Why Some People Hate Valentine’s Day
Take that, Cupid. Take that.
Roses are red.
Violets are blue.
Valentine’s Day is stupid.
And RCLS is too.
Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, enjoy this goodness.
Because it probably reminds you of some ex.
And why he or she is an ex. Last year, you two probably had a romantic day together. Rose petals, candles, the whole nine yards. As February 14 approaches, you start to remember with a smile…and then you get annoyed as you remember why you broke things off. *frowns and pouts*
Because it feels like a formality.
It’s like the Martin Luther King Day volunteer projects. Sure its nice that the work gets done, but people should be donating their time to good causes regardless of the holiday. Everyone wants do something all nice and special for their boos because its Valentine’s Day. Its not to say that the feelings aren’t really there, but you should want to make your boo feel special without being prompted by a commercial holiday. I always felt obligated to do something back when I was with my boo. Displays of affection shouldn’t feel forced or come pre-planned. Go beyond the Russell Stover chocolate.
Because the boo doesn’t sustain the displays of affection during the rest of year.
He’s uber romantic and thoughtful. She breaks out the sexy nighty and doesn’t wear the headscarf to bed. He cooks for the first time. She cooks for the second time. Someone does something they’ve never done before. Maybe thats a good thing, but why wait til Sunday? Swing from the ceiling fan and make her knees buckles earlier this week. Cupid shouldn’t have to inspire you to do that.
Because spending Valentine’s Day with your homegirls is cute, but a little sad.
And spending it with your boys is suss. Two years ago, a friend of a friend had some single-ladies-thing at her house on Valentine’s Day. I loathed the idea. It was like a celebration of singleness, which is “fine” on a regular day. But on a day when people who are casually thronxing dating or in relationships are boo’d up, its just another reminder that you aren’t. Can’t we just have a regular girl’s night out? Oh wait. No…
Because you can’t go anywhere and have a lovey-dovey free day.
You can’t just treat February 14th like any other day of the week. If you to go out to eat, there will be couples being all touchy-feely right in your line of vision. If you to the grocery store, there will be all this red and pink themed ish on sale, so you feel like you have to buy it. Going to get some cookies? Gotta see the stupid heart shaped ones. Want some regular Hersey’s kisses? Nope sorry, gotta get the pack wrapped in pink and red. Thankfully, the chocolate still tastes the same.
Because some ignorant fools still call it ValentiMe’s Day.
This.annoys.me.so.much! I just look at these people and can’t help but give them the O_O face. I know you have seen the word written over and over again. I blame this on poor schoolin’ and friends who are either equally as ignorant, or who don’t care enough to correct their homie. S.M.H.
So to all you people out there sending your boos gifts made of milk chocolate goodness, please put some thought into it. And for all you single folks, be happy you’re saving yourself some money. What do you all think about Valentine’s Day? Do your feelings change about the day when you boo’d up versus when you are single? Men, what do you all want on Sunday besides thronxington? Tell me, please.
Looking for Cupid so I can shoot him with my 9,
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yeah… part of me hates valentine’s day but the other part of me still has hopes for loving it…
i’ve never had like a great valentines that was memorable and made me excited. i’ve spent a lot of time with my friends on valentine’s day, even when i was married.
but i’m a hopeless romantic so part of me still wishes and has hopes and dreams of some grand valentine’s day treat that will sweep me off my feet.
yeah, i’m cheesy…
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See, I’m all good with all this mess. Why? Simply because dudes can ignore all this sweet lovey-dovey bull with some basketball. All-Star Weekend baby!!!
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I hate, hate, HATE Valentine’s Day!
HATE IT!
WHY? No need to front… I straight up hate it because I’m bitter. Bitter like an orange rind.
It began with middle school and those anonymous “candy grams” and it continued right up to the last few years when as the “front desk manager” at my job, I had the responsibility of signing for everybody else’s flowers, candies, and gifts.
V-Day is a great concept for people in relationships but for those of us who are single, it’s just a reminder that nobody is “that” into to you.
Worst V-Day I ever had was the one year I actually had a boyfriend. We had been dating for 6 weeks and youdda thought we’d been together for 6 years. I liked him but he was clearly in love and I was not. It was the most awkward, uncomfortable date EVER. I wanted to break-up but he has already made non-refundable reservations and all my boys said I couldn’t break-up w/ him right before Valentine’s day. I held out for two weeks after, but couldn’t put it off any longer cause my birthday was fast approaching and that would have led to another date from hell
::sigh::
My best V-Day was when the besty’s girlfriend couldn’t make it into town. She sent the two of us out for a night on the town. We had an obscenely expensive meal where we ate like fat girls, and drank like lushes and it was wonderful. She even had chocolate covered strawberries delivered to my job.
