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I like sex. Don’t we all? Well, I mean those of us who have had it. Even if you’re in the minority of people that have not done the deed, you probably have heard your friends talk about it enough that you think you like it already or have lied about it. Pureness aside, we all do the things that we do between the sheets for a reason. It’s not always about sex. We go to the club and flirt because it lets us know we still got it. We do push ups before shooting a video or taking pics to be posted on Facebook because we want to be at our maximum swole. We want to feel and look good because that’s sexy. And if something is sexy, it inherently involves sex. Considering that humans are self-interested and greedy creatures, it’s no wonder that we can’t escape it.
Everybody has needs. It doesn’t matter what the season or what time of year that it is. Sex allows us to experience a feeling and an emotion that we may not be able to get otherwise unless we take extasy drugs. When we choose to get in bed with someone, we have a goal in mind. We want to feel the physical tingles, smell the (hopefully) fresh scent of our partner, and enjoy the sensations and warmth that comes with skin to skin contact. However, a good number of us don’t think of the physiological, mental, or emotional consequences of our actions. Hence the number of blogs that explore the topic.
Sex is a basic aspect of our lives whether we’re doin’ it hardbody or not. Whether we see something on HBO or Skinemax or we’re bumping uglies to experience something beautiful, we’re immersed in it. In terms of the act itself, it’s simultaneously selfish and selfless. It’s a give and take event that allows us to share our spirit with another or expose our wildest side. It’s perhaps the time where we are at our highest level of vulnerability, hence the number of keys and wallets stolen during or immediately after sex.
We all have sex for different reasons. I’m not an emo cat, but I like the connection. I like the feel of being with my woman. I was once a crazed frat boy who backpacked his way through local universities looking for the wonders of the world. Sh*t, I did the things that men are known to do and that was cool. But looking back, that really didn’t do anything for me. I’m not a Serial F*cker, so body count didn’t really bring me any joy. This also didn’t mean that every thronx was a quest for love and the ultimate spiritual/emotional connection. For those of us that are looking for a connection or a physically good time, it’s the greatest thing in the world. Men thrust and women take that thang while hoping to accomplish some type of goal that will leave him or her feeling satisfied. Many of us just want to feel valued for the time that we’re sweating it out without dealing with typically expected consequences and responsibilities.
I’m the type that feels like sex isn’t really about me. It’s not about trying to get a nut then going to sleep most of the time. I want to feel like I am bringing the tremendous amounts of pleasure to my partner. I know in the back of my mind as I’m doing math and counting elephants that I’m goin’ to get mine regardless, so why not focus my efforts on making sure that the other person is completely satisfied. I take it (pause) a lot more seriously that my posts and jokes probably leave you to believe. It sounds simple, but you might be surprised at the number of people that could really give 2 sh*ts about what their partner for the nite or boo thinks or feels. Then you have the other folks who do it to feel valued or temporarily appreciated in an effort to boost their self-esteem. Damn. There are just so many reasons to get it on and it means so many things to different people.
So now that I’m off my sexual soapbox, what does sexy time mean to you and at this point in your life why do you do it or not do it? In other words, what is it doing or not doing for you? Ever get to a point where you just realized you been doing it for all the wrong reasons? I’m not necessarily asking for a hot erotica tale, though those are fine too. I’m just curious what folks really think about the act. We spend so much time talking about it, but we never get into it…and yes, I am giggling.
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So Im 24, at the age of 21 I finally found out what real sex was & finally got in touch with my inner sexual self. Now sex for me is different I love to please my partner and I like to be pleased in return. Sex should not be selfish. As I’ve come into my new sexual self I had to learn that you have to pay attention during every aspect when being sexual. Also you yourself have to know what you like. Its so much more then in&out! I love the feel of a man’s body on mine and having him touch mine!!! Sex is great for me and I love being able to connect with a person on that level its the cherry on top!!!
