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As I traveled the 7 seas alongside the Most Interesting Man in the World, who also taught me how to speak French…in Russian, I made a detailed list of observations about different types of people—many of which I can’t mention here without risking my life. Some of these things have been complex and quite intricate. Others have been very simple. The title of this post may be one of the simplest and accepted observations ever made. I’ve known for a while, but wasn’t ready to declare it until attending a few bbq’s this summer and hosting one myself. Now that I’m winded after runnin’ up the stairs to the top of the bell tower overlookin’ the city, I can shout it:
White People Have Fun!
Yep. It doesn’t matter where they are or who they’re with. They just have a lot of fun. Now this isn’t to say that Black, Latino, or Asian people don’t have fun. I’m just sayin’ that White people fun is a different type of fun. For example,
He's having a pretty effin' good time.
This man doesn’t have a worry in the world. He doesn’t care who’s watchin’ him get down to business. For all we know, he could be at a function bein’ thrown by one of the most violent inner city gangs in the world. That would at least explain the graffiti in the background. The point here is that he’s havin’ unrestricted fun. This is something I feel like “a lot of us” still have not learned how to do amongst ourselves. At this point, I’d like to take a look at Black and White People Casual Events. Honestly, it’s just the right thing to do.
White Person Fun Event
Whether it be indoors or outdoors, everyone is in casual clothing. There’s no dress to impress. Granted, you won’t see people in pajamas unless that’s the theme of the event. You will, however, see a lot of sandals, khakis, old shoes, chatting, and smiling. There will be music, which is usually a collection of popular hip hop. When people are singin’ along at the party, they will skip over the N word as if it isn’t there in an effort to not offend the lone Black guy (Usually Seattle or myself). There will also be alcohol. Correction, there will be lots of alcohol including beer, wine, and hard liquor. Everyone who came to the event will bring something along, whether it be booze, ice (Not jewelry), food, or utensils. You know that when you leave a White Person Fun Event that the hosts will have a surplus of food and alcohol for days as a result of guests’ contributions.
Black Person Fun Event
Spades. Dominoes.Liquor.Music.Wings.Ribs. People may also be dressed to impressed even though they already know everybody who’s gonna be at the event. Black Person Fun Events often turn out to be a pre-game for a night out on the town. That surplus of food and alcohol left at the White People Fun Event? Nope. Not for us. As I found out this past weekend from throwin’ a bbq, we, as in Black people, like to have fun. We do not necessarily like to provide the ingredients for a fun time. Aside from the 3 lovely women who helped us cook and run the bbq, only 4 out of the 25 or so guests that passed through the house brought something other than their own sausage and a little bit of sand. Of those 4, only one of them was Black. It wasn’t until I woke up the next morning and found that all the grilled goods had been consumed and that there was no alcohol left that I became disappointed in my people…but then a friend brought me a Red Stripe and all was right with the world again.
So yeah, this was just my brief look at the differences between White People Fun and Black People Fun. I’m sure folks have a lot to add to this from their own experiences. What else is White Fun or Black Fun? Actually, let’s throw in Latino and Asian fun as well. Do you prefer partying with any particular group because of the fun they have? Speak on it. No racism though today. Please.
Hanging from a chandelier and my shirt lost in the mix,
p.s. There were generalizations made in this post. I’m aware.
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Before I go to bed, one thing I’ve noticed about white women is that they are not afraid to hit the dance floor in all of their drunken glory. And a lot of the times, I’m the only black chick out there with them. And white women dance to everything the DJ plays…everything.
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Smiley Face Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:23 am
lol..more than two drinks and I’m falling asleep..ain’t no more dancing for me. imma find a corner and sit down somewhere!
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:25 am
That’s the other thing…
White folks go in on some wine and beer, and I know, wine and beer drunk are very different from liquor drunk.
Liquor drunk sits you down; wine and beer drunk… sits you down, but only after you’ve gone ’round and ’round on the dance floor. LOL.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:27 am
Liquor drunk literally incapacitates. Ain’t no bouncing back from that. Beer drunk you can come back from by the end of the night. I’ve done studies on both.lol.
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:28 am
Not to mention, you wake up the next morning not wanting to die the way you wake up wanting to die on a liquor drunk. It’s all so unfortunate.
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Smiley Face Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:43 am
i’m a cheap date, two of anything and i’m buzzed, lol! I ain’t ashamed! i get the giggle fits and i love everybody, lol.