I want a good girlfriend… okay, not reallyLast year I did a happy dance cause it snowed on Valentine’s Day. I even jumped on the bandwagon and celebrated Steak & BJ Day (which while I had fun got me no where) This year I plan to go drinking and rock my “Valentines are for Pussies” t-shirt and give love the finger.
When I have an other that’s actually significant, I’m sure my attitude will change and I’ll shower said person with a Cherritastic display of affection… but until then I’m hating
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 7:57 am
I support.
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Eff VD Day. And it’s not bcuz I’m single, either. I hate VD Day even more when I’m in a relationship cuz I hate feeling obligated to do shit (or receive shit and pretend to like it – damnit I don’t like chocolate, how many times…?!?!) and because I think it’s responsible for the birth of entirely too many November babies. Sorry, Dad, you’re cool.
But seriously, wtf kind of sense does it make to have a day to celebrate love? Do we have a day to celebrate happiness? Summer? Chipotle burritos? No. While all those things bring a lot more fulfillment to peoples lives than some fictitious emotion. Fine, a generally fictitious emotion.
This VD Day, I plan to spend it with the people I really love… My family, and the NBA All Stars.
Btw, the NBA is breaking up a lot of happy homes putting that game on VD Day. I will be secretly gloating inside. =)
Eff VD Day, cupid, love, chocolate, and all it’s nonsense!!
And LMAO at “she cooks for the second time,” Miss J! =)
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Theonly1 Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:56 am
I thought I was the only person with a monthly friend who DOESN’T like chocolate!!!!
Oh to answer the question…IDGAD about ValentiMes day (I hate that ish too)! I never cared about it when I was single or dating, and now that I’m married? How bout I just pay a bill or something to show I care? Once you start sharing bank accounts and credit scores LOVE is more than sex and dinner dates!
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Theonly1 Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:58 am
***Quoted the wrong person-whatev’s
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Ms. Cherry Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 11:21 am
I’m not a fan of chocolate either. I like brownies, I like hot fudge but you’ll never see me with bon bons or a candy bar. You can keep your Whitmans Sampler, I’ll be over here snacking on Sweet Tarts.
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Ooooh… I have one more: Because stating that you want to have a Valentine as a New Year’s Resolution is a bad idea…
I’m a Valentine’s hater for 2 reasons:
1. It sucks being the ONLY single person without kids on your team. You are the only one who doesn’t get flowers, taken out to dinner and some other tomfoolery.
2. It the only day out of the year where you can’t escape how single you really are. And people don’t understand that pity flowers help… a lot.
Eff a Single Ladies Party. I’m going to bed.
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Didn’t really notice it before, but the site’s color scheme looks very Valentine’s Dayish. We just can’t escape the madness no matter what we do.
As for me, I’m not a fan of V-Day at all. It’s one of the many “moment of truth” days out there that really shouldn’t mean a damn thing. I’m fine with the thronxington though. Everybody deserves to have a good thronxing every now and then.
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Dot Dot Dot Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 9:42 am
“Didn’t really notice it before, but the site’s color scheme looks very Valentine’s Dayish.”
The Ads are also hawking personalized Mugs that say “I heart David” and a sale at Pro Flowers for Vday…
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 9:47 am
Thats not our fault…not entirely at least. LOL
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Debonaire NUPE Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 1:20 pm
From what I’ve read, Slim Jackson is responsible for the layout of the page….from what I’ve been informed, Slim Jackson is an Omega. From what I can conclude, the colors of the page are a result of his subconcious telling the world that he regrets the decisions he made in college. LMAO! No worries Slim, it’s all good. We wont tell your bruhs.
I agree with your comment though, everyone needs thronxing every now and then.
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Slim Jackson Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 2:00 pm
Bastard. lol.
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Ah…Valentine’s day
. I have always loved Vday, although I’m not big on the buying gifts part of it(why in the name of commercialized holidays would you go to Jared’s to buy Vday jewelry and you’re not trying to propose). I love love and even in my single days, I loved seeing people acting all lovey dovey and unnecessarily happy on vday…I’m the friend that sent all my girlfriends single roses and cooked for all of us…no male bashing allowed.
The Boo and I are celebrating long distance style this year by watching the game at our different locations and being on Skype to facilitate commentary.