@Slim you are right there are many ppl that just wanna get theirs & that’s it. That does not fly in my book anymore…No Sir!!! Great post I love this blog!!!
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Slim Jackson Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 12:02 pm
Glad you love it. Keep on coming…back.
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Now, that I’m not in a serious or semi-serious relationship, whenever I have sex with someone it’s for the pleasure of it. The whole increase of dopamine in my brain thrill that is special to sex.
I went through the whole I’m only out for me thing, after a while it wasn’t as fun and I had to switch it up so now I’m about reciprocity (giving and taking equally).
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Slim Jackson Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 9:06 am
What changed that made it not as fun anymore?
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…and I’ve never had an orgasm.
There, I said it.
For this reason, I have the full realization that sex for me is 100% about the thrill of pleasing someone else. Which, like Slim, truly does give me great satisfaction.
On the other hand, its one of the reasons its not AS hard (pause) for me to abstain. Or maybe its more difficult bcuz I have all this pent up frustration I want to get out, I dunno.
I dunno about sex really. Some days I think I need to see a shrink to work out my issues with it. In the meantime, I’ll use 3 ways to air my frustration.
11 years on the O-wagon,
Thanks for sharing,
Joey.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 9:08 am
11 years on the 0-Wagon?
Bless your soul chile. Bless your soul. Not even with the assistance of thumper the electric pleasure machine?
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The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, BCC me Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:04 am
Never? …. Really?
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LoudPen Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:25 am
Since Joey is a female…this is very REAL. You’d be surprised the number of women who’ve never had Os. Shoot, only 1 person has given me one.
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Peyso Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:28 am
You also be suprised at the amount of women who think they’ve had one but actually didnt
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yo, this for my N.I.A., though, special delivery.... Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:45 am
I used to think my ex was giving me that big O all the time. And then I actually had one a few years later with a FWB. OMG! I had no idea an orgasm was supposed to feel like that. I saw the sun, the moon, the mountains, and the rivers… I saw heaven. Whew… just the thought of that man makes me want to move to NY to see if he’s as in love with his girl as he says he is (j/k).
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CHeeKZ Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:02 am
I’m confused and a little scared.
Was one just bigger than the other? Or was it just a pre-nut feelings that you thought was the hole thing?
Its not that I don’t get it. I don’t need someone to point out where a spot is. I just never had either one, and I hope someone could explain how each feeling is? People talk about women O’s all the time. “I saw the sun moon and stars, I shaked and rumbled, I passed out. It was the big one girl, I had to cook him breakfast”. BUT WHY?!
is it homo to say I want to have a female O? Just to see if its all its cracked up to be?
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Slim Jackson Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:04 am
I’ve actually wondered the same thing Cheekz.lol. I don’t think it’s a homo. However, if you said you wanted to be a woman and take strokes…that would be homo.
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I want to love you, P.Y.N. (Pretty Young N.I.A.) Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:39 am
Was one just bigger than the other? Or was it just a pre-nut feelings that you thought was the hole thing?
It was the latter. With the ex, I never got past the point of “this feels good.” Whenever it started feeling really good to me, the ex was already rounding the bases, ready to slide into home plate. And I never really thought about it at the time, b/c it did feel good, and I thought that was all it was to it. smh…
My homie took me over the edge. And it was a little scary, how something could feel soo amazingly good.
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LoudPen Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:30 pm
After reading this I confirmed that I’ve had one. Only with that one person. Dammit! Im throwing in the towel!
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Reecie Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:56 am
I think it depends if you have an orgasm from clitoral stimulation or vaginal penetration in how you react to them/how they feel. Also, g spot stimulation from penetration may cause squirting. Most women are able to climax from clitoral but not vaginally without the g spot stimulation. being able to experience both is a wonderful thing.