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deN.I.A.l is not a river in Egypt Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:46 am
So true about the wine. It’s one of the reasons why I started drinking wine more when I go out.
And 2 drinks, Smiley? girl, you need to get your weight up…lol(j/k). I feel you, though. If I’m out partying hard, like this past weekend, I can get 3 in, and still maintain my stability on the dancefloor. But if I even take a sip of a 4th (like I did Saturday night), I’m done. SMH.
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Smiley Face Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:54 am
and the funny part is..I am a licensed bar tender (on the side) I will get you drunk all day long but me..nah I’m good with two, lol!!!
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I think its pretty messed up that we generalize our ppl in this way, but that’s life. I pretty much agree with the entire post, I just want to elaborate. “Whites” can go have a great night, keep themselves contained but it seems like “Blacks” always have to outdo each other. “Whites” aren’t worried about who’s fresher or who’s dancing with who, while “Blacks” constantly have to worry about their “haters.” Its really just sad that we don’t have this same type of discipline. We can’t just go out and have a good time without someone wanting to fight because their fresh ones just got stepped on. Anywho, I believe that’s why some “whites” are more successful. They will sacrifice a social life, study all the time, go to an Ivy League, become a CEO and THEN chill while a “Black Man” can’t be a square. I think we need to start living for our futures && stop living for our “haters.”
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Nicki Sunshine Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 8:43 am
I agree with this whole post!
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Slim Jackson Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 8:45 am
Dear theVixen,
I like you. I also co-sign this comment. Hope to see you around these parts more regularly.
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theVixen. Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 2:21 pm
Aww, why thank you! I hope to be able to comment more on this site, i’m really liking it! You can come check me out too, if you want.
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:08 am
Shoot, the white people I went to school with worked hard and partied hard.
Out ’til 3am? Check.
Test tomorrow morning in an 8am class? Check.
A on said test, despite throwing up before and afterwards? Check.
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CHeeKZ Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:56 am
Co-Sign….
I think its our insecurities about status. That is why we are afraid to let our hair down.
If you have ever been to a white frat party you know what this comment means. Its also related to those “dating white girl” comments/jokes the LOC and myself are always making. A Bunny isn’t scared to just suck you down, black girl has to be more guarded with who she blesses to avoid the ‘chickenhead’ label.
Its not like black people CAN’T wild out. Just that we are raised with this extra shield to protect us from the racist world and its unfair practices.
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***Ahem, this is one big mass generalization.***
I totally agree with this post with one caveat. White people party to their status. From what I have seen, they tend to fall into one of 3 categories: Red Neck/Trailer Trash, Regular People, Snooty Rich People.
Blacks also party to their status: I’m Black and This Is What We Do.
If you have ever watched Country Music Network’s My Big Fat Redneck Wedding, you will see that White People below the poverty lines will go to no end to prove their ignorance and illiteracy while trying to have fun, whether it is rolling in the mud or crushing beer cans with their butt cheeks.
But anyone who has ever been to a Country Club on a Saturday afternoon, or rode on a boat with the fairer skined homosapians know that those people party like they have a stick up their butt… and it ain’t fun. At those events, they do care what you look like, what you say and how you act. They will very unapologetically judge you for not having your ish together.
I feel like regular white people can be who they want to be: Real. A party is supposed to be fun. Why not cut up a little bit? Why not be comfortable? It’s so much easier when you aren’t trying to prove how Rich/Poor you are. My only complaint with all of these parties (though I have not been to the former) is that for some reason White people don’t seem to believe in taking home all the crap that the brought with them…
You jerks! What am I going to do with 6 bags of Tostitoes and a keg?!?!? Grab a plate and take that ish with you! We don’t play that here!
Black parties seem to follow their own etiquette guidelines. Everyone knows that you are not supposed to go to a party empty-handed, because then you are no longer a guest, you are a mooch. I completely agree with the fashion show, the violently intense games of Spades and “eat everything in sight” aspects. If you question someone on their behavior, they will more than likely say that “That’s what we do, babay!” Well, if that’s the case, then I don’t want to come to your BBQs anymore Uncle Angelo, cuz you are stressing me the eff out.
They way I see it, life is too short (and stressful) to not have fun when you can. So if I am twisted and want to dance on a table to the latest Katy Perry while swiggin a 40… I will do that. You my Black friend, can loosen the eff up and fall back off my life.
