Run.”
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:52 am
“Your skills aint gonna get rusty, ya stamina will though. Dont expect the nana to take the pumpington as well as she did in the past (no homo)”
I can agree with this. That part is not the bizness
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Southern Belle Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 3:58 pm
“the pain of regret hurts much more than the pain of sacrifice”
Most profound statement of my day. I think I’d hurt more from the regret of being in a relationship that isn’t fulfilling versus being in a relationship that requires some sacrifice to make it functional. I digress, FML.
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What about if you have a “side” Piece with a “friend”, but for prospective boyfriends, you “hold” the cookies? Or you could just invest in a really good dildo
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Slim Jackson Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:01 am
What about if you have a “side” Piece with a “friend”, but for prospective boyfriends, you “hold” the cookies?
That side piece sounds like meaningless sex, which re-creates the same problem she started with…
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:41 am
I dunno if holding out for the potential boyfriends means anything if I’m giving it up elsewhere.
lol! I don’t do the dildo thing. Its either all or nothing.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:46 am
I just sent you something in the mail. Just replace the batteries occasionally and wipe it down after use. I’d suggest the very right bottom corner of your underwear drawer for storage.
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Peyso will kuffi smack you Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:52 am
u shouldnt knock it til u try it
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:16 am
eh. so they say.
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Reign Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:29 am
no comparison at all to real D but it does help relieve that pent up stress and the need to get off.
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:53 am
The bullet is wayyyyy better.
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Diva Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 5:13 pm
I agree, nothing like the real thing…but you have to have sometype of “replacement” or you’ll go crazy & may make the mistake of letting a troll wear you down…
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I think the main thing about it is to start being more selective.
As a man I always told women that I met that it wasn’t about sex, it was about getting to know them. I had women tell me that they wanted me to be more aggressive, but in reality, they just wanted it to be about the physical.
I think when you take sex out of the equation, and put it on the back burner, your eyes will be open to a lot more things.
Then when you find someone that you are really in tune with, then you can hone your skills repairing that head board, rehanging that shower curtain, getting the washing machine off of it’s side, and avoiding your neighbors cause they ask you “how’s Mr. X”, when they know the name of your new friend…that you never told them….
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 1:12 pm
I like the way you think Mr. Smith.
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Good for you, several years back I decided that casual sex was wack for many reasons, and dangerous as a mug SMH. Abstinence is not that hard to maintain at all, really esp with the HIV numbers round here, thats even more incentive to stay on the right path.
I also am working on myself in terms of being less annoyed with folk for various reasons most often from things that stem from something inside of them, i.e. needing validtion from another grown woman etc, its their problem yes LOL but I am making a conscious effort to be kinder when I recognize things like that and just pray for folk.
I also fully agree on losers are not tolerated, this a SUCKER FREE ZONE period!!!!!
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yess let me add your skills do not rust. When the ONE comes along I trust that everything will be as it should, the ONE evokes and stokes things, instinctly
as only the ONe can! Plus you keeping things tight with low mileage!!!!
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After my child’s father and I separated (we had been together almost 6 years), I was faced with a situation that I had never been faced with before: single motherhood. I knew that I am not a woman who would ever want, in my quest for companionship, to expose/introduce my daughter to numerous uncles or “Mr. So-and-So”s, so, naturally, I put my goodies (and my whole dating life, for the most part) on the shelf.
I became so engrossed in being successful in my dual roles as a professional and a mother that literally the first 6 months or so passed without even a flicker of a thought regarding from whom I would get my next “piece”.
BUT THEN… lmao
No, seriously, after about 9 or 10 months into my sexual/dating sabbatical I started to feel slightly socially disconnected and I developed that “itch”. You know, not the itch that develops from being unclean, but the “itch” that needs a good, long, fat, d*ck to scratch it…
A month or so after the “itch” developed, one of my younger brother’s friends (who I had been in contact with for business reasons off and on throughout my sabbatical) started showing interest in me. I rebuffed his interest, only to find that I, too, was very impressed with this young cat’s (I was 30; he was 25) seriousness, persistence, and obvious interest in me.