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Smiley Face Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:59 am
For me…it’s like a heat that starts pulsating, thump thumping like hard bass through speakers at the club, then radiates throughout your whole body, it’s a moment where breathing is forgotten about, you want to just BE there, still, not moving…your yoni gets that clench and squeeze vibe..then you freefall into pleasure…literally…like your body goes “I give up.” Scared the hell out of me when it first happened (hell it still does sometimes) you have no control NONE!! You want the pleasure…then you get it in spades..it’s almost too much b/c like I said you have no control..none, zip, nada….craziness, lol
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CHeeKZ Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
@NIA. So all your ex had to do was work through the momment? It wasn’t like it was a seperate momment that wasn’t as good? B/C we have a “o you are working it momment” but that doesn’t mean O, its just the nerves being worked well, see Supahead V Mr Marcus.
@Reecie. NO No No. A text book could tell me that…
I wanted to know how each one makes you feel. And why I should care. I see you shaking and leaking, tell me how that felt?
@Slimley. Thank You. I have a better understanding of the earthquakes now.
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Smiley Face Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:46 am
yup…and then have a real one and go “What the hell was THAT?!”
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I want to love you, P.Y.N. (Pretty Young N.I.A.) Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:00 am
Exactly!!
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PrettyGirlTwentyPearls Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
Sad to admit I have only had ONE all these years as well. I have just come to accept the fact that despite how great my man is, it is just not gonna happen. He is not doing anything wrong, so I just fake it, so I don’t hurt his feelings.
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The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, Showstopper Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 2:08 pm
Faking it is soooooooo not the answer. We can have a counselor from the League of Cocksmen come help you guys thru this.
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LoudPen Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 4:06 pm
I’m with Steele, don’t fake it! If that’s your man make him learn how to get you there. You deserve pleasure too!
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CHeeKZ Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:23 am
The most shocking part of this revelation is that you seem so comfortable with your sexuality.
You don’t strike me as a person mental wall keeping them from experiencing anything. You never get lost in the momment of getting pounded and just… bust?
Clearly every member of the LOC wants to do you even more now… every guy thinks they have the trick to break you down.
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Reina Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:02 am
Aww, Joey. Lo siento. *Sinclair voice* “Woo, woo, woo.”
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In my 20′s I didn’t really have a whole lot of sex and when I did it was never that great. I was inhibited. As I have gotten older I find that I am more uninhibited and I enjoy sex much more. I am also more adventurous. Sex to me should be with someone you truly care about. Casual sex is over-rated and something I can truly do without. If I have to go casual I will just go and invest in some more batteries.
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Sex for me is…almost indescribable..it is a confirmation, it’s a statement, it’s a feeling, it’s a gift to give and receive, it’s vulnerability, it’s power, it’s anger, it’s passion, it’s love, it’s selfishness, it’s selfless, it’s self esteem…wooo at 30 this is all of what I’ve learned sex is for me.
It’s that ultimate everything..imagine feeling all of this at the same time and owning what you feel, not hiding from being selfish, not hiding from wanting to be needed, not hiding from showing a bit of anger b/c you didn’t like my new dress…sex is an ultimate punctuation mark for me…raw, dirty, total openness…acceptance…being okay with “OMG what did I do last night?!” lol.
Sex means I’m still alive when life is like “Oh for real?” It is that sleeping pill and the morning java..that quiet barely moving rocking back and forth in the early dawn before you’re barely awake. It is that calming wooooosssaaaahhhh when work is kicking my azz, lol.
That’s the why and how of it all for me.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 9:13 am
I think you just elevated my appreciation for sex with that description.lol.
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Streetztalk Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 9:25 am
Cosign. Couldnt have said it better.
To me its both a competition to see who can rep the best and who can please the best. That feeling when you explode is unlike anything in this world. I’ve seen Nirvana and its effin awesome!
Salud on this post my G
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ashbunnie Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 9:47 am
yea so, i have nothing to say in response to this post because Smiley Face here took the words right out of my brain. so thanx smiley face for the accurate description!
also i’d like to add there is nothing better than a turkey sandwich with white american cheese & extra mayo on potatoe bread after a great nut.