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I’m comfortable partying with classy people of all color lines- I cannot go to anything that I consider ignorant or trashy, no matter what color you are.
The best dj in my city is Asian and when he djs, a lot of minorities come out.. so that’s cool.
Then me and my bf accidently went to an all Latino party while in Chicago- he freaked out (bet he’ll say different) but I thought it was fun, until they started playing the slow espana music.
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PYTJD Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 1:15 pm
What’s the name of the DJ Nicki ?
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Maybe tis moi but I don’t see anything wrong with they way we party. In my experience, we never go anywhere empty handed, we are tank tops and flip flops all day long at the BBQ, we have spades tables set up and it ain’t a game (!), Them ‘bones’ are being flung down hard and dishes are being washed, lol we have the music, we got Uncle John on the Grill, Aunt Faye frying salt fish and bake, corn being grilled, my boy cousins are setting up the tables, me and my girl cousins are setting up the condiment tables..we’re eating, we’re dancing and Nanny Win’ down low and when it’s all said and done, you betta take a plate or two or three home. We do us, I wouldn’t have it any different.
Now…I am the only black person in my group here at my job so at AaaaLLLLLLLLL of the functions/bbq’s/picnics Mr Mister and I are the go to black couple and I agree with Still Water in this instance..white folk party to their status with wine glasses, boat shoes, “snazzy” music (lol) and canapes but you betta bet your bottom dollar they will get twisted on home made beer yessir they will..yay fun….it’s just different. Neither is better but I’d rather bop with my Uncle than talk about the latest stump jumper *shrugs*.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 8:43 am
I’m not saying the way Black folk party is wrong. I’m just making observations based on my own personal experiences. I’m also not the type of guy to go out and do the First Friday thing either. Speaking of which, what do people think of First Fridays, All White (Clothing) Parties, and other social functions like that?
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Smiley Face Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:01 am
I know…I’m just sayin’.
Never been to First Fridays. I’ve gone to All White Parties (two to be exact) but usually as a “kick off to summer” event..after that it gets a lil bit too “Simon Says” for me. Simon says wear Pink and White…Simon Says wear a fro and platform boots…meh. You get one themed party out of me for the year, lol.
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:14 am
I don’t typically do First Fridays either.
If we’re going to network, then let’s network. I can do without trying to one-up and over impress.
Some people love it and I encourage it (First Fridays), but it’s not my thing.
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Reecie Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 3:49 pm
I hate being told what to wear, therefore I abhor all white and all black parties. Please, don’t limit my wardrobe. LOL.
I haven’t been to many first fridays events to really have an opinion on those….
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Slim Jackson Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 3:52 pm
Abhor is one of my favorite words to describe my disdain for something.lol.
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My only problem with the way we party is empty-handed arrivals. This Labor Day weekend was a perfect example.
My cuzzo threw a BBQ in BK. I come through, liqs in hand, and my little bro fires up the grill. Next 15-20 guests, nada and on that CP time. My boy come through 2 hrs later with some liqs. Then the two of us make another liquor run. By then we got about 35 ppl altogether.Seems a bit f-ed up to me. And it’s not the first something like this happened to me with Black folk.
White people on the other hand…Out here in CT, I always have a blast and the food/liquor table always seems like its going to collapse!
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I co-sign the generalizations however wrong us smart folks like to feel generalizations are.
My observation to add is that white folks don’t get started until they start drinking. They don’t function at a party without an alcoholic beverage in hand, while black folks are ret ta go as soon as the beat drops. I do appreciate that about my black people (and as deN.I.A.l observed, black folks will sit down if they don’t like the music while drunk white girls dance to everything and love it).
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I agree with this post. Had a party with my fam this weekend and 3 people brought stuff to the party and we had 45 people to show up and then get mad because they weren’t able to get eat food from the early part of the evening. People showed in stilettos and were tripping and falling in the yard trying to outrun the bees. We had other people who got mad that they lost playing spades and dominoes and then complained the entire night.
The party I went to with my boo had food (although bland) and liquor galore. They all had flats and DEET available to everyone. They danced to EVERY song put on and I actually enjoyed myself. They even made sure we had a gift bag before we left.
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If you went to a majority white institution like I did for undergrad and am currently enrolled in for grad school you know if you ever wanna see the vast difference between white people fun and black people fun attend a frat party.