Needless to say, we’ve been dating for over a year now. With my permission, he took my goodie box off the shelf, knocked the dust off (literally – ;D) and began to remind me of all the fun stuff contained therein…
Chile, take the time you need to get in touch with you, accomplish some goals, and grow. The fact that you’re even THINKING about such issues shows an evolution in your psyche and in your being. If you fall off the wagon and onto some good d*ck, don’t feel bad. Dust yourself off and get back in the saddle… (I’m not making this any better, am I? lol) In fact, give yourself permission to feel GOOD, but not at the expense of betraying what you know you’re working towards.
P.S. Guys who want “low numbers”, want to be lied to. Considering a lie ain’t sh*t to tell, why even engage in the “numbers” conversation with a woman/man?? What proof do you have one way or another?? All you really need to know is that there is no residual physical (STDs, uterine scarring, warts, etc.) or psychological damage from all the cocks she has allowed in her hen house.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:19 am
“You know, not the itch that develops from being unclean, but the “itch” that needs a good, long, fat, d*ck to scratch it… ”
If I was drinking red Kool-Aid, my good white shirt would be ruined.
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RightCoastLexSteele, Monday Morning QB Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 12:05 pm
“P.S. Guys who want “low numbers”, want to be lied to. Considering a lie ain’t sh*t to tell, why even engage in the “numbers” conversation with a woman/man?? What proof do you have one way or another?? All you really need to know is that there is no residual physical (STDs, uterine scarring, warts, etc.) or psychological damage from all the cocks she has allowed in her hen house.”
Well said. And that d*ck scratcher comment made my day. I’m getting you a mother’s day gift.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 2:39 pm
Oh snap. I missed the “cocks in the hen house” part before. You were on a roll! LOL!
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Cocksman Bka Anaconda Jones Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 2:59 pm
I SO CONCURRRR …. like how many woman a girl has slept with only matters, to how much its gonna affect our relationship. By the time a girl is 30, shiiit … let’s just say i watch sex and the city too…. i know what to expect. SOWHatiff Jenkins …. gimmie a sec
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Diva Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 5:18 pm
I agree, no one should have the audacity to ask about the #, they should be asking, when’s the last time you’ve been tested, can I see your papers, are you crazy, are you married???
People don’t ask the right questions anymore.
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Dear So Whatiff Jenkins,
please get out of my head. I have been gone for a while cause work got me busy but your picture on facebook really caught my attention because this is an issue I myself have been grappling with.
Having been in what I thought was a committed relationship for 14 years it was easy to withhold sex the last 5 on and off for months at a time when I was angry or really resenting the bastard, but in my new freedom one of the things I am having issue with is my own empowerment versus my will (or lack thereof).
I agree with you that having meaningless sex just to fill your physiological need for it does leave you empty (but physically satisfied). But I am once again trying to go without Vitamin D myself. But doesnt it seem when we try thats when all the men that have ever hit come out the woodwork…. Lord give me strength!
Maybe we should start a support group
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 11:21 am
Word. I need a sponsor. Someone to call when you get the urge to pop that thang, so they can talk you down.
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me and my dude have agreed to only be friends… it’s been 3 weeks… and I’m dying here!!! I don’t have any advice to give, I love my dildo, therefore I’m never without the O. And I’m sure we’ll be FWB… it’s just too good to walk away from… sorry I’m weak when it come to his vitamin D, so addictive lol. But I wish you the best!
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What the hell are you people talking about. Good sex never hurt anyone. As a member of the League of Cocksman (still on suspension for using performance enhancing drugs) I take offense to this anti penis talk. Where is the love for all the head aches we took away. all the time when you needed to feel sexy, to release some stress. To become someone else, sowhattiff… You love getting spanked (not saying I know this from specific sources, just in general) maybe what you need to stay focus on school is more pipe and you should cut out something that does provided you the same screaming pleasure. Yall BEP women have to be tough in the office all day, our sex lives are the one chance you can let your hand down and let us take over your body. Sex only good at the time you having it??? Really Miss Sunshine, you sound like your still enjoying it. I don’t care if I become the father of two daughter, I am anti celibacy i until die. In the words of lupe fiasco, backshots saved my life.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 2:44 pm
LOL. Wow.