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Smiley Face Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:04 am
did you say potato bread…..giiirrrlll, you ain’t neva lied!!
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CHeeKZ Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:42 am
YEAP!
Co-sign. Death to anyone who would ever talk badly about the greatest act the world has ever seen.
“OMG what did I do last night?!” + did you say potato bread…..giiirrrlll, you ain’t neva lied!! = Taboo.
It feels so good to break that wall and go crazy. Call each other names, enjoy the disgusting, eat fatty foods.
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Smiley Face Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 10:51 am
lol…you never fail, lol
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Malange Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:45 am
POW that last paragraph was HOT. Describes sex at its best!
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I feel that while sex is definitely a intimate experience, casual sex shouldn’t be knocked. Sex is always different between people when they are newly dating than when they’ve been together for years and years. I don’t personally think one is better than the other–they’re just different.
Being sexual with someone you’re committed to brings a feeling of satisfaction, love, and security. They know how to make you orgasm in moments, they know whether you want to spoon afterwards (i definitely don’t). Being with someone new is like opening a bottle of cold soda for the first time–all that sexual tension releases, the taste of it is crisp and refreshing, and there’s a feeling of so much opportunity.
Sex with someone new is always about putting on a great performance–bringing them new pleasures and finding new ones of your own–while sex with an old lover ought to be about communing with the person.
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Peyso Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 9:53 am
“I feel that while sex is definitely a intimate experience, casual sex shouldn’t be knocked.” – I’ve had some of the most intimate conversations of my life w/ strangers, y cant sex be the same way?
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As much as I talk about and think about sex, you wouldn’t think I’ve been celibate for 2 years. Or maybe you would… For me, the thing I miss the most about sex is the intimacy. Just being that close to a man, and not any man, but a man who I truly care about and who truly cares about me in return. This is the reason I stopped having sex in the first place. The occasional romp in the hay with a visiting ex, or with my FWB just wasn’t doing it for me. I had to cut those fools off cold turkey. And it was hard, but I am too old to have meaningless sex, even if it’s with someone I used to care about, or a really good friend. It’s not what I want in a sexual relationship b/c I want a man that is with me completely, not just for a few hours at homecoming, or a few hours after our crew leaves the club/bar/lounge. So I choose to abstain for the time being. And make sure I purchase rechargeable batteries.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 9:30 am
I was starting to think you were the Kama Sutra Goddess with flavah….
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I’m a winner. I try to win in everything that I do. Winning in this arena is defined as being the most effective and efficient in delivering the most pleasure over a prolonged period of time. This means that im not into having sex with a person one time. This doesnt mean that I want to lead the league in HRs, knockin it out the park every time I am up to bat. However, I do wanna bat .400 w/ 35 HRs, 70 RBIs and sick OBP. I want the SO to look back at my portfolio of work (Yes, I put in work) and say “….”. That’s right nothing. That’s my goal. This is my craft. And if you dont take pride in your craft, you aint sh!t.
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To everyone who will ask…
No, never, forever never, forever never. =/
Not self inflicted or otherwise.
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I think I’m between the points of my life where sex is simply for pleasure and where it’s for that emotional connection with someone… sometimes guys (and girls) show their feelings through a good ole love session.
I think the emotional connection thing has also decreased my selfish as I’m interested in seeing exactly what it takes to knock his socks off.
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Y’all may or may not remember me discussing an “encounter”, I had a few months ago where the performance was less than satisfactory…which is why before that I hadn’t done it in two years.
For most of my early days, I was really only doing it casually which I think is the reason I never got an O. Plus, let’s just be honest the majority of young guys are scared to go down & have no idea how to please a woman so you tend to just lay there and occasionally moan to make him feel better. Which is exactly what I used to do. Then, Mr. MIA Horse Cock came along & killed Ms. KK and now she’s fiending for it…or him. And that happened 4 yrs. ago….