As a black frat member i know firsthand how black folks come up in your house party and drink every drop of your liquor eat every piece of your bbq wanna play pong but don’t bring a box of natty lights (or keystone here at Cornell)
White frat parties had the booze flowing for years and people still bring brews for pong. They also tend to play all the lamest of the new hip-hop, all while dancing without a care in the world. The chicks take their tops off acting a damn fool.
At my house party we ain’t ever do anything like that. Black folks be fighting for the best spot to hold down the wall and get a twerkin in. Our parties also got shut down too but that’s another issue.
One last thing: White people bring beers to EVERY gathering of friends. Drink to go kayaking, play softball, golf, shoot I’ve even seen em bring it to a “study group”
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:39 am
We would go to the black frat parties to be seen and then the white frat parties to have fun.
And you’re right about white people bringing beer to EVERYTHING. Like I said, they don’t function in social events without it.
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deN.I.A.l is not a river in Egypt Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 10:01 am
The most fun I’ve ever had at a frat party was at a white frat party. I have a good time at the black frat parties, but like ASmith said, we went to be seen, not to just wild out and have fun.
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Nyela Goodness Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 10:57 am
Big ups to Big Red: They really know how to partay!
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Innocence Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 4:49 pm
Hmm… ok I partied hard in Ithaca with brown folks, but I don’t dare do white frat parties… where I come from that’s a no-no. Sh!t gets crazy fast sometimes and the last place I want to be is in a room full of very drunk white boys.
Are you tellin me ya’ll play pong at black frat parties? Ewww. Never in my life have I seen that! I would have swore that pong = stuff white people like!! LMAO
Well you learn something every day…
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 4:53 pm
I never played beer pong at a black party, a)cause didn’t nobody know what it was or how to play it for real until our 2nd year and b)cause black folks don’t do beer (obviously we later realized it could be any alcohol).
You do have to know when the 2520s are about to get a bit out of control and then head for the door, because while you probably won’t get shot, you definitely don’t want a chair thrown at you or to be puked on… seriously…
We’d sit in one of the dorms and watch ‘em come in from a night of partying and be like “What in sam hell have you been rolling around in? Why are you so dirty and grimey?”
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Ms. Cherry Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 4:59 pm
“You do have to know when the 2520s are about to get a bit out of control and then head for the door”
Very true… One of my boys used to hang with these 2520s in his dorm until one night they stole a sapling from off the quad, took it in the floor lounge and then burned it in effigy. He knew that was his sign to become the angry black kid who doesn’t socialize until the end of the school year.
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J-Full Reply:
September 9th, 2009 at 1:29 pm
the pong was for when it was more of a get together versus a party. And shit wasn’t much to do at Duke but get drunk. Unless you wanted to gangbang with the townspeople. I’ve partied with black and white folks in ithaca and the white folks stay buying the free drinks. Go to the bar don’t spend a dime, get drunk, leave feeling like a big breasted woman, and I’m a man lol.
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I don’t think white folks have that much more fun than us, I think as we get older we start to get a lil turned off by the antics of the folks in our peer groups that show up. I mingle in a few different circles and when I’m chillin w/ my older black folk and they have an event, if you show up empty handed, they don’t trip because they factored in liquor and food for ya triflin ass. But I understand the frustration of trying to have folks over for a good time and ending up in the red trying to feed, liquor up and spark up all in attendance. I’m pretty sure there’s a white blogger out there somewhere wishin his folks would play a few games of cee lo and blow some trees at their bbq’s. (Not generalizing, this is what happens at my bbq’s. You may show up empty handed, but I’m takin ya rent money homie.)
The race of my “chill” group doesnt matter. As long as you are a devout parishioner of the St. Cannibus church and like to hail mary, we’re good. They definitely bring their own ish and have no problem throwin down when it’s time to grub. Uh huh.
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The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, Doh Give Me More Rum Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Oh….one thing though…please believe when white folks tell you the joint is from 2-6, that your ass will be heading out the door @ 5:58 regardless of when you showed up.
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:49 am
#truth (lol)
White folks start on time and start cleaning up on time. I do so appreciate that about them.
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Smiley Face Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 9:46 am
“I don’t think white folks have that much more fun than us, I think as we get older we start to get a lil turned off by the antics of the folks in our peer groups that show up. I mingle in a few different circles and when I’m chillin w/ my older black folk and they have an event, if you show up empty handed, they don’t trip because they factored in liquor and food for ya triflin ass.”
Good point.