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Ms. Cherry Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 11:26 am
For all the men out there thinking of proposing or buying any diamond jewelry… don’t “get it at Jared’s”. You don’t have to go to Tiffany’s but go to a REAL jeweler and not McJewelry Mart.
Would you buy your boo shoes from Payless for a special occasion?
I’m not hating on Payless. I will sport the hell out of a pair of Payless pumps, PROUDLY. HOWEVER, I’m very aware that said pumps are likely to fall apart within the next 6 weeks.
#imjussayin #thinkaboutit
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 11:46 am
*dead* @ “Would you buy your boo shoes from Payless for a special occasion?”
My mommy said that you shouldn’t buy shoes for someone you love because they will walk out of your life. #superstitionIsupport
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I hate the hype behind V-Day. Whether or not I am in a relationship or not it’s just too much hype. If I have a SO during that time I just keep it simple…things I would do anyway, regardless, like a nice dinner and a card, and quality time together. If I don’t get the card, that is fine, too.
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I never hated V-day until reading this post…thanks Miss Jenkins…
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:08 am
Lies and propaganda.
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Can I just say that it’s perfectly logical/normal for single people to hate Valentine’s Day? Of course, it is. I’m not the biggest fan of the commercialism of Vday, but I don’t knock the intention of having a special day set aside to romance your loved one. The sad reality is most of us need that day as a reminder to refocus our attention, since we often get so caught up in everything else that consumes our lives that we unintentionally put our boo’s on the wayside. I thank God for Jesus everyday, but I don’t knock Christmas
(pagan history aside). I, personally, think my birth should be celebrated everyday, but I’m not canceling the festivities or getting bitter because people decide to only acknowledge it when November 14th rolls around. Just sayin.What I hate most about Valenti
mne’s day is the people who complain about it.lol Not just any complainer, but the one who makes the argument that lubby dubby things should be done all throughout the year and not confined to just this one day. True statement. The thing is, most people who say this, don’t do anything else throughout the year. Around the first week of February, every year, my step-dad stood on this high horse like he was the most spontaneous romantic and went on and on about how much he hates VDay, because he’s the type of person to show his love at any time. In reality, though, he hadn’t done anything since my mom’s birthday, and before that, their anniversary.If you give and perform random acts of thoughtfulness throughout the year and hate Valentine’s Day, fine. But if you’re just using this excuse because Valentine’s Day crept up on you and now you’re too lazy to do something or can’t think of what to do, stop fakin the funk.
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:14 am
Tell em why you mad son!!!
I really just hate the day cuz I think Cupid should have some draws on…got that baby flying around naked like that.
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Reecie Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:16 am
“What I hate most about Valentimne’s day is the people who complain about it.lol Not just any complainer, but the one who makes the argument that lubby dubby things should be done all throughout the year and not confined to just this one day.”
THIS. and it started really early on twitter–like last month. I’m over it, already. I know its gonna be a bunch of love haters on the internets that day. LOL
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I think I may be the only dude that doesnt hate Valentine’s Day. Provided I have a gf that I actually like (I do this year!!) I enjoy being creative and seeing her make faces when she sees dinner and opens the box i gave her. Then I get to enjoy seeing the faces she makes when I open the box that G_d gave her.
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:15 am
Cute, but I still *threwupinmymouthalittle*
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Peyso Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 11:00 am
i bet it taste good though lmao #thatsabsolutelydisgusting
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QueenT Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:56 am
Do you stay in relationships, typically, with women you don’t like?
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Peyso Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 11:00 am
Not typically but I have
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QueenT Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 12:19 pm
Yeah, I guess we all have if we’re being honest..lol
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This was a good read. I don’t hate Valentine’s Day–single or coupled. Maybe I did in the past, but I can’t really recall. LOL. probably high school when the boo I wanted spent the day with someone else. Yeah that was probably the last time. I’ve spent a few holiday alone and Christmas by far was the absolute worst. V-day isn’t even a real holiday. I am a fan of it while in a relationship, but its not like the biggest deal ever.
I do agree with you can’t really go out without being bombarded with couples and the expectation of it. I have a hair appt on Monday the 15th and I already know my stylist is gonna hit me with the ‘what did you do on Valentine’s Day’ crap. LOL
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I blogged about this today – I hate Valentine’s Day because to me it feels like a party I’m not invited to but have to hear about all the time. It’s the only day of the year I feel like I’m missing out on something by being single.
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I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY VALENTIMES DAY!! UBER pet peeve!!!