Trust I’ve been searching for a replacement, but, at the same time I’m dying to know what it feels like to have that intimate connection during the deed. I think me & Mr. MIA would’ve gotten there but time & fate are not on our side. In the end, I will quote Whitney: “Once you get used to being treated like a lady, you can’t go back to bullsh*t”
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I think sex has a different meaning to you depending on where you are in life.
When I was in a relationship, I wanted to please her in anyway I could. Even if there was something I wasn’t crazy about (like a boring, missionary position) I’d do it because that was what she liked.
Now that I’m single and have more casual sex…I’m gettin’ mine! I admit I’m a bit more selfish and take more control. Is that so wrong?
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ashbunnie Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:12 am
“I think sex has a different meaning to you depending on where you are in life”.
I agree with this. Being that I’m in a committed relationship, sex w/ him is all about giving & receiving pleasure.
I can’t front sometimes I’m dying to break loose and go buck a la Samantha Jones (from SATC). But I do not have the heart to just be a jamming machine with just anyone. Even if I was single, I think I’d be a serial dater because I can’t see myself as being “free”. It’s just something so personal this thing called sex. Quickie or not, intimacy should be there. A connection of some sort. *kanye shrug*
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Slim Jackson Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:20 am
So do you need to have a title with someone to be able to hop in the sheets?
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ashbunnie Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:32 am
Not a title per se, but some sort of exclusivety (sp?).
I can be a friend with benefits, but I’m only extending my benefits to you & I HOPE (but I know you probably aren’t) you’re only extending them to me. I don’t know it’s some mental thing. Like I can’t be his fwb and have 3 others I can call if the first is busy. Just not me. Not knocking those that do such things. I actually admire you. But Ash “Likes to be exclusive w/ my backshots” Bunniekinz will not be doing the jamming with this one & that one.
ash didn’t smash the homie.
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Well… I think sex is a physically, emotionally and spiritually gratifying act.
I’ve not being doing it that long but I have realized exactly what it’s all about it in the past 2 years. And now I’m like let’s do it and do it and do it.
Like I will reduce a man to nothing and be like… well go get that toy …or go down or just do something you know…
I just know it’s a wonderful thing….
OK… enough talking about it. Let’s be about it.
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i enjoy having sex. plain and simple. if i could have sex everyday i could. multiple times. i think the best part about sex for me is seeing or feeling the sense of satisfaction from the woman i’m with. knowing that it was me that brought upon this serenity. i’ve always been concerned with pleasing her whether it be in a relationship or just casual sex. i mean if you’re gonna do it go hard or go home (pun intended). i’ve also never been one to care about body counts or foolishness like that. as long as we both finish the deed satisfied i’m pleased.
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Why I used to do it: Ego. Ego is a hell of a drug. As a young’n it was all about the body count. I think I spent the first 2.5 years of my college career communicating w/ my cliq from high school on my progress and comparing my numbers agaisnt theirs. Add to that the fact that I felt the need to live up to some stereotype of island cats sex gods, so the pressure was on. After a while, once I finally got an idea of how to use this thing it was off to the races. Couple that with the fact that my girl at the time cheated on me, so I felt that some well laid pipe to her friends and acquaintances would satiate my ego and make her realize her mistake. As more time passed, my ego got bigger, my swag (sorry Slim) got tighter, and it wasnt even so much about the conquest as it was about putting on a rockstar performance and attaining HBK status. (If you arent familiar, just google HBK) But after a while, you begin to realize that no matter how much of a G you try to be with it, nothing is casual and females begin confusing amazing God given sexual prowess w/ affection and emotion, which is understandable. Then after a while I started to feel as even though all I wanted to do is slang wang, at some level, I was toying w/ people’s emotions. And then my ego felt that not everyone was deserving of this drug known as RCLS. And truth be told, most times I ended up feeling like I shoulda just had a V8 and a L.