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LoudPen Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 10:13 am
More Rum: The race of my “chill” group doesnt matter. As long as you are a devout parishioner of the St. Cannibus church and like to hail mary, we’re good. They definitely bring their own ish and have no problem throwin down when it’s time to grub. Uh huh.
I can’t. Like really.
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The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, Doh Give Me More Rum Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 10:25 am
Well you should. And watch how quickly that “f*ck it” absorbs in your system and you could care less who brought what.
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Brookland's OWn Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
” And watch how quickly that “f*ck it” absorbs in your system and you could care less who brought what”
AMEN!
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When my crew gets together we sometimes like to go party with the white people. Mainly because they’re funny, friendly and fun, especially when drunk. Also large crowds of black people tend to make some of us nervous (we used to go to the hood clubs and there was always a fight or shooting).
Partying with our melanin deficient bretheren is usually carefree for me. Somehow I ended up with no rhythm. Dancing around other black people makes me break out into a deep sweat. I know they’re looking at me and laughing at my lack of dance skills. But get me around some white folks and even though I’m rhythmless nation I can hang with the best.
Of course this is all generalizations too.
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I think white ppl. and black ppl. are fun. We are both crazy in our own way. White ppl. can’t party unless they are drunk…black ppl. won’t shut up unless they are drunk. White ppl. buy you drinks, black ppl. pass u trees.
White ppl. smoke bowls, black ppl. smoke blunts. White ppl. drink beer, black ppl. drink 40s. White ppl. care where you work, black ppl. care if you can dance or not. White ppl. like to eat, black ppl. like to eat. White ppl. are white ppl. Black ppl. are black ppl.
We really aint that different.
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My black friends act white in the sense that they usually bring stuff where ever they go but are not usually dressed to impressed.
I like partying with both blacks and whites together, the best times I’ve had thus far came from the mixed group of people and I laughed so hard my sides ached.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 10:34 am
I see you Tonda. I see you.lol.
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I can co-sign to Slim’s testimonial here. I made the mistake of politely asking people to bring the side or liquor bottle of their choice. It was really as much of a suggestion as a red light at an intersection. It’s protocol man.
How are you going to show up to the crib, eat the burgers I grilled, the mac and cheese my homegirl made AND the bread pudding shorty put her foot in without even bringing some napkins for the crib?
Lucky I’m too nice off this Wray & Nephews to really care about your foolishness right now. Make yourself useful and pass me the bottle that I bought.
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Me and ASmith went to the same school had to be.
I learned how to put it down from White people…seriously I was just thinking about how I once left the bar @ 8am to get to my 8:30 class. Went took the quiz..went home then went to sleep and woke up to do lunch & next class.
Black kids would be like I got this—I ain’t going to class I’m going to sleep and then miss the quiz thus lowering their grades…also…I don’t think we’ve mastered the fact that the best business deals are made over drinks…when EVERYONE is a little tipsy!
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 11:25 am
I tried to tell my people… don’t miss the quiz. At least go nap outside the room so you’ll wake up when all the people start walking past you. Get it in how you get it in… but to little avail.
The white people had it down. Take some adderall and stay up allllllllll night (or week, whatever it took) and study for the test. Party it all out over the weekend.
Business deals are made at a bar over drinks or on a golf course. We gotta get with it.
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Going to a PWI, I cosign all over this post!
I will say that White people are just as prone to fighting as we are.. but its more out of drunkeness than general “hating”
White events you don’t feel as much pressure to “impress’ but maybe its because being black at a pwi event is like being exotic at times. I remember going to the white frat/sorority parties. They treated us like we were Hov. lol. Wow.. i miss college.
Carry on
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Slim Jackson Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 11:22 am
I forgot about the factor of “already being exotic” at the events. Reminds me of something I saw on tv with the 2 Black guys beefing at a party because each one wanted to be the only 1 there. haha.
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So I was initially supposed to attend this bbq before deciding to go out of town. A couple people asked if I was gonna make/bring something, and real talk, I was
verykind of offended at the question (the nerve!). First, my boo and his roommate are hosting the thing—of course I’m making something! Second, who I look like, wth, and wddda?! I don’t go to a dinner without at least a bottle of wine, a bbq without at least banana pudding or crab salad, or a birthday party without at least some balloons. (I work in hospitality for cryin’ out loud!)WoosahAfter fixing my face, I realized the sad reality of this generalization: A lot of Black folk don’t bring nothin’ with them to nowhere. That ish makes me mad because it gives us good-fairing, mannered folk a bad rap. I don’t know about you, but I would’ve taken up a collection right in the middle of the party, mid-sip. “Does that taste good? Want some more? Here’s the collection plate or the door. Thanks.”