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I pose a new question: If you are not giving up the cookie, does it matter if the dude you are talking to or getting to know or whatever is getting his rocks off with someone else?
Guys how do you handle when a woman says she’s not giving up the cookie?
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Cocksman Bka Anaconda Jones Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 3:25 pm
Analogy:
If a patient goes to the Doctor with a broken arm, and rather stay at home then gets surgery. The Doctor gives his best wishes and sees another patient. The same is with a cocksman.
If a women doesn’t want to give up “cookie” thats not on me, that’s on her. I’ll take responsibility for anything that does happen when we dance, but she’ll have to take responsibility for EVERYTHING that don’t happen.
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niasmomma Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 4:21 pm
Call it what you want to – if he ain’t stirring your Kool-Aid, SOMEBODY’s is gettin’ stirred… Don’t play with him and don’t play with yourself *pause*…
He may tell you he’s not seeing/sleeping with anyone else, but sooner or later, he will. Honestly how many times do you actually think he is going to leave a date or a “celibate cuddle session” with you with full, distended testicles and be content to beat off?
I don’t think all men think about is sex, but I certainly don’t disillusion myself by thinking that men, especially men under age 50, are willing to (not CAPABLE of) forego sexual gratification for the pursuit of relationship fulfillment. I believe most men think those concepts are mutually exclusive.
That being said, if your AGREEMENT with your guy is celibacy and he concurs, then he should fulfill his moral obligation and abstain. However, if you’re the only one who is celibate, you best believe over the long haul, you’ll STILL be the only one who is celibate. He’s gonna get his cock all up in SOMEBODY’s hen house, rest assured.
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Sam Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
I can’t co-sign. If I meet a woman and one of the first things that comes outta her mouth is that she doesn’t/isnt’ looking for sex, it kills it for me. Here’s my 2 main reasons why.
1) It gives me the impression that she thinks that’s all I want. I’m a pretty easy going guy on that tip, so what did I do to make you think that’s all I wanted? What made you think that IS what I even wanted from you? Now since you’ve told me that “I can’t”, that’s probably all I will think about or focus on when I’m with you. You’ve kinda made it a game.
2) It limits the whole interaction. Now you don’t know if you can or can’t do anything. *can’t kiss this chick cuz that could lead to something*, *can’t grab her bootie she might think i’m too aggressive*, etc. Why can’t we just let this thing ride out. Again, what makes you think I want that from you? If we get heated up and some things transpire naturally, then “let’s do this” (Lerroooyyy Jennnnkinnnnss!). But no. Now I gotta censor myself or something? I can’t stand people who limit the potential of love.
I remember back in college I kicked it with this chick and I never touched her. Didn’t really feel pressed to. I enjoyed her company and that “warm body” in bed next to me. That was it. Plus I had something on the side to appease that appetite. Then, like a month or so into it she was like, “Why haven’t you tried to have sex with me?” Course I didn’t say, “Oh I just liked your company and warm body in bed….”. Cats would’ve came calling for my cocksman card. So I did what most men would have done. Rip her clothes off and go to town. So for the fact that I didn’t try her, she damn near questioned my man hood.
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Cocksman Bka Anaconda Jones Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 5:00 pm
Sam, what you say is so righteous … I think we were wingman in another life. I had a VERY similar situation, Had a girl she was my butt-nekked sleeping buddy. After the 4th session, she started acting up, and being all depressing … my dude when i tell you i turned over and ripped her shirt off, and she screamed Yes!
Something about tearing a girls shirt off after withholding WANG is money.
Hail Cocksman
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Diva Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 5:25 pm
I was withholding my cookie jar one year & college & sorta seeing this guy. We would do EVERYTHING but penitration *might as well let him put the tip in*…anyways, long story short, about 13 months of keeping the lid on the cookie jar, I BEGGED him to give it to me…..
It was horrid.