Why I do it now: Mrs. Steele keeps me tied to a bed post.
I wish I was lying. I’m actually tied to the bedpost right now and it took me 45 minutes to type this w/ my free hand. But at least she left the remote within reach. At this stage of the game, it’s all about the intimacy and reaching different heights and being open about all aspects of the game w/ the Mrs. We can’t keep our hands off each other and it almost feel like constant mental foreplay, so by the time the party actually starts we’re at each other like untamed animals. There’s nothing like being stepped on by the one you love because she woke up post sex and didnt realize you fell off the bed, unable to move, and fell asleep on the floor. God Bless America.
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Smiley Face Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:35 am
Love it! Very honest and hella funny!
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 11:45 am
**In the twilight zone**
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Jaci Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 12:46 pm
Wow… I need Mrs. Steele to come on here and write us a post on how to keep your relationship spicy.
I swear… the Mr… can only take salt and pepper… if I added cayenne he might die.
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LoudPen Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
Man, I’m so jealous of Mrs. Steele. And yea, she should come write a post. I’d love to hear what she has to say.
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I think we should leave sex for the married folk.
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CHeeKZ Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 12:26 pm
Miss Jenkins?
Will you marry me?
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LoudPen Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:26 pm
CheekZ, what are we going to do with you?
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Smiley Face Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:46 pm
be careful…he might just answer, lol
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at this point in my life sex is about intimacy for me. In the past during my casual sex days it was about many things, but I will say its more intense mentally for me when I am in love. oh, and its good cardio. lol
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Jaci Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
@Reecie
I feel you on that… It’s all about the intimacy for me too.
And you are so right… the mentality behind it makes it sooo much better.
I actually have a friend who asked me how it was with an ex… I was like spectacular… SHE TRIED IT (he was her ex too…from before me…long story) She was like that was lackluster…
I told her… Ya’ll wasn’t in love….
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**I have been trying to write this comment for two hrs, people keep coming around my screen**
I love someone who is a good partner. I never get sick of watching her thick body react to whatever I’m doing If I can’t see b/c she is smoothering my face or can’t bear to watch her b/c the sight of penetration could make me finish early the sound more than makes up for it. I don’t cheat b/c I don’t want to get anybody sick and we have a great relationship outside of rubbing soft tissue.
HOWEVER, aint no Kitty like new Kitty! I hear people talking about being with someone who truly cares about them, that means nothing to me. I don’t see what caring about someone has to do with the process. But the joy of NEW kitty, that is what I use to live for. I feel like Christopher Colombus when I find a new partner. Discovering their body, the thrill of working the erlationship correctly to get someone to open up to you, finding out what they like, helping them find out what they like, hearing or seeing someone what there expressions are when they are being pleased for the first time. Its like playing a new video game, after you beat the game its never as good (bless my shorty though, she comes with an WOW expansion pack).
I think the only reason why women chase after relationship $3x is b/c of the way men treat them post deed. I’m gulity of it! Acting like I don’t know you the next day in class. Telling my boys about it. Pretending like I was just going to the bathroom and sneaking out the window. Lying and saying I actually cared about you. Making you take the walk of shame. Kicking you out of my place. Taking pictures with my camera phone while you aren’t looking, pulling out on your sheets… I could go on. But I appreciated every body and girl that gave me a shot at beating it up. Each body, each act. Kitty is a gift. I might not respect the people its attached to, but I respect the kitty.
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Jaci Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
I went from go CheekZ on this one to wtf… but at least you admit it.
honestly… I can understand what you’re saying at the beginning and I think that’s something women look for too. The ability to open up and be like yes, this is what I like… and here’s how we can work that.