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Have you ever been to a “dry” white people party (no alcohol involved)…they are the saddest group of people ever!! Thats the major difference between black partying and white partying I believe. White people need to be drunk to have ANY kind of fun.
As a student of a predominantly white school and member of a predominantly white organization. They sure do know how to have fun…but they always have to be out of their right mind in some form or another.
One more thing…they NEVER have food lol. Black people have food very little alcohol; white people have A LOT of alcohol and no food.
Hello thats why prohibition didn’t last, but we still can’t legalize the weed.
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***I sent ya’ll a congrats on Facebook through Slim’s page, but just wanted to throw out an official one here. It is SOOOO much deserved. I love ya’ll, muchly.***
Aside: Is the 2520 in the pic in the middle of busting out the robot? Regardless, he does seem to be having a smashing good time.
I do think in general, 2520s lose their inhibitions a bit more than us in terms of adventure. I mean, a good 75% of the melonin-challenged have the word “EXTREME” as their middle name (yes, it is capitalized on their birth certificate). I also noticed they tend to care less how they look in front of people.
I was watching a free magic show at Navy Pier last week and decided to participate in it. I had fun and even threw around some of my witticisms back at the magician. I had fun. I noticed when he asked a group of guys to volunteer, the one Black dude he asked as a bit more tense than the White ones. It just seemed like they were more open to embarrass themselves than the brotha. Of course this ain’t across the board, but I just noticed the 2520s are more likely to put themselves out there by comparison.
Just like you intimated in your post, Slim, it seems to be about “how we look” with us at times…
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Innocence Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 5:13 pm
I think you (and everyone else who said it) are right about black folk not being very loose… I wouldn’t volunteer for that kind of stuff in public in mixed company… I feel like people get enough of us acting fool on TV, they don’t need to see me do it. But at an all/mostly black party, I’m game for the games!
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i don’t really hang with white people like that but i do know that from observing them from afar they do know how to have fun. lol. i frequent this mixed club and they (along with asians) will get out on the dance floor and party hard. its all innocent and fun. one thing that i did notice is that when they get drunk they have no concept of personal space.
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
They have no concept of personal space when they’re sober.
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Reecie Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
this is why I don’t deal well. that annoys the hell outta me. LOL
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Innocence Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
DITTO. Hell naw. It was a long hard last 3 years dealing with this BS! I hated it… (shivers at the memories)
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The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, Doh Give Me More Rum Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
None.
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Nyela Goodness Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
lmao! soo true. This reminds me of a story from highschool: A guy friend of mine (white boy) came over to the house one afternoon to pick me up. My mom invited him in, and we chatted for a bit. My mom had to grab something from the bedroom, but she didn’t wanna be rude, so she kept talking to him as she got up and was heading to the back. Homeboy followed moms into the room.lol All I know is she turned around and ::BAM:: he was right there.
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You all are absolutely correct. smh….
oops….
I’m responding to you, Tunde, ASmith, and RCLS
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There’s always too much food when Indian people do anything.
Hence why I made too much food for the Seattle/Slim BBQ.
Put it this way, when you throw a BBQ you’ll know who your real friends/real jumpoffs/real wifeys are by who brings food. It’s more than just showing up with a platter, it’s showing support. You can at least stop off at the 7-Eleven and pick up a box of Swiss Rolls and a couple 40s.
My mans likes his Middle Eastern salad and what baby wants baby gets. Done.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
I’m not the boo, but that salad changed my life.
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The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, Doh Give Me More Rum Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
Too soon for a curry joke?
Fyi…I love curry no matter who makes it. If I could curry punani, I would.
I know Seattle loves curry goat, but he’s often suspicious so he usually has me taste it first before consuming it.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 1:39 pm
“Fyi…I love curry no matter who makes it. If I could curry punani, I would.”
*Departed* I’m done for today. Done.
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Seattle Washington Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 4:17 pm
Y’know I can’t even blame you for trying RCLS. Actually, I feel an Indian cookout coming on. Where curried meats fall from the sky like tastier, more satisfying rain drops, naan bread grows like grass amongst the hillsides and rivers full of mango lassis run wild across the land…
Oh, a man can dream. He can dream.