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 8:49 pm
So if you are feeling a woman, and then say, a month or so after yall have been petting and cuddling, she’s like oh, I’m celibate, that doesn’t throw you? I guess I’m asking is there a good time for a woman to bring this up to guy, if saying it early is off putting.
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Sam Reply:
April 7th, 2009 at 9:49 am
The only time I think is a good time to say that is when you have some type of vibe on connection with the dude. Or you’re certain you know the guy. And you have to be sure of either of those facts. Like dead on. Otherwise, you’re treading thin. Putting it on a pedestal. Another blog I read a lot goes into good detail in a post. You can check it out here—-> http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?s=pedestal. Pay close attention to his first point there Ms. Jenkins
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Sowhatiff Jenkins Reply:
April 7th, 2009 at 2:37 pm
I do appreciate your reference, but I’m not in that class of woman VSB is referring. This process its not about what I think men do or do not want from me. Its not about keeping the trophy until I think he deserves it or what he wants at all. Its just about me. The kind of woman he is referring to may not have much more to offer, outside of her cookie. Not the case here
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I agree with your list, Sowhatiff.
HOWEVER, cussing is grrreat; the losers & sex can kick rocks but the cussing makes my life entertaining.
…when used in a controlled environment. lol.
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My belt also has bling. Holla!
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HIV is so rampant in this city, if you got good sense whether you are male or female you just not out here, dipping and dabbing with multiple partners and or solely seeking to be casually sexin…if you are like that then you aren’t the person for me anyway.
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I absolutely loved the post today. AMEN AMEN AMEN
okay I’m done, keep keep holding down
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Wowzers!
What have I been missing?? lollllll
The conversation was live today, but then again how is that different from any other day!?
I would rather be alone than chase after “Oscar Meyers”.
Sex is one of the ways we connect to the higher power. When we abuse sex, we are left alone or empty, and we feel the need to constantly get off with whoever- it becomes an addiction. Sometimes it helps to take a break and connect to the higher power in other ways, instead being dependant upon “Oscar Meyers” to help achieve that for you.
Don’t get me wrong I am no prude.. I love love love love connecting to the higher power through sex, but at what cost?
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Just how can a women get rusty? I mean you can practice oral on say a banana but other than that whats comparable to an erection and keepin it?
I wonder what woman have to say about a celibate man and they are who he breaks it with, and trust men CANNONT go with out and it doesnt show. A year?…man listen….the hand can oly mimmic but so much so again what does a women get rusty at?
And if the man hadnt had sex in a yr and she KNEW this and it showed how would she feel?
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Lemme add there is no Life of Peaks..all choices have neg and pos qualites to em. Being celibate does ensure one will be safe from STD’s but extreme and abosolute happiness or the world “getting it” cuz you have put sex in its place wont happen. Telling a man too soon is braggin-might as well tell me how much you make and what you drive. Aside from the diseases I cant really go beyond that to say what a positive it is to not have sex. I think the whole “meaningless sex” thing is kinda dumb-I use having sex with “quality people” as a better tool. After all tons of married ppl and couples have meaningless sex its WHO they are with that makes the difference. This is were women get caught up. Assumming the cues she gleaned from what the Guy was disclosing she thinks and sometimes is right that as for sex Dude goes in (literally). But thats when the “quality” thing pops in.
If men cant abstain from sex to pursue the relationship (as someone said esp men uder 50). I say women under 50 dont attach Intelligence to Men and our Sex or the oh so famous line said by ALL women “he smart but he f*ck”?!?
…After all up til college girls swear if he smart he cant throw it down. Be honest ladies how old were you before you realized you were sexing a really intelligent brother and you gave him the OK based of said intelliegence? (and yes in conjuction with the oh so manly other things we do to get your attention, lest not get dumb and throw the baby out with the bathwater now). Lemme also ask how many laides gave up the gushy to that Thug or Player based on his hype and his stuff.. but then she realized she coulda had better fun clipping her toenails?
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temps Reply:
April 6th, 2009 at 10:15 pm
One more thing I promise:) ADVERSITY reveals character not withholding of sex or a lack therof.
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