I, for one, absolutely adore the feeling that comes with learning new positions…
I really think each partner is a zone and they should always take you higher…
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ashbunnie Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:22 pm
“I think the only reason why women chase after relationship $3x is b/c of the way men treat them post deed. I’m gulity of it! Acting like I don’t know you the next day in class. Telling my boys about it. Pretending like I was just going to the bathroom and sneaking out the window. Lying and saying I actually cared about you. Making you take the walk of shame. Kicking you out of my place. Taking pictures with my camera phone while you aren’t looking, pulling out on your sheets… I could go on.”
Thus the reason why I can’t be a philanderer. This behavior was exhibited to me by my brothers. They always told me NOT to be the girl they brought in the house because I’d never see her again. Men I tell ya.
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Smiley Face Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 1:49 pm
oooo…hush yo mouf! lol
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Streetztalk Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 2:43 pm
Cheekz,
If youw as colombus than you would find somethin else while lookin for pums
jus sayin
lol
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The Award Winning RightCoastLexSteele, Showstopper Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
Touche Sir Streetz
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CHeeKZ Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 3:11 pm
Touche indeed.
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I never was I guy who cared about how many a bang over my life time. More like how many ethnic groups… lol. (c’mon I was young…).
For me sex is about pleasing my partner. I don’t care about how many nuts i have to postpone in order to get ‘er done. I mean I do get mine as well best believe. But seriously, it’s the playoffs and I’m looking to sweep. Even though I’m serious about it, I have fun with it since exploring a woman’s body and watching/hearing them react is like playing an instrument. The right combination will give you all kind of sounds.
One thing to mention though, is that sometimes it’s best to work up to a comfortable level of your partner. Not everyone will outright be ready/wanting for a no-holds-bared match. That has to be defined at some point once the comfort level is right. That may be common sense, but still…
As for tha bomb during a working relationship, I have to admit that I have yet to have that combination. I bet it’s totally fulfilling. hats off to all who have that…
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LoudPen Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Where exactly are you located? Hopefully not near the stratosphere? I could use some pleasing *J/k* #imjustsayin #feelfreetojudge
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MeteorMan Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 4:37 pm
On the contrary. I’m somewhere between “Fly like an eagle” and “Swing low sweet [...]” lol
The biggest mistake I made was running into it like it was Game 6 when it was only pre-season. Sometimes a homie’s expectations might not be completely realistic during the first few encounters. Even outside of the encounters, you have to build up. Could be rookie move…
Oh yeah. and foreplay starts on date 1 (or 2) not right before the bedroom. We’ve been talking about physical and emotional satisfaction but what about the mental. Given sex is heavily mental, get into the head (no pun intended). Environment is your best friend. Words are too but do it without lying.
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CHeeKZ Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
CO-SIGN EVERYTHING!
Sometimes you will find yourself saying some stupid stuff ….
“Is it big enough for you?” = No.
But talking raises the tension. Touching. Also a little instruction. Also, Lights On. Not everyone is down for this, so i’ll compromise and go with lights turned down or some candles. I don’t know how people can go without the site of it. The look on someone’s face, or watching their body thurst or bounce or watching the penetration. If you are going to turn the lights off you might as well sleep with a fat chick.
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MeteorMan Reply:
October 28th, 2009 at 5:12 pm
It’s all primal. -> My mate is feeling how I made this nest that I built look. That turns me on. Feeling your partner get really into it is where it’s at. Women get aroused by some of the most random things sometimes. The key is the ‘time’ part (as well as how many times). I suggest Gatorade or Orange Juice. Hydration is essential.
Not only lights, but temperature as well! I knew a woman who liked to keep her house COLD (she was from up north, I’m down south… figures…). I know other women that will do NOTHING in anything below 70 Fahrenheit. I mean we are gonna raise the temp, but if you got me starting out at 55 Fahrenheit… I hate cold feet and while they are touching my body I’m shivering and its not for the reason she would want to think. Give me some hot co-co please. I wish there was an electric blanket.
Just saying… If I have to blow on my hands before I touch you, the room is waaaay too cold.
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