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Streetztalk: Cosigned at Best Sex and Relationship Blogger, HOLLA! Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 4:55 pm
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! *DEAD*
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I was recently accepted into the Junior League (a historically white women’s service organization… for those who are unaware). JLW is really, really, REALLY white, but they do some great things. I have a (Black) friend who’s a member who sponsored me for membership. She seems to like it so I figured I’d give it a try…
I went to my first event last week. Every new member is assigned to a new member group and assigned an advisor. I knew I had the right advisor when she decided to do our first meet up at a wine tasting. When I got there she surpassed expectation. Turns out homegirl’s brother owns a liquor store. So I get to the spot and am escorted upstairs to a private room with several wines set up. Basically she had him run through the wines real quick so that we could move from wine tasting to wine drinking. There were 10 of us, dude charged us $10 per person and we drank about $600 worth of wine. It was AWESOME. Soon as the brother started drinking he starts popping open $200 bottles of wine. There was one other Black chick in the mix but I’m very comfortable in any group. I had a GREAT TIME with my new white friends!
I think white women are a little less catty and haterific than black women. There’s no way I could have walked into a room with 10 black women I didn’t know and had the same amount of fun. Everybody would have had their funky face on and felt the need to judge the room before splitting off into groups.
Turned out 4 of the chicks live within blocks of my house. One had a rooftop deck, so we’re all gonna get together soon and have some rooftop fun. As I left the event, VERY VERY drunk, one white girl took me by the arm and we stumbled our way to the train and made sure each other got home safe.
White ppl rock!
Oh and the brother slipped me his business card and I am invited to the month FREE wine tasting and he’s gonna hook me up with a tour of my favorite winery… again, LOVE my white ppls!
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ASmith Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 1:17 pm
And this is why I hang on to my white friends.
Sometimes I do question the decision, but most times I’m reaffirmed that it’s imperative that I have a handful of 2520s at all times.
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Ms. Cherry Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 1:30 pm
Added bonus was people who live near me who I can go drink with near the house. Black folk have to go somewhere “fresh” to drink. If I mention a small pub near my house they look at me like I’m stupid. If I wanna hang out with them I have to get dressed up and go all the way down town to some spot with terrible service and overpriced drinks.
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deN.I.A.l is not a river in Egypt Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
this is so true. whenever i invite some friends out drinking, they usually want to go where all the other black people are going. Me, myself, and I want to go somewhere with drink specials and I nice vibe, maybe some live music. I don’t care about the race/ethnicity of the people in the spot.
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Reecie Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 4:19 pm
I know a few black women in Junior League. seems like you had a great time. thats whats up….
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Innocence Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 5:24 pm
The only thing I have to disagree with is the catty part… I just spent a *massive* amount of time with no less than 100 white girls for three years straight, and I must say… that they just as bad, if not worse, than we are. And they (some) can be very competitive and they have no shame invading the personal space of another woman’s man… I didn’t have to say or do anything, one day I asked my man if he was coming to the class function and he said “hell no.” I never asked again. Some people say “friendly” but I have other words for it! But I aint mad you gettin your network on, and having fun at the same time! But just you wait homegirl… they gets catty, yes indeed, lmao.
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Berriblk Reply:
September 8th, 2009 at 6:41 pm
Oh, I must disagree. They are just AS catty, maybe even worse. They just have no problem with what what we black folk call being “phony” and “fake”.
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I’m impressed by how much ya’ll get down in multiple settings. I *can* but I don’t usually find it enjoyable. I have to limit my interaction… my nerves can’t take it. And I guess I haven’t had the most positive experiences with white people, because while I can chill sometimes… uhhh I’m not really trying to chill all the time.
Give me black folk any day.
One day I’m going to grow up… I guess… but I been through too much to just act like it’s all good. Sigh.
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The grass is not greener on the other side.
It’s obvious to me that us black folk enjoy ourselves more easily than others. I’m mixed and my black family reunion is infinitely more enjoyable than my white family get-togethers.
We cut the pretense and the BS and accept each other as we are. That is, unless we’ve been successfully indoctrinated by this sick western culture.
There’s a reason why our music, even the blues, is a lot happier. Even hip-hop, before it was commercialized, was all about having fun. You can’t get more hip-hop than Biz Markie, and fun is his ethos.
There’s no satan-worshipping music over here, or whiny emo songs, ain’t got no time for that mess.
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