Great minds think alike Ms Jenkins. Check me on Wed
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BLaCk Bruce WaYnE Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:39 am
Dito….I hate that tooo..
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 10:56 am
dats cuz we is edumacated.
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Ya know I never gave too much thought to the day. I guess I always bought into the its over hyped and only women care about it, etc….besides I’ve never had a valentine.
But one year I was hanging around with a group of guy friends and they were talking about the things they had planned for their girlfriends and I got a little sad. Its one thing to hear ladies gush over the holiday, but hearing guys is another story. That’s the moment when I felt like I was missing out. Its nice to know someone has put in some effort, regardless of what day it is, to make you happy and show you how much they care.
I’m still waiting for that day to happen for me, but until then its just another day.
No hate, just wait. =)
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I used to hate V-Day because I have yet to meet Mr. Toni. Maybe one day. Now I just celebrate Single Awareness Day (yes SAD ) with my friends. V-Day isn’t so bad when you’re with people you love. Unfortunately this year I have to work so my V-Day will be spent taking a trip back in time to a Civil War battle (maybe, just maybe the South will win this time).
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i dislike valentine’s day for this reason here:
“Because it feels like a formality.”
i don’t like feeling like i HAVE to do something or i have to be somewhere. it’s just one of those holidays that i will never understand. yeah while in a relationship i’ll do what i have to do to keep the peace. *shrug*
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You know something is contrived when the only time you think about is @ that specific time. That’s the flaw in Vday. Yet I still remember my moms gettin Super Mario Bros 2 or when I got my first mountain bike, keep it real after this week no one ever brings Vday up. Also the NBA did move up the all star from the last Sun in Feb to nxt sun prolly for the olympics or just like the NFL, grammy’s and Oscar’s moving things into the meat of Feb which is a dead month. Last the wolfman flick comes out on the 12th so that valentines day film can kiss my a$$!
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I’m indifferent about Valentine’s. I like getting giftes, and whether single or attached, my parents always send us something. One year, they sent flowers, a little bear, and a card.
I’m one of those professional SBW who isn’t desperately seeking Shaun, Steve, or Shyheim, and I’m happy in my single status. Unfortunately, I have friends who die every year around this time b/c they are single. I refuse to speak to them on V-Day. To omuch negativity and whining about being single… le sigh.
But, I am pissed I don’t have a date to the Foreign Exchange concert Sunday. Lucky for me, I’ll just be getting back into town from watching my sis kick ass at the Myrtle Beach Marathon.
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Reecie Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 1:25 pm
I always get a gift from my parents too. If I was in NC I’d sooo be at that FE show too!
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I’ve never had a good Valentine’s Day (even when married), but I wouldn’t go so far to say I hate it. I’ll probably love it once I’m in a good relationship with someone who matters. Although, this post did just remind me that I made plans for a second date on Valentine’s Day with someone who seems waaaay more into me than I am into him. Looks like I have a week to find a way to reschedule that bad boy.
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Miss Jenkins Reply:
February 8th, 2010 at 1:50 pm
Yeah word. If anything, reschedule for a more low key day.
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I hate when people say ValentiMes day. Like seriously? I aslo think it’s overrated, but maybe that because I don’t have a ValentiMe this year…LOL.
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My pet peeve is that I know that Valentine’s Day is just an invented holiday to give retail stores a boost after Christmas and into the 2nd Quarter.
Nonetheless, I know women secretly love this holiday (yes, you do too). And if their boo doesn’t do something to celebrate it, the kitty cat would be on lock like it’s in an animal shelter.
It’s a burden of pleasure though. I know I have to, but dammit if I won’t do my best at it. Like the greats say, I don’t play because I have to – I play because I want to.
Have to say though, when I was really single on VDay – I detested that shit.
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“She breaks out the sexy nighty and doesn’t wear the headscarf to bed”
Classic. And sad, but true.
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My feelings for Valentine’s Day mirror my feeling for birthdays. I like being thoughtful and making the day fabulous for others, but could really care less what is done for me.
My boo has to work on V-Day so we’re celebrating the day after (which is also an anniversary and better anyway). I let my man take the reigns on our personal celebration cuz I really had no clue what to do. For the day of, I suggested goin to dinner with my girls cuz that’s our tradition that I love. I’m also making everyone cupcakes…why, cuz I love to bake and decorate! But if it weren’t for the opportunity to be cute, crafty and kitschy, I would likely have let my disdain for this formality…I mean “holiday” (smh)…take over by now